Any girl who is being chased by someone is psychologically complex. She may be happy, but with a bit of trepidation, she has the ambivalence of wanting to reject and welcome this boy who is intruding into her peaceful life, and she doesn't mean it. Don't think she's testing you, she's actually struggling with herself and she's afraid of getting hurt.
Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her resentment, you don't take the initiative, she also doesn't take the initiative, and slowly fade down. If you start the confession was her refusal, that is also very normal ah. Don't be discouraged, who knows what is in the heart of this girl?
Maybe you'll be impressed if you confess twice more, a good girl with a good heart is very easy to move.
If you get a setback, you immediately leave, never answer the girl, protect yourself tightly, quietly licking wounds, in your pain at the same time, unaware that the girl may also be in the heart of regret, regret it! Maybe she will secretly cry, regret refused you, and then see your indifferent eyes, she is also very painful, but she will not say to you, definitely not request you to come back to chase her. Your excessive pride may hurt the girl's sensitive heart.
She will think that you don't sincerely like him, or else why would you just give up on her?
Some people say that it's really hard for guys to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social roles of men and women. From the biological and social point of view, women are always passive. If the other way around, let the men all pulse shyness, women become courageous, the world is a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful, moving ah ~ I always hear is a brave man overcame how many difficulties, and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are far fewer examples to the contrary.
Some guys, they are afraid of what others say about themselves stalker, fall into a bad reputation. But I think the boys pursuit of their favorite girls, a little frustrated still continue to this girl good, that people really like, very sincere, if not successful, but also not sorry, and nothing ah? Who let people like it? I hate it when people follow me around, and I hate it when people don't have any ideas and care too much about what others think of them, so I guess it's a good thing that they can't find a girlfriend.
It's a man's job to be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you pay hard, and once your heart impressed her, then you will get more and more long doubled love. Such examples abound around. Girls are very gentle and sweet to their boyfriends, in exchange for this sweet, the beginning of the hard work is nothing ah? And most of the good girls are quite devoted and dedicated to love.
So, it is recommended that some boys be brave, to pursue their favorite girls, do not be so timid, one is to let people think that you have no manhood, two is your own strange hard, but the most important thing is: the last you can not get anything. The most important thing is that you can't get anything out of it. You have to earn your own happiness, and don't expect others to give it to you!
Adding another sentence, I think a little bit of initiative is good, because your goal is your own sincere favorite, girls tend to be passive, passive can only choose to accept and reject, so I'd rather take the initiative, love my love, no regrets!
- Life is beautiful, happy in it, to learn to find!
One should give MM what kind of first impression (time: just started contact with MM)
1, I think the most critical, is to let MM see your motivation.
Men's greatest attraction is the success of the cause, young people do not work long enough to talk about "success", this time you have to let the MM feel that you are a person with a sense of progress.
Other nonsense, but this issue can not be ambiguous, you must tell MM, you are full of confidence in the future, you are not satisfied with the status quo, and you have a long-term plan, in short, your future is not a dream.
2, to appear confident and responsible
Don't be like a child, girls are lazy hope to find a dependence, you have to come up with their own confidence and responsibility.
It is better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.
3, don't be too serious, but not too casual
The serious place is serious, the time to flirt with flirting.
Girls like a little cynical men, so don't seem to care about anything in particular, that's too dull.
4, look mature
The man who is calm and unhurried has a fatal attraction to MM.
Second, how to start further contact with MM (time: the beginning of the chase stage)
1, this stage is the most critical can not be in a hurry, do not make things so clear, so that people can see at a glance that you are chasing people.
Think about it, the average person will not look at you at a glance, but will not look at a glance hate you, are the children of the old people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat Andy Lau or Kevin Costner), good sense is needed with the understanding of the increasing realization, so the key to the problem is that you have to get the opportunity to develop further.
Standing in the girl's point of view for others to think about: you are so direct rushed over to the object, the girl must have psychological pressure. This is if the contact after a while found that you do not like you, then it is not a trick you? So if you start to put out the posture of ambition, basically will be immediately smothered back.
2, to start with a low profile
First of all, the relationship should be positioned as a "friend", originally "ordinary friends", you want to become a "good friend", there is a "good friend". The taste can also ask each other to become a "confidante" or something, in short, never say "chase you".
Think about it, if you don't mention "chase" at all, then the girl will have no chance to "reject" you - you didn't chase her how to reject you!
This will reduce the psychological pressure on the girls and enable you to have a smooth relationship. Do not fantasize about knowing three days to agree to marry you, to fully interact, understand, feelings are not produced out of thin air.
3, do not be too impatient in the process of dating
To have tension and relaxation, do not pester people all day long, who is so to you, you will be tired. I have a good friend said to me, the key to chasing girls is the eight words - "cold and hot, want to catch the long way" (this is the crystallization of my classmates how many years of hard work).
You pester people all day long naturally do not feel good about you, you appropriate cold a day or two, the girl will remember the benefits of you in.
And don't come up with "non-marriage" aspirations, too much of a bad price, sometimes you can play a little trick.
4, to create the appropriate opportunity
The previous said, do not make things immediately become "you are chasing someone else", and you need to get close to the girl's opportunity, this time it depends on your creativity.
You can gather information and find a way to turn a wait-and-see into an encounter, or you can play it cool and find the best possible reason to invite someone to do something with you.
All in all, this is the most technical place, really can not find seniors to ask for advice.
5, cut the taboo cut the taboo: casually send people gifts is not polite
Some people chase girls eager, like to often buy things to send people, do not know that the most taboo to chase girls this.
As the saying goes, "you don't get paid for what you don't get", you send people things like this is to put pressure on them, and they will feel indebted to you, so they will find a way to give it back to you, and if they don't have a way to give it back to you, they will find a way to not socialize with you, so as not to always owe you favors.
If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well ask the girls to spend money together, such as looking for a good restaurant to eat, or looking for expensive places to play together or something, the girls can naturally see that you spend a lot of money, but the money is ultimately the two people together and spend it instead of turning it into something to take home.
Three, "girlfriend" in the end what?
1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise
You and the girl began to socialize, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends", and then to "very very good friends". The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on the right person, and then kiss her. She's already your girlfriend at this point, and whether or not she recognizes it, she's already thinking you're her boyfriend.
I know the most brilliant, until the bed have not asked "whether you are willing to do my girlfriend", and finally the girl was anxious: "How do you not beg me to do your girlfriend ah!
So, don't be in a hurry to break the windowpaper, the more hazy the situation is, the more favorable it is for you.
2. What is "confession"?
As I said earlier, confession is actually a formality, and the correct order should be: in fact, it has become your girlfriend, you can confess to others, and the water will flow. Many people do not understand this problem, always think that people first promised to do their girlfriend, and then how to how, I can only say that very very "simple", but also very very "stupid".
3. Is there a time when you have no choice but to express your feelings?
There are times, such as when there is a third party, or when your relationship with a girl is not mature, but the two of you may be apart for a while.
This time the confession is the conditions of immaturity confession, the risk is very great, similar to the game of Go when the situation is critical, the backward party forced to put out the "winners and losers", win, lose can only say that "bad luck are born". The first time I've ever seen this, I've seen it in my life.
4, "love" word do not easily export
Often see forums appear "bold confession", honestly I really think this is very immature a performance. The word "love" is a sacred word that means pursuit, commitment, and even a responsibility.
The man who just says "love" is irresponsible.
Four, civilized love, can not be forced
1, not every MM can chase the hand
Good girls will always have a lot of people to chase, it is not possible to try everyone's wish, there will always be losers. For example, even if you have studied hard to master the most super chase MM principle, you can't catch up with any of the TWINS.
Thinking about it from a different perspective, a small nanny in the countryside who didn't graduate from elementary school, even if she's good to you and earns 600 a month to buy you 700 gifts (overdraft), is willing to work for you as a cow, you won't be able to fall in love with her. If she is crying every day, you will definitely feel annoyed.
So love needs a material foundation, or at least a balance.
2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity
Don't ever get bored with people, give yourself a way out. I'm not sure if you're a man without a wife, but I'm a man without a wife. Some MM is really snobbish (a few), if you are not convinced, you can be angry, with the facts to prove that "she was blind", do not mislead people wrong.
Lastly, I'd like to add two points:
1) Don't be cynical in front of MM, cynicism sometimes means "you're a failure".
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