What is an "idyllic girl"?
They hold high the banner of women's rights and demand rights everywhere, but only say obligations. Essentially, they want nothing, but everything.
Their logic is generally like this: you talk to her about equality, and she talks to you about women's rights; You talk to her about women's rights, and she talks to you about responsibility; As soon as you say responsibility, she will immediately use the theory of "I am a woman, you have to let me go" to suppress you.
In short, they are always right and always stand at the commanding heights of morality.
In essence, it is the same as male chauvinism, and it is the oppression and exploitation of the other sex. For example, in a relationship between men and women, a "rural woman" will ask the other half to take care of her diet and daily life, but correspondingly, she will not give the other half the same care.
They yearn for the freedom of western women, but they can't see the responsibility of western women. While calling for equality between men and women, they advocated that men should make money to support their families.
"Rural women" are best at playing the banner of women's rights, but in fact they are just "pseudo-women's rights". True feminism is gender egalitarianism, which is a movement to solve sexual exploitation, discrimination and oppression and promote gender equality. The core of feminism is "equality", which dotes on her and makes her unprincipled.
In marriage, "rural women" only want to be vested interests, and don't want to actually pay anything. They want men's money, houses, cars, people and meticulous love. To put it bluntly, they are no different from women who get something for nothing.
But with what? Any man who marries a wife is not looking for a fairy to offer. Love really needs some unprincipled tolerance.
However, people have to dress and eat, and they are really alive. In this process, they will be wronged and tired, and need the full support and companionship of the other half, while the "rural girls" are stingy to give. What's the point of such existence?
A happy marriage is never the effort of one person, but the effort and management of two people. Only by knowing how to sympathize with each other's efforts can we see each other's needs, take each other to heart and get the nourishment of marriage.
Behind every social phenomenon, there must be simple or complex reasons. What are the reasons for the large number of rural women? Privately, one is the influence of social environment, the other is the failure of family education.
In today's convenient and efficient information circulation, everyone can understand the living conditions of the rich and the marketing of various successful inspirational theories, which stimulates people's desire to acquire wealth.
Everyone has this idea in his heart: since there is always someone who wants to have wealth, why can't that person be me?
From a psychological point of view, it is easy for human beings to "blindly follow the crowd." In this environment, opportunistic people are indispensable, and "rural women" is just one of them.
Secondly, it is the failure of family education. There are generally two kinds of "rural women": one is from a poor family, and the other is from an ordinary family but rich and educated.
Children and girls raised by poor parents will be instilled with ideas such as "when they grow up, they should earn money to be filial to their parents" and "when the economic conditions at home are poor, they should know how to be grateful".
So that they are very afraid of poverty and eager for wealth, but they can't produce so much wealth themselves, so they can only find someone who can be with them.
Girls from ordinary families brought up by wealth are accustomed to a relatively comfortable life because their parents have given them relatively good material conditions since childhood.
As adults, their parents are old, and they can no longer provide them with a good life, and they don't have much ability to create wealth. Being a "rural woman" is almost destiny takes a hand.
In fact, no one is stupid, especially those who have wealth. Their assets were also acquired through hard work and strategic planning. Why should I give you some?
As Zweig said, "the gift given by fate has long been secretly marked with a price." Those who meet your needs perfectly usually have a purpose.
An "idyllic girl" who doesn't even understand the basic laws of social existence will never be able to snatch the cake from the river and lake. Wake up! Hard work is the king of a better life.