Many parents like to arrange their children's lives according to their own ideas. The child is in control, without a free master, and has little opportunity to exercise self-control. This strict one-on-one control is not conducive to the development of children's self-control. Not only does this easily trigger rebellion in the child, but once the child is completely free, he will become an "indulgent self." Children will show greater self-control in the things they do on their own. In some things, parents can give their children correct autonomy, allowing him to have a choice and free space to make a decision. For example, let the children decide when to write a job, and arrange their study and life reasonably, allowing the children to relax and play. In this state, when you are active, aware, and doing things, there is a high level of focus and efficiency. Parents can also help and remind children to develop the habit of planning, learn to look to the future, and enjoy control and freedom.