Employment, savings, body shape, age... Not long ago, I was constantly dealing with these issues, making it difficult for all aspects of life to develop healthily.

I have a lot of ideas, want to do a lot of things, and expect immediate results, so whenever things don’t go as expected, I fall into a vicious cycle of anxiety.

Perhaps only those who have experienced it can understand the feeling of being at a loss and powerless when you feel uncomfortable but cannot find a solution.

In order to alleviate this painful feeling, I did nothing. After trying several methods, it finally worked at a certain point in time.

I rarely bother with the passage of time anymore, gradually learn to balance work life and interest development, and can already control my emotions freely.

While I was surprised at my rapid transformation, I also understood more and more that being alone was also an important skill.

However, anxiety will reoccur, and every time it occurs, it consumes a lot of energy. In order to quickly get rid of its troubles and get work and life on the right track, I have to find a set of small methods. After many alternate experiments, I found that it is indeed

It has some effect.

So today Carol shares these 20 ways to relieve anxiety with you, hoping that you can also find salvation from them.

1. Insist on getting up early. I used to be a night owl, often going to bed at one or two o'clock and not getting up until noon, but now I can slowly get up around 7:30.

When you get up early on time, you will find that the day is stretched out very long. You can eat breakfast unhurriedly, do work, answer emails, and be the controller of your life.

2. Reduce distraction. I have been insisting on quitting short videos, watching live broadcasts and watching dramas for a long time. Recently, I have started to try to stay away from the circle of friends.

Only by taking back the time that originally belongs to us from this invisible temptation can we improve efficiency.

When things are completed step by step according to plan, anxiety will naturally decrease.

3. Write down the goal of the day, write 500 words of reflection, run two kilometers, complete the tasks assigned by the leader, and do a set of Level 6 papers... When you have a clear direction for the day, you can restrain yourself.

Time is wasted on useless things.

4. Stop comparing. Some people have passed CET-4 or CET-6 without taking the exam. Some people have bought their first house right after graduation. Some people have got an exciting offer. Some people have started a family with the person they like. Some people are taller than you.

You are thinner, prettier than you, and more educated than you... But they are not you, and their lives have nothing to do with you.

Don't pay too much attention to others and focus more on yourself.

5. Read your favorite books. Words can reach places that your feet can’t reach; books have answers to things you don’t understand.

? 6. Be a long-termist. Don’t expect that reading a few pages will make you stand out, don’t expect that writing a few hundred words will improve your writing skills, and don’t expect that running two laps will help you lose weight.

The truly powerful people are all long-termists, and the ones favored by God must be the ones who follow the "10,000-hour rule".

7. Don’t follow the trend in consumption. Think carefully about whether you really need it before placing an order.

When you are hesitating whether to buy something, don’t buy it; when you are wondering whether to eat it, don’t eat it.

8. Get rid of interpersonal relationships. Understand yourself, know what you need and what kind of people you want to associate with, be brave enough to stay away from people who are full of negativity and have different views, leave your energy to worthy people, and use your time to achieve better things.

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9. Change the environment. Stand up and get out.

Go to the supermarket, go to the park, go hiking; feel the dusk, sunset and evening breeze; use the colorful world to fill the inner barrenness and black and white, and experience the purity and beauty in tranquility.

10. Cook delicious food. Fry the steak till it becomes fragrant, cut the carrots into the shapes you like, and arrange the pasta into exquisite dishes. Let the aroma of the food fill all the senses, and let the full of love cure all the unhappiness.

11. Organize diligently. Clean the house, organize the desk and wardrobe, organize favorites or photo albums, and categorize the good words and phrases accumulated in daily life.

Only when everything is in order can you feel comfortable.

12. Lower your expectations appropriately. There is no perfect person or thing in the world.

Lower your expectations of others, accept your own ordinaryness, and accept your imperfect partner, so that you will not be anxious because you or others cannot meet the requirements.

Accepting the truth often requires a lot of courage.

13. Chat with people you trust and learn to use the power of friends to help you get out of trouble.

Don't be afraid of trouble. Maybe a few words from someone else can make your doubts clear to you.

If there is no one to talk to, you can write down your emotions in a notebook to remind yourself that the moment you close the notebook, your bad mood will be discarded.