In this era when thinness is the beauty, many people talk about this sentence.

Take illegal diet pills, acupuncture weight loss, go on a diet or even go on a hunger strike ... Some people do not hesitate to harm their own lives to accomplish the great cause of losing weight.

As everyone knows, every time you lose weight crazily, it is a silent abuse of your body.

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Xiaoqian, a girl of 2 1 year-old, almost lost her life because of excessive dieting.

Height 1 m 67, after three years of "suicide" weight loss, her weight is only 50 kg.

For Xiaoqian, "obesity" was once a taboo word.

Since childhood, Xiaoqian's mother has strictly controlled her body shape.

After entering the university, the identity of an art candidate made her more sensitive to "fat" and unwilling to go out shopping with her roommate who was thinner than herself.

But at that time, 18-year-old Xiaoqian, weighing 1 10 kg, actually belonged to the normal thin type.

However, Xiaoqian will still be depressed for a long time because of the counselor's evaluation that "you have gained weight recently".

Xiaoqian, who has been troubled by obesity cognition for a long time, has embarked on the road of losing weight.

Initially, she dieted and lost weight through meal replacement powder, enzymes, nutritional powder, L-carnitine and other health-care foods that claimed to have the function of losing weight.

As she lost weight, her appetite became worse and worse.

She experienced three meals a day to one meal a day, and then she didn't want to eat, and the chocolate was just put down after smelling it.

Slowly, the emotions and symptoms of anorexia appeared on her.

She began to calculate the calorie intake according to the number of grains of rice, and then consumed calories by skipping rope, and finally she could not be satisfied until she vomited all the food.

This low-energy life, Xiaoqian persisted for three years. The effect of losing weight is amazing-a full 60 pounds.

But this 50-pound body is not beautiful at all, but teetering and on the verge of collapse.

Xiaoqian, who was too weak to walk, began to have congestion and ulceration.

Diagnosed by doctors, she suffered from anorexia nervosa, severe malnutrition and multiple organ dysfunction syndrome.

"After three years of low-energy diet, it is a miracle that she is still alive." The doctor said.

After admission, Xiaoqian still didn't let go of her obsession with thinness and once refused to eat.

The rash on the arm, the bruise on the back, and the big hole behind the ankle … these terrible symptoms make people feel distressed.

Due to long-term severe malnutrition, Xiaoqian's brain tissue degenerated and was very fragile. She fell down during hospitalization and experienced two cerebral hemorrhage.

Fortunately, she didn't become a vegetable because of brain injury, but underwent two brain operations. After sleeping for 40 days, she woke up and erased her memory of losing weight for three years. According to the doctor's speculation, the reason for Xiaoqian's "amnesia" may be due to memory impairment caused by brain trauma.

"I especially hope that my weight can rise to 120 Jin!"

After waking up, Xiaoqian fell in love with eating. For her, the crazy diet in the past three years is like a forgotten nightmare.

Dieting, hospitalization, cerebral hemorrhage, coma, awakening, at this point, Xiaoqian's weight loss journey finally ended.

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Like Xiaoqian, there are still many people who have fallen into the quagmire of crazy weight loss.

In a post called "vomiting-inducing bar", more than 42,000 people with eating disorders shared the secret of vomiting-inducing, the pleasure of losing weight and the despair of getting fat.

Xiao Hu is one of them.

After eating every time, she would hide in the toilet and press down the base of her tongue hard until the blood rushed to her head and the food in her stomach poured out of her throat.

The beginning of Xiao Hu's weight loss was a physical examination in the third year of high school.

"Height160cm, weight132kg".

All the students' eyes converged, and at that moment, she couldn't wait to find a crack in the ground.

So she began to exercise and go on a diet.

Three months later, after losing 20 pounds, the desire for carbohydrates overshadowed the determination to lose weight, and she began to overeat.

Guilt swept through, and Xiao Hu opened the valve to induce vomiting, which was out of control.

A little body change will make Xiao Hu feel that he will change back to the "big fat man" he used to be, and his mind is full of fat. Only after vomiting did she get some comfort in her heart.

Xiao Hu's physical condition is getting worse and worse, and anxiety and depression are gradually eroding her heart.

When physical and mental health is devastated, "suicide" weight loss may even kill people.

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), anorexia nervosa is characterized by self-starvation and excessive weight loss. About 90%-95% of anorexia patients are women; 5%-20% anorexia patients will die, which is one of the mental diseases with the highest mortality rate.

Both stars and ordinary people may be shrouded in the shadow of "suicide" weight loss.

Karen Carpenter, a famous singer, died of anorexia nervosa after dieting and taking laxatives for a long time in order to keep slim. Isabelle Caro, a French female model, suffered from anorexia for more than ten years and died at the age of 28.

This has nothing to do with weight and figure, money and fame, but only one thing-self-loathing.

And the overall social and cultural environment, it is aggravating the girl's self-loathing.

A short video on Youtube called Dear Fatty has attracted a lot of attention.

In this video, Nicole Arbour, a Canadian comedian, spits out the fat man in an extremely disgusting tone:

"Fat people are like bloated monsters."

"If you get any fatter, you will explode."

"Admit it, you are lazy and greedy. If you get so fat, you will go to the hospital sooner or later because of a heart attack. This is suicide."

Such fierce words quickly caused public controversy, and this short video was subsequently suspended by Youtube, and the broadcast volume has exceeded 21000000.

For the video being banned, Nicole Arbour said that she was trying to remind overweight people to stay healthy, although in an exaggerated way, and said that if someone felt offended, they should make up their minds to lose weight.

In daily life, "obesity humiliation" is not uncommon.

I don't know when, people associate "fat" with ugliness, laziness, lack of self-control and gloomy life, which inspires people's fear of fat and hatred and attack on themselves.

This simple and rude attribution has aggravated the anxiety of many girls.

As a result, some people fall into a vicious circle of overeating and crazy weight loss.

Once you step into the abyss, it's hard to turn back.

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"Actually, I feel very good myself, but whenever I want to stop, I brush my circle of friends and look at the comments below the beauty bloggers in Weibo, and I feel that everything is not good."

Xiaoyu, who suffers from excessive weight loss, always feels that there always seem to be countless pairs of eyes around her to look at her with censored eyes and countless pairs of mouths to comment on her in a critical tone.

Kelli Jean Drinkwater called this idea "fatphobia" in her TED talk "Enough with the fear of fat".

"We live in a culture where obese people are regarded as bad people-lazy, greedy, unhealthy, irresponsible and morally degenerate. We tend to think that thinness is a universal advantage-responsibility, success and control of our appetite, body and life. "

The pressure from public opinion and the exaggeration of mass media have finally led to many people's inferiority and anxiety about their figure.

In this harsh society, how should we deal with ourselves?

Lizzie Velasquez gave her answer-only by accepting yourself can you live beautifully, which is the best response to this critical society.

Because of Marfan's syndrome, she is all skin and bones, and one eye is blind.

Lizzie was once satirized as "the ugliest woman in the world", maliciously mocked by countless people, and accused of committing suicide immediately if she could do a good thing for the world.

However, she is still alive, happy and active, even standing on the TED stage, and all this stems from a sentence from her parents-"You do have a disease, but it can't define who you are".

Lizzie began to re-examine herself:

How about being blind in one eye? Can save money for a contact lens;

How about skinny? I can eat freely anytime, anywhere;

How about suffering from chronic diseases? What about being laughed at? I can still bring optimism and happiness to countless people and give people hope and confidence with my story.

Yes, no one can really define you, except yourself.

Of course, this is not to say that the pursuit of a good figure is a bad thing. Remolding yourself is also a manifestation of self-esteem, but only if you do it for your own health, happiness and aesthetics, rather than forcing yourself to become thinner based on public opinion.

Just like Kelli Jean Drinkwater? It is said that people should pay more attention to mental health, self-worth and feelings about their own bodies, which are important aspects of overall happiness as a healthy person.

The book "Change begins with accepting yourself" says:

"Learning to respect yourself is a long journey for a person, and those who already know how to respect themselves and live according to their own wishes deserve not only the respect of others, but also the applause and admiration of others. “

Accepting oneself is the premise of remolding oneself and an important opportunity to promote life change.

Compared with living in other people's comments, living confidently and beautifully is the best appearance of life.

Give the article a compliment, and I hope our society will be less picky about the body.