Tomorrow, the 27th of the winter moon is my mother's birthday. This year, due to Covid-19's reasons, the whole family can't celebrate their mother's birthday, and there will be much less excitement. Our family has lived under one roof for five generations. From the mother's point of view, there are 8 or 9 people in each family, and the fifth generation will have four children. If we celebrate our mother's birthday together, can we not be busy?
I've long wanted to write an essay for my mother, but I'm usually busy with work and have poor literary talent, so I didn't start writing. Now catch up with the epidemic, the community is closed, and you can calm down. Then write a few paragraphs, even if it is your mother's birthday.
First, childhood
My mother's childhood is not like we thought, living in hot water, eating chaff and swallowing vegetables, and living like years. Because, although it was the old society at that time, business was allowed, and the mother's parents were doing business. Mother's father, my grandfather (grandfather) opened a meat room and sold beef; Mother's uncle (uncle) is blind, but he can calculate divination and earn money; Mother's third uncle runs a grocery store, and naturally he has to spend money. The most important thing is that none of them have children. Therefore, my mother became the darling of these families at that time. She is indispensable for eating and wearing.
Although grandfathers do business, they are not rich. Children can't afford to go to school, especially girls. Although my mother has never been to school, she is flexible and will settle accounts when she is a little older. I have always thought that people who can do business are smart people. Grandma is a hard-working and hardworking person, and she is particularly strict with her children, so although her mother is gentle, she is not spoiled. My mother grew up in such a family in her childhood.
Grandpa runs a butcher shop and sells beef. When selling beef, you have to kill cattle. At that time, most of the cattle slaughtered were farm cattle that could not do farm work. These cattle have worked hard all their lives, but in the end they were killed and eaten.
My mother once witnessed the scene of a farm cow being slaughtered: the farm cow to be slaughtered was taken out of the cowshed and put down with a big wooden barbell. The old cow seemed to know her fate of being killed. She knelt on her knees and Cleisthenes cried loudly. Tears came out of her big eyes, as if begging for mercy. But it was in vain … and then the old cow's life ended like this. Grandpa seemed to know his mother's mind and said, Nier, if it weren't for having enough to eat, who would do this business? No matter what business you do, don't open a meat room in the future.
the most amazing thing about mother is that her uncle is calculating divination. A blind man can't see anything. How can past lives know everything? And will also treat people, cure diseases that doctors can't cure? Blind grandpa smiled and said, Nell, this is all a fool, otherwise, don't believe anyone who gives us money.
My mother was kind when she saw these killings and deceptions, probably because my grandfathers spoke the truth and she understood.
Childhood is a carefree age, and childhood happiness is short-lived. This happiness was disrupted with the invasion of the Central Plains by Japanese devils. That year, my mother had stepped out of her childhood. The "March 2nd" mother of the Great Famine was a teenager. Hungry mothers are still fresh in my mind, and grandpa's business stopped in turbulent times. My teenage mother took on the labor of the family.
Second, get married
My mother was 17 years old when she got married. At that time, the Japanese had not surrendered, and it was the time when the dog was desperate. She could do anything by burning, killing and looting. When my mother got married, she was picked up by our Lao Wu in a sedan chair with a single roof in the "chaotic grave" in the southwest of the village to avoid the devils. The year my mother got married, the Japanese surrendered and the whole country celebrated. For our family, it is indeed a year to celebrate, because our family really started from this year. Although my brothers and sisters and I have not yet been born.
A mother marries her father, which belongs to the type of "suitable family". Although our "Lao Wu family" is a poor family, we also do business. My family's business is "fried fruit", and sure enough, grandpa found a husband-in-law who didn't kill anything for his mother. Mother's marriage to the Lao Wu family brought blessings to the whole family. Although I suffered a lot, I got a lot of children and grandchildren, which is another story.
"Fruit" is the predecessor of fried dough sticks now, but it looks different from fried dough sticks. Fried dough sticks are long sticks with two surfaces stacked together, and the fruit is round, also called "circle fruit". "Frying fruit" was also a secret craft in the past. It was learned from Dazhai Village, wei county by my grandfather's apprentice for three years. But the "fruit" fried by grandpa is not the same as others', it is a "heart" shape. The way to do this is: stack the two small pieces cut into rectangles, cut them in the middle with a small knife, and divide them into two halves connected at both ends. Then pick them up with both hands, and stretch them with your forefinger and ring finger into the cut gap, shaking and stretching them a little. Hold the right head with your right hand, and put it in a hot oil pan. At this time, the person who copied the "fruit" uses two pairs of long chopsticks. Noodles of the same size, the "fruit" fried in grandpa's hand, are big and tender, melt when imported, golden yellow, beautiful and delicious, and are excellent food.
Grandpa's fruit is as famous as the "Wang San" beef patties in Xiabao Temple Collection at that time. After my mother went through the door, my father followed my grandfather to the market, fried fruit and copied it. Mother has become the strong labor of the family, doing all kinds of work in the field and at home, such as washing and cooking, pushing the mill and pulling the mill.
actually, the whole Lao Wu family is also a big family. There are four grandfathers and brothers. My father is the eldest of his generation and the pillar of the family. My mother is the eldest sister-in-law in this big family, and she is a leading figure.
III. Parenting
Mother * * * gave birth to eight children, but her mother raised ten children. The extra two are my father's younger brother, my uncle. The uncle is the same age as the eldest brother, and the brother-in-law is the same age as the third brother. The children were all about the same age, and grandma was not in good health at that time, so uncles grew up eating their mothers' milk. Later, grandpa died, and grandma suffered from eye disease and her eyes were blind. So my two underage uncles were raised by my parents.
Although there are ten children, the mother remembers clearly what year each child was born, what his animal sign was and which Amanome he was. In those days, it was not easy, which showed that mother's memory was excellent.
The elder sister is the eldest of the siblings, and was born before liberation. I am the youngest in my family and was born in the late 196s. This span of more than 2 years is the era when the country went from post-war poverty to three years of serious difficulties and then to "ten years of turmoil". The hardships of the family can be imagined. But my parents dragged us all over, and none of them left behind, and they were in good health. It can be seen that the parents have suffered a lot.
In fact, it is not only hard work but also wisdom to make the elderly and children have enough to eat. Parents are such people. For example, children have no milk to eat, and millet is saved only for cooking rice juice for children to drink, while adults eat grass roots and bark; For example, if the food distributed collectively is not enough for a family, then no one will eat or eat less food. Converting good grain into low-grade dried sweet potatoes and stalks that can satisfy hunger can make a family full; For example, elm bark can be made into flour, which can be made into food when properly processed; The "silver-coated gold" made of white flour as dough and sorghum shell as stuffing can not only satisfy people's hunger, but also improve children's appetite, and so on. No matter how hard and poor we are, it is an honor that my father often talks about later.
it is important to be able to eat, but how to be a person is more important. Mother often tells us that we should be straight-minded and live up to our conscience. My father often told us that poor people have long aspirations, rich people have long consciences, and poor people can't be short. Father taught us to be honest and to "spit and smash a hole". These sermons have either become the guidelines for us to be human and do things, or become the driving force for us to strive for strength.
when it comes to character, we are all influenced by our parents. We are all people who would rather let others owe us than owe others. Including emotional debt.
The country has been eradicating illiteracy since liberation. I have a large family and little labor. Despite poverty, my parents let us go to school. The elder sister went to elementary school; Despite his junior high school education, eldest brother took an electromechanical class in the only provincial key middle school in Linxi, and made great achievements after graduation. The second and fourth brothers have attended high school; Three brothers and three uncles also graduated from junior high school; The youngest third sister didn't go to school at first, but it took more than three years to graduate from junior high school when the country was "literacy" after the Cultural Revolution. Uncle learned culture when he was a soldier in Fujian. Mother's greatest regret is that she didn't let her second sister go to school. As for me, I went to college because my parents had no financial burden in the later period.
Because of their education, these brothers and sisters did well in various industries. Although there were no officials or rich people, every family is now full of children and grandchildren.
Fourth, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
There are many sons, so there are naturally many daughters-in-law. When you are married, there are really more daughters-in-law.
eldest brother looks like his father, tall and white, dressed in a blue student uniform, and has long been taken by uncle Cui, who worked as an underground worker before the liberation of our village. Later, their only daughter became my eldest sister-in-law I remember that my eldest sister-in-law loved reading since she was a child, and she worked hard in the field.
Ersao's maiden name is Dong, and she is smart and beautiful. I have never been to school, but I have temperament. When I was a girl, I was the representative of advanced women in the village and attended meetings in the province.
Third Sister-in-law's maiden name is Chai, which is the surname of Chai County. Some of them are like the vigorous and vigorous character of Yangmen women, and some of them have a bad temper, so they are not desperate to do farm work.
Sisao and Sisao are classmates in high school. They are not tall, but they have big eyes. They are perfect for each other and hit it off. Sisao is the only daughter in the village who participated in the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea. Her surname is Li. Some people say that Uncle Li didn't cross the Yalu River. Let me say, it doesn't matter, as long as you have the courage to defend your country, it will be great.
My family's surname is Zhang, a native of Cangshang Village, Linqing, Shandong Province, with a high school education. When we got married, her parents were already dead, living with her brother and sister-in-law, kind-hearted, hard and pitiful. Fortunately, the birth of a pair of children, both doctors and masters, comforted her.
five daughters-in-law and five tempers, all in one big family, how can they get together? First, the mother can tolerate a big belly, and second, the mother-in-law should respect her daughter-in-law. Respect their personality, respect their opinions, but also know how to put out fires and properly handle the contradiction between sons and daughters-in-law. On one occasion, a pair of brothers and sisters-in-law quarreled, and the mother learned about it and went to persuade them, just in time for the sister-in-law to scold her brother's mother. The mother said, daughter-in-law, scold me. I'm here. Tell me if you have the spirit! Sister-in-law vented more than half of her anger. My father also cooperated well in dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Father's method is a word, respect. To the parents of daughter-in-law, that is, in-laws. Respect your in-laws as guests at all times and show your sincere respect. After the reform and opening up, my father resumed the business of "fried fruit". Whenever my in-laws came, "fried fruit" and "fried purse" were served plate by plate, and my in-laws kept smiling and saying; Grandpa Lao Wu is good, grandpa Lao Wu is good! Lao Wu is my grandfather's name for my nephew. My nephew's grandfather is my father. Stabilize the rear area, and there will be problems ahead? Of course, this is a joke.
The harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the foundation of family harmony and stability, and family harmony and talents flourish. Of course, the most important thing to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is mutual respect. What a mother does is to respect her daughter-in-law.
5. Good husbands
Other people have written about it, but if they don't write about it, their brothers-in-law feel indebted to them because they honor our parents as much as their own. Of course, they also have a preference for my little brother.
dajiefu, a senior high school student in the third year, is short and dark-faced, but he is very talented. After graduating from high school, he began to substitute classes in rural primary schools, and he became an instant hit everywhere. The "third year" really has strength!
DaJieFu's real fame in teaching is in XiGaoerzhuang village, which has junior high school and senior high school. After the resumption of the college entrance examination, Dajiefu went to this village middle school as the principal. Strangely enough, the enrollment rate of a humble rural middle school has soared, making students in neighboring counties come to school through the back door.
DaJieFu's pen and eloquence are excellent, which almost meets all the requirements for being a lawyer. Therefore, after the lawyer system was restored, he was recommended to be a lawyer by an expert. Dajiefu is really not simple. He is handy as a lawyer. In a few years, he has become a famous "iron mouth" in the legal profession and enjoys a good reputation in surrounding counties and cities.
The third brother-in-law was an excellent student when he was President Ren Zhongxue, and he was the "main flower five" of the PK enrollment rate of the elder brother-in-law and other schools. Third brother-in-law is not tall, and he is a wizard. After graduating from normal school, he first assembled his own TV, then assembled his own computer and studied finance. Three brother-in-law's two children are college students, and their intelligence is inherited from him.
My second brother-in-law is my parents' favorite son-in-law. He graduated from high school and was hired by Linxi Nitrogen Fertilizer Plant, the only large state-owned enterprise in the county. It belongs to contract workers who are not only paid by the state, but also have contracted land at home. The second brother-in-law is sincere and is the technical backbone of the factory director. The second brother-in-law loves to smile, and mother likes it best.
My eldest brother-in-law took me into the lawyer's office. My third brother-in-law contributed a lot of books to me when I was at school, and my second brother-in-law gave me some money to spend when I was at school.
VI. Business
Grandpa fried "fruit" for several years after liberation, and the craft was later passed on to his father. Later, when I was a "freshman and sophomore", my personal business was not allowed to be done. My grandfather, who had been doing business all his life, did not understand and died of depression.
after all, my father is a descendant of a business family, and his brain is active. Suggestions for the production team: opening a teahouse and a carriage shop near the Hanlin highway in front of the village not only facilitates passers-by, but also earns some income for the production team and is praised by the village cadres. Later, he "cut the main tail of capital" and stopped the business in the team. My father followed the "river digging" team as a chef. Because he has the skill of making pasta and can cook, everyone likes his meals. Father is really great!
My father's greatness is better reflected in our family. It is his hard work that not only makes us human beings (meaning to survive), but also makes us old men marry and get married. In those difficult times, it was not easy. Before the 198s, except for my eldest brother who got married and got married, no other men in my family were married, including two uncles.
If you want to marry a daughter-in-law, you must have a wedding room first. Where will you get the money to build a house? Just as the policy was relaxed, private business was allowed after the Third Plenary Session of the Eleventh Central Committee, so my father opened a three-room shop on the road in front of the village, picked up the business of frying fruit, and of course also did some department stores and groceries. Because of my father's skillful craftsmanship, my mother is hospitable and warm-hearted. Business is booming. During the decade from 198s to 199s, my parents built six farmhouses in their rural hometown and married six daughters-in-law. At this point, they have completed their arduous task. As the saying goes, there is a rake for holding money, and there is also a box for managing money. The mother is the "money box", and she is also the chief staff in the defense of her son's wife.
my father always said that business depends on the ability to eat. Don't take it if it's not your own, whether it's business or life.
I know, my father really had a chance to get rich, but he returned this "wealth" to others.
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