"There are no quiet years, but there are people carrying the burden for you" Su Xin

01

S, a college classmate, got married as soon as he graduated. She became pregnant shortly after the marriage. Originally, she wanted to wait until the child turned one year old to go out to work, but her health was so poor that she became ill when she gave birth to the child. Her husband is considerate of her and allows her to take care of the children at home without worrying about making money. He can support the family by himself.

From then on, S focused on being a full-time housewife at home and no longer considered going to work. A few years later, S gave birth to a second child and no longer wanted to work.

With both children in school, S has a lot of leisure time. She often posts photos in her circle of friends of food, travel, her handsome husband and two sons, and her spacious and bright home, which makes us hard-working office workers red-eyed with envy. I chatted with her occasionally and praised her husband for his ability, for being able to support four people by himself, and for living such a smooth life. S always showed disapproval: "As a man, you should earn money to support your family."

S, who was originally weak, has become plump and plump after so many years of recuperation, and looks much younger than his peers. She often posts some texts in her circle of friends, mostly with content such as "The years are quiet and the world is stable." Her name on WeChat is simply "The years are quiet and good". When I often work overtime until late at night and check Moments, I can't help but feel sad when I lower my head and see her profile picture

My classmates have different fates. How come the gap between people is so big?

02

Just after the Spring Festival, the company will hold a large business event, and I will be responsible for purchasing red wine. I remembered that S’s husband was a wine dealer, so I called her and asked for her husband’s mobile phone number.

The phone was connected, and S’s husband was very excited to hear my explanation of my purpose. He said that he had promoted the red wine he distributes to our boss last year, but the deal was not signed. This time he hoped that I could speak kindly in front of the boss to facilitate this big order.

We made an appointment and asked him to send a few samples for us to choose from. Of course, the final decision to sign the order was still up to the boss.

When S’s husband brought the red wine sample, the boss happened to be having a meeting in the city and asked us to take the red wine and go to a restaurant to eat together after the meeting.

Soon we arrived at the location where the boss was meeting. The boss said he would come out immediately and asked us to wait for him in the car for a while.

S’s husband refused to wait in the car. He said it was rude, so he stood by the car and waited. The weather in February in the north is not much different from winter, and the temperature is still very low. I was afraid of the cold and didn't want to get out of the car, so I sat in the car. In the freezing cold wind, S's husband stood outside in a straight suit. There was only a layer of car window glass between him and me, and I could see clearly with goosebumps on my face due to the cold. With a humble smile, he looked intently in the direction of the door of the conference hall.

After waiting for more than 20 minutes, our boss finally came out. S's husband rushed to greet me and shook hands, and I got out of the car. Our boss shook his hand and was a little surprised: "Why are your hands so cold? Aren't you waiting for me in the car?" S's husband kept saying, "It's okay, it's okay. The car is too stuffy, so it's time to get some fresh air."

Let’s go to a restaurant to eat and taste wine.

03

At the wine table, in order to show sincerity, S’s husband drank one glass after another, which made me terrified. I advised him to drink less. Drinking too much alcohol is not good for your health. He smiled, it was okay, he was used to it and drank like this often. My boss, who is nicely called "General", is actually a salesperson. How can I sell wine if I don't drink?

In the middle of the journey, S’s husband asked to go to the bathroom. I saw that his face was very ugly, so I chased him out. At the door of the bathroom, a pungent smell of alcohol rushed towards me. S's husband was bent over and vomiting in the sink, his expression in pain. When he saw me, he forced a smile and continued to vomit.

I silently retreated to the door to wait for him. Thinking of the happiness S showed, I couldn't help but smile bitterly.

She must not have known that her husband's work would be so hard. Behind the glamour, just like him standing in the cold wind waiting for clients in a thin spring coat, it was just support with clenched teeth.

04

When I was young, I never understood that my happy lifestyle came from the support of my parents. I was fascinated by Xi Murong's poems, a fan of Qiong Yao, and expressed my sorrow for new poems, but I never thought about the hard work and fatigue of my parents.

Before marriage, I didn’t even wash clothes at home, let alone wash dishes. After marriage, I ate and drank at my parents’ place all day long, wiping my mouth after eating and leaving. When young colleagues saw my hands, they all said with envy that my sister's hands, in her thirties, were as soft and white as a baby's. I was proud of myself and thought of myself as naturally beautiful.

I remember that day, my mother couldn’t take off the ring on her finger, so she asked me to help. Touching my mother's hand, it felt so rough and stiff, and my heart tightened. When I looked down, I saw that my fingertips were all cracked. The large cracks were covered with medical tape; the small cracks had their mouths open one by one, as if telling the story of years of hard work.

I am filled with guilt and emotion. My mother's rough hands have done so much for me, but I always thought it was natural.

05

All living beings suffer, and no one will be favored by fate. If your life is particularly easy and smooth, someone must be shouldering the weight for you.

The person who carries the burden for you is the person who loves you the most in the world. He or she is always afraid that you will be too tired, so he or she puts the most weight on his shoulders.

If a person treats you well, it is definitely a gift from fate, not a matter of course. Even if it's a couple, even if it's parents.

You have to learn to cherish that person.