Learn to lower your expectations of each other.

"Intimacy" said: "Expectation is the road to hell, because expectation will block the feelings of love such as acceptance and freedom."

In love battle, I saw a couple quarreling and quarreling in the program.

The host asked his wife, "Why do you want a divorce? Is it because he is not good to you or other reasons? "

The wife said, "In the past, when I was in love, I was on call. After I got married, I knew how to brush my mobile phone and didn't bother to look at me. "

Say that finish, the wife cried.

The husband retorted, "that's because you played innocent girl before marriage." After marriage, you complain about me every day. I am so bored! "

After the romantic stage before marriage, everyone gradually exposed their true self.

When we need a partner, we will picture an ideal partner in our hearts and print it in our minds.

Habits have high expectations for their partners. Once the results are not as expected, they will start endless competition.

My friend Su Xiaoling will complain about her husband when chatting with me, saying that he is not enterprising all day. When he got home, he lay in bed and played with his mobile phone. He doesn't want to make money by sideline, and he doesn't help with housework. He is simply a "waste".

Marriage is not as perfect as in film and television dramas. If you lower your expectations appropriately, you will be much less disappointed.

My friend Li Xiaofang and her husband Chen Xiaodong have been married for more than ten years, but they broke up.

My friends are very sorry. They have been married for more than ten years. How can you say that you are separated?

Chen Xiaodong is very gentle, has a stable job, and is also very kind to Li Xiaofang.

But Li Xiaofang was always dissatisfied with him. Her mantra is: "Why are you always inferior to others?"

At first, her boyfriend was very passive towards Nuo Nuo, saying that he would work hard and would not let her down. But after a long time, there are more and more quarrels.

Until one time, my husband left a sentence: "It seems that I can't meet your expectations in my life. Let's go our separate ways. "

Li Xiaofang regretted it and cried, "I just want him to improve. Is this wrong? "

If you expect too much from your lover, it is easy for you to magnify each other's shortcomings, ignore each other's efforts and hurt each other's feelings.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with lovers demanding progress, but high expectations will break up the relationship sooner or later.

If you want to maintain a good relationship, expect as little as possible.

It is human nature to expect people close to you, but unrealistic high expectations will only harm others and themselves, and the loss will outweigh the gain.

When you learn to lower your expectations, you will find that there are more smiles on your face, the other person is not so hateful, and the relationship between husband and wife will get better and better.

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Speak politely.

Someone said, "In marriage, it is the tongue that hurts more than the fist."

Because the physical injury can be healed, but the pain in my heart is always there.

Yang Xiaodong came home late at night and found his wife Xiao Fang waiting for him in the living room.

He called his wife's name, but found that she ignored him. When he couldn't help being angry, his wife ran up to him and said, "Oh, do you still know what day it is?"

Yang Xiaodong suddenly remembered that today was his wife Xiao Fang's birthday, so he said, "Oh, I was busy at work and forgot."

The wife is getting more and more angry: "I know I am busy every day, and my eyes are full of work." Is it important to me or to work? " What are you doing back here? Live in the unit! "

Yang Xiaodong quickly explained: "Isn't this to make money?" The wife added, "With the money you earn, you still can't pay off your mortgage, and you can't see anyone all day.". What's the point! "

Yang Xiaodong's anger also came up. The couple had a bitter quarrel. The wife angrily smashed her husband's computer, and the husband threw his wife's expensive skin care products on the ground.

Don't blame each other when couples encounter problems, and the final result will only be mutual loss.

Leaves will turn yellow, people will be afraid of cold, and most of their feelings will be lost.

Mr. Hu Shi once said: "The most abominable thing in the world is an angry face; The worst thing in the world is to show others your angry face. "

A partner is the only person in the world who has no blood relationship but has to accompany each other for the longest time.

But even the closest relationship will be exhausted. If you vent all the dissatisfaction and pressure that you can't vent outside on your partner, your relationship will be in jeopardy.

In this case, the best solution is actually to keep a pleasant countenance.

Be kind to your partner, don't embarrass each other, be considerate, so that you can live in harmony.

Life is trivial, parents are short, and couples have lived together for a long time, so their differences are inevitable.

Love is the best answer to resolving differences.

A couple quarreled, but every time the husband couldn't argue, he went out for a walk, then bought food and went home to cook. His wife thinks he is angry and funny.

Mr. Wang knows his wife, has no resistance to good food, and practices cooking hard.

So every time he quarrels, he cooks a big dinner, and after dinner, his anger disappears.

It doesn't matter if there are contradictions. If you are pleasant, you can make the other person happy. Contradictions can also be the lubricant of feelings.

Be kind, keep a good mood, give it to your lover and yourself.