I have a distant relative whom I have only met once. Let’s call him H for now. H is over 50 years old and working in the United States. When he was young, he was very tall and handsome; in literary terms, he was like Yushu Linfeng, in popular terms, he was the popular fried chicken in the school at that time. It just so happened that he was admitted to a medical school in Shanghai where gender imbalance was serious. He also had a very approachable personality and became the president of the student union. So, you can imagine the reactions of the girls.

Every story has to have a heroine. Let’s call this heroine C. In terms of appearance, C can be regarded as H's counterpart among girls, maybe even stronger than H. H once described to someone the first time he met C. I can’t remember clearly. The general meaning is: in a large classroom with hundreds of people, a girl with long hair and no makeup, wearing a denim uniform, sat among many girls. Stand out, so special, so beautiful. This description made me fascinated as a child at the time. Don’t forget that this was China more than thirty years ago. If you are interested, you can look for old photos from more than thirty years ago to see what most people were wearing and what they looked like at that time.

So H took the initiative to chase girls for the first time. Fortunately, the aloof and arrogant C actually agreed to him, and the two began to date (the background music was probably the choking of a group of girls). C’s family is in Shanghai, so H even met C’s mother soon. C's mother was also a very unusual woman in that era. She was unusual in several ways: 1. Divorce. 2. *Competent. C’s mother was an engineer and had a fortune of tens of thousands in that poverty-stricken era; she also did a good job at housework when she returned home. 3. Passionate and warm. The third one I find especially difficult is that after a woman has gone through so many twists and turns and shouldered so many responsibilities, she can still maintain a warm and enthusiastic personality. H once said that C's mother was kinder to him than his own son; later, H was unwilling to tell his parents what he was worried about, and instead went to C's mother to talk to him.

But H and C had some problems before. It sounds like a small thing, but it makes H feel very frustrated. For example, C always has long hair shawl. H likes C's long hair, and sometimes wants C to put her hair up or tie it up to see what the effect will be. But C flatly refused. So H was very angry. The readers will probably laugh, what a big deal. Here is some background information: 1. C’s professional course scores have always been the first in his grade, which is much better than H’s. 2. H is very confident in his artistic talent. He studied oil painting before going to college, and even thought about entering the Academy of Fine Arts. But when he started dating C, he discovered that C could actually paint oil paintings. And their drawings are much better than his. So for H, it's not just a question of how to tie his hair, but also that C doesn't agree with his artistic sense.

Another thing that makes H uncomfortable is that C has some princess disease and does not do any housework at home. All housework is done by C's mother. C's mother explained to H: She was unable to give C a complete home when she was a child, so she was rather pampered towards her daughter. If C and H get married, C's mother is willing to help them with all the housework; and all the house deposits will belong to them.

If H was not handsome, not arrogant, and coveted C's beauty and family property, maybe the two of them would just live like this. But if that were the case, I wouldn't have a story to tell, right?

(2)

It will soon be time for the medical students’ internship. H went to a small hospital in the suburbs of Shanghai, and C was still in school. The internship is neither long nor short, about two to three months. Before leaving, H hoped that C would show some reluctance; however, C seemed to be fine. On the other hand, C's mother heard that H was going to do an internship around Shanghai, and she asked him how he was doing.

H set off on the road feeling a little depressed. Why is C so indifferent to parting (albeit short-lived)? Probably C is not dependent enough on himself. C is very good, good at studying, and has his own interests and hobbies. It's true that she doesn't know how to do housework, but C's family is local and her mother takes care of her. So H realized a somewhat cruel reality: his presence or absence did not have much impact on C. In the past, H admired C's independence and her excellence. But he never thought about how to maintain his relationship with this most independent and outstanding girl and how to make her need him once he became his lover. Thinking of this, H became depressed.

In that era before game consoles and the Internet, when men were depressed, there were probably only a few things that could divert their attention: studying, smoking, drinking, and chatting with girls. H chose the last option. He had no intention of having anything to do with these girls; it was just this feeling of popularity that made him temporarily forget about the depression caused by C, and he felt that he had become strong and chic again.

The internship has begun. The second female lead W makes her debut; no, she is not the second female lead at this time. Objectively speaking, she is just one of the many girls H knows. W is also a tall and beautiful girl. The way she is busy wearing a nurse uniform in the hospital is very attractive. Unlike C, who is aloof and arrogant, W gives people the impression that she came from a Shanghai alley, is worldly gentle and capable, and has a hint of maturity; this may be related to her family. W has four or five brothers and sisters, and she is the eldest. Although reluctant, W has taken on the responsibility of being a sister and sometimes even a mother since childhood. This made her accustomed to taking care of others and busy with the trivial matters of life.

W’s parents are used to W’s contribution and believe that this is what the eldest daughter should do. They even hope that W's marriage can also be helpful to this big family; for example, marrying Fatty Zhang, who comes from a well-off family across the street. W doesn't think so. She hopes that a prince charming will come to pick her up in a colorful cloud and take her away from this big family that burdens her; then she will do her best to take care of her small family. This is W’s highest ideal in life.

H looks a lot like that Prince Charming. He is knowledgeable, has a wide range of hobbies, is handsome, and is affable; although there are no colorful clouds under his feet. But he does have a girlfriend; and I heard she is very good. As the internship went by day by day, although H and W were getting closer and closer, they did not show any signs of further development. W didn't say anything, but he was getting more and more anxious in his heart. Finally, H left. W cried.

(3)

This time we turn back to C, whom everyone is very interested in.

After the internship, H returned to the previous campus. Naturally, she was overjoyed to reunite with C; but then C talked about what she had been doing recently: learning English and preparing for the TOEFL exam. And she mobilized H to take the sports meeting speech test with her. This sounds normal now; however, it was more than thirty years ago when C said this. At that time, the popularity of TOEFL was probably similar to that of LSAT today, maybe even lower. At that time, Principal Yu probably had not graduated from Peking University, let alone joined the vigorous private education industry. At that time, there were many more people selling roasted sweet potatoes on the street than selling pirated English CDs.

Moreover, in China at that time, college students were the true pride of heaven. Every unit was fighting for its head. H couldn't understand, why did C ignore the bright light that was at his fingertips and insist on competing with himself? And even if I pass the TOEFL, what will happen? Although C’s family is well off, she cannot afford her tuition and living expenses abroad. In other words, the only way for C to go abroad is to win the full prize. (I can’t help but add another sentence. In those days, there was no email for you to teach ceramics abroad. It would be good to find the accurate mailing address of foreign schools.) Even if you have excellent C grades, you can Winning the full prize, what about H? Has she ever thought about what to do with H who has above average grades?

H quickly concluded that this was a crazy move that was time-consuming, labor-intensive, and money-intensive with a low return rate. What's more, he is even more angry that C did not consider H's difficulties when planning all this. If H was fifty years old at this time and heard his wife making such childish suggestions, he would definitely educate her in a face-to-face manner, explain the seriousness of the matter, and let her realize how stupid, naive, and naive she is. Selfish and self-righteous. But H, who was in his early twenties, had ten thousand objections in his heart; but facing C in his prime, what slipped out of his mouth was a light but cold sentence: If you want to take the exam, just take it. I'm not going anyway.

It will take many years before H will understand that having the courage to express and being able to accurately express dissatisfaction with your partner is an important issue for couples to get along with each other. However, at that time, these frivolous words were the strongest objection and anger that young H could express.

It is a pity that C, who is also young, cannot understand this. What C saw was that H, who was usually gentle and gentle, so coldly and decisively rejected his beautiful plan for the future of the two of them; and he didn't even bother to give a reason.

From then on, the Cold War began.

In the early days of the Cold War, both of them hoped that the other would realize their mistakes and then one day appear in front of them with a smile on their face. But when the cold war lasted for nearly a month, both of them began to feel cold. H is even considering breaking up; although he doesn't want to take the initiative to say it.

W's sudden visit accelerated all this process.

(4)

Since H left, W stared at the phone every day. Although the bell rang sometimes, it was never from the person she was thinking of.

Disappointment is disappointment; one of W’s strengths is its ability to recognize the situation clearly. She clearly realized that a man like H, who had superior conditions and was good at getting along with women, had too many choices. Rather than hoping for a miracle, it’s better to strive for it yourself.

This gentle Xiaojiabiyu usually does not have much courage and does not have many dreams in life; but only in the pursuit of marital happiness, she has shown extraordinary courage.

W’s visit to H later became a hot topic for gossip among many girls in the medical school. Most girls think that W is cunning and scheming. But it is estimated that only W herself knows how nervous and uneasy she felt during the bumpy two hours on the way to medical school, and even felt as if she was about to go to the execution ground.

This nervousness reached its peak when W arrived at medical school. W’s education is only technical secondary school. And every student walking in this school has a more brilliant academic qualification than her. Thinking of the H she admired, who was not only elegant and handsome, but also the president of the student union of this school; this made W look at H with eyes filled with unconcealable admiration and love. And this kind of heartfelt admiration and love really moved H, who was having a cold war with C.

The two walked around the street for a long time, and finally W made up his mind and said to H: My family wants me and If you don't want me to talk to X, I'll reject him.

After saying this, W couldn't help but have red eyes. Not for anything else, but because as a girl, she needed to say such direct words, which really made her feel ashamed. But if you don’t say it, it’s really unthinkable.

When H was doing her internship, she heard from W about the person her family wanted to introduce to her. H sincerely feels that he is not worthy of W. Looking at W beside him who was about to cry, H's heart was filled with love and pity. W's tears, in H's opinion, are an unfortunate woman's emotion for her life experience, and also a request for help* from the man she trusts. How could an upright man let down a woman who trusted him so much? Besides, he also likes this woman very much. Thinking of this, H suddenly felt the urge to save and protect W. And this feeling was something he had never experienced from C or the women around him.

People around him, including C, did not know what kind of psychological changes H had experienced. What they heard and saw was a very bloody plot: a pretty nurse named W came to the school to see H. After that, H wrote a breakup letter to C. After that, W became H’s girlfriend. And H is not shy about his new relationship; on weekends, everyone can see H affectionately holding W's hand while walking around the campus.

It is not that H has not thought about the possible harm to C. But he still does it for several reasons. One is to appease W. This little girl got H, just like the lucky guy who won the jackpot, she was ecstatic at first, then worried, and finally worried about gains and losses. She wondered if all this was a dream; whether H would change his mind. In order to appease her insecurities, H decided to make their relationship public. Second, H consciously has a clear conscience. He was with W when his relationship with C broke down; and he gave up C, who was in good condition, and chose W who needed his help. Is there any Chen Shimei in the world who would give up the princess and choose a poor and humble woman? Third, C is very * and strong in his eyes; regardless of whether H is present or not, he can cope with everything. C's determination and indifference once fascinated H; but after becoming a lover, he became very angry. Perhaps subconsciously, H also hopes to take revenge on C for his indifference to him through this incident.

C, who is talented but emotionally slow, finally discovered that he is sometimes quite self-righteous. For example, when I thought that when I was having a little quarrel with a couple, what they were causing was actually a breakup.

What C also discovered is how powerful compassion is. Sympathy can allow a man to rob the rich and give to the poor in the emotional world with peace of mind; it can also allow a girl who has never met him to come to his door and scold H, just to settle the injustice.

But what C wants is not sympathy. What she wants is the respect of everyone (including her lover) that she can win through excellence and advancement, and the love and tolerance of her lover. The fact is, she did win everyone's respect, and lovers kept her at arm's length.

I once asked very gossiping about which girl is more beautiful, W or C. H's answer is definitely: C.

(5)

This is such an outstanding woman that makes people sigh. It is precisely because C is so good in all aspects that I am reluctant to describe C's reaction after being broken up. I would rather believe that the arrogant C calmly accepted the reality after suffering a brief blow, walked out of the haze, bless H and W gracefully, and then turned around gracefully.

But the fact is that C is a woman, not a god. This sudden change, like a mirror, turned C's fairy sister who never ate the fireworks of the mortal world back into an ordinary woman struggling with love and infatuation.

Since learning that H has a new girlfriend, C has experienced various emotions including shock, anger, sadness, and resentment. However, after experiencing all these negative emotions, C's thought was: she didn't want to break up with H. She wants to save it.

C wrote a long letter to H. The letter mentioned that if H doesn’t want to choose between her and W for the time being, C can accept H dating two women at the same time. (!!!) C also mobilized her mother, a kind woman who gets along with H like mother and son, to work with her to influence H.

But after making so much effort and concession, poor C hit a cold stone; this stone is H's self-esteem and desire to protect the weak. At this time, W seems to H to be the weak one who needs protection. H will not allow anything that may harm W. C's mother's persuasion failed to change H's mind; he was grateful to this kind woman who treated him like a son, but asking him to take back what he said and the decision he made would be equivalent to admitting that he is a fool with no ideas. . This is something H's self-esteem cannot accept.

Needless to say, C’s grievance and heartache. She didn't understand why H was so unfeeling towards her but so firm towards W. What C didn’t know was that what she lost to was not W, but H’s self-esteem. What C doesn’t know is that a smart woman should never let herself stand on the opposite side of a man’s self-esteem. Otherwise, don't blame him for accidentally hurting you with his anger to defend his self-esteem.

(6)

Even though he suffered such a heavy blow, C still went to class, studied by himself, and went home to eat as usual.

People around were surprised that C could be so calm. But only C herself knows that the reason why she looks so calm is actually that C doesn’t know how to vent; or in other words, C doesn’t know how to express her strong emotions/emotions without damaging her dignity. So the measure C took was: not to express. It made her feel safer.

But this kind of person who is actually at a loss for feelings is often interpreted by people around him as: free and easy, not caring, see-through, indifferent, etc. This is really a wonderful phenomenon.

But the more amazing phenomenon is that it is often these people who seem free and easy, carefree, see-through, and indifferent who are more likely to be abandoned by their lovers and more likely to suffer serious internal injuries. In literary terms, this is a group of people who are proud, temperamental, and know how to turn around gracefully at the right time. In layman's terms, this is a group of people who have capsized and fallen into the gutter, but they still have to work hard to put on the most beautiful poses and act like they just suddenly want to go for a swim. They are desperate for face.

C once put down her face when she wrote that letter to H. But when H rejected her request to get back together, C was already in the war preparation stage, and his super-sensitive self-esteem sounded a red alert.

Thus, in the eyes of everyone, an unprecedentedly powerful, confident and optimistic C was born.

Six months later, this unprecedentedly powerful C became the only two lucky people in Shanghai to receive a full scholarship from a top university in the United States. (I hesitated about this school name for a long time, for fear of human flesh, and finally decided not to give it. This school is one of the Ivy League schools; in short, it is just shocking! No other information will be disclosed in order to protect the privacy of the characters).

This revolutionary news reached H as C wished. H's reaction to this was very indifferent, oh, so awesome; congratulations to her.

But in his heart, H realized as never before that his relationship with C was really hopeless. It was at this time that H realized that although he was so determined towards C, he still had a faint hope for the two to get back together. But now, this tiny glimmer of hope has disappeared in the wind with the news that C is going abroad.

W felt more at ease when he heard the news that C was going abroad. But W also has her worries: H is about to graduate; he may meet new women and new temptations. Will H be willing to marry her?

(7)

If the story only ends at the moment when H chooses W and gives up C, I think my feelings for W may be average, or even a little bit. Disdainful; because I suspect she played a little trick when she confessed her love to H (as for why I think W may have played a trick, I will explain it in a later chapter).

But reality is not like a fairy tale after all. It can be forever fixed in the moment of happiness when the prince chooses Cinderella. Everyone in the real world has to face various hardships in the future; and many of the hardships can only be overcome by the person concerned. The protagonists of the story are no exception.

C went to the United States without waiting for the graduation ceremony. On the day C left, H didn't see her off. Since we broke up, why bother to make each other sad? H thought. Thus, there was a trace of regret that could not be concealed in C's eyes when he took one last look in front of the boarding gate.

H is not entirely without sadness. But he put all this sadness into the graduation reception and cried bitterly while hugging his dorm buddies. His youth, his campus romance, and his uninhibitedness will have to say goodbye from now on; or maybe, never see him again.

As expected by H, he was successfully assigned to a hospital in Shanghai after graduation. W is very happy and hopes that the two of them can get married soon. But H said that he wanted to wait until he got a job and saved some money. This is of course one reason; on the other hand, what H is unwilling to admit is that, like most men, he has a natural fear of entering marriage and taking on family responsibilities.

W agreed. W has an obvious advantage (this is of course an advantage in H's opinion), which is that he does not force himself on men. This is also the reason why H and W can live in peace for a long time. H considers himself a person who is very willing to give to his partner; but he doesn't like his partner asking him to do things he doesn't want to do. H had two girlfriends before C, but they broke up with each other in the end because they tried to reform him and asked him to do things he was unwilling to do at the time.

W agreed not to get married for the time being. But W also made another request, which was to visit both parents. From here we can see that another advantage of W children's shoes is that they can save the country through curves. H was not averse to this request; so soon, H went to visit W's parents.

H was mentally prepared for the poor conditions of W’s family. But even so, he was shocked by the poverty of the W family during the on-site visit. W has five younger brothers and sisters, and none of them are good-looking; they wear ill-fitting clothes and stare blankly at H, who is handsome and unrestrained in Mao suit.

After H came out of W’s house, he said to W: You are really the only golden phoenix flying out of your house.

W breathed a sigh of relief, H finally accepted her family background. However, this visit also served as a reminder to H. He proposed to W that if they get married in the future, W must separate her finances from her brothers and sisters at home. W readily agreed.

The next step is to visit H’s parents. W thought to herself that she was well-behaved and cute, had a stable job and was good at housework. Apart from her poor family background, she should be a suitable candidate for her daughter-in-law. But unexpectedly, H's parents didn't look down upon her well.

Parents in each family have different views on family and daughter-in-law. W understands this. But what she didn't expect was that the academic qualifications that H's parents put at the top of their daughter-in-law standards turned out to be the academic qualifications that W was least good at. H's parents are both university teachers and are very strict with their children's education. Especially H's father, who is an engineering teacher; what he usually hates the most are the girls in the class who only know how to dress up but can't understand math, physics and chemistry no matter how much he talks about them. And that's exactly how W gave him.

W is unlucky to have met a family that values ??academic qualifications; but W is also lucky because H is a man who likes to protect the weak. What's even more fortunate for W is that every time, she happens to be on the same side as H's self-esteem.

H is usually a very gentlemanly person and is unwilling to watch women being humiliated in public. Besides, this woman is still his girlfriend. At the same time, H was also very dissatisfied with his father's performance; or rather, he was always dissatisfied. What needs to be explained here is that the relationship between H and his father has not been very good since childhood. In H's eyes, the feeling his father gave him can be summed up in four words: simple and rough. And the father always wanted to impose his will on H, whether he liked it or not. When H was a child, his physical strength and financial resources were restricted by others, and he was unable to resist. Now that he has finally grown up and is working, H no longer wants to be a puppet.

Faced with his father’s strong opposition to W, H only said one sentence: I make the decision on my own marriage matters.

After saying this, H felt extremely happy.

W was naturally moved to death by H's move. To her, H's words were like a marriage oath.

But what W didn’t know was that when H said that, his main starting point was just to protect his dignity as a woman. In addition, there is another meaning that is a challenge to his father's authority for many years. But as for when to get married, or even to whom to marry, H himself didn't know very well.

So two years passed quickly, and H and W were still boyfriend and girlfriend.

(8)

W’s trick to make H make up his mind to propose marriage is actually very simple. W just told H that their work unit was going to allocate houses; but only married people were eligible to apply.

In all ages, a house is a big deal. Two years of work experience has made H more realistic; he knows the importance of a house.

H went back and thought about it carefully. He knew that he was not young; most of his friends of the same age were married and started businesses, and some had children. Speaking of which, W is also a suitable marriage partner: gentle, capable, down-to-earth, and likes to do housework. And the most important thing is that in W’s eyes, H is heaven; whatever H does is right. This made H feel very at ease. Going to work every day is tiring enough, but he doesn't want to have to face a woman who is always ready to criticize him after work.

Although, there is still a certain gap between W and H’s ideal partners. For example, if his education is not high and his family background is not good, his study and career will not be able to help him much; but no one is perfect. C is very good, isn't she? But she just left.

When you get married, you still need to find someone who is down-to-earth and takes care of the family. H thought so and made up his mind.

Unsurprisingly, the news that H was going to marry W was strongly opposed by the H family. H’s father told him: If you want to marry W, your family will not pay a penny.

H has had enough of his father's threats. If you don't want to give it, don't give it to me. Anyway, he and W both have jobs, and their work units will allocate houses.

So, H and W obtained their marriage certificate in the absence of H's parents. Both of them were very poor, so they didn't hold a banquet. When going to take wedding photos, W still asked others to borrow new clothes. But W was still filled with joy: this man was finally hers.

After the two got married, they temporarily rented a small and simple house. Although the house is simple, W cleans it every day and makes it very warm; even the worn-out tables and chairs have been covered with beautiful wallpaper by W. H always laughed at W, why did you make this house so nice? If you divide the new house into equal parts, it would be all in vain.

But one month, two months, half a year, or even a year passed, and the new house in W unit has not been allocated. H asked W and got only some vague answers.

H’s parents were very aggrieved every time they mentioned this incident. They said that W, a scheming woman, had kidnapped H with the lie of sharing a house.

This suddenly reminded me of what W told H a ??long time ago, about her family urging her and Fatty Zhang to get married as soon as possible. It was from then on that H made up his mind to take care of W. Is that true? In other words, even if it is true; is there really no room for resistance from W's arrangements for his family, and he can only rely on H to save him?

Over the years, these old events have become impossible to verify. I think the greater possibility is that in order to get H, W did play tricks on some things; but her feelings for H should be sincere.

Who dares to say that he is completely honest in love? Even C, who disdains scheming, has concealed some things from H. For example, she actually needs H as much as H needs her; otherwise she wouldn’t have worked so hard after the breakup. redeem.

But the starting points of these two women's lies are different: W is to lose dignity (to lie) in order to get love, and C is to lose love in order to maintain dignity. Like C, H is also a person who puts dignity before love; so from this point of view, W is more suitable for H.

In short, as the story develops to this point, W mainly appears as a beneficiary; and her biggest benefactor is H. But when H's own fate is also in a state of flux, what will happen to his relationship with W?

(9)

H’s career has not been developing smoothly in the past two years. It's not that his medical skills are not superb or his attitude towards patients is unfriendly; it's because of something that happened a few years ago. When H was in high school, he ran away from home for two or three years and went to the mountains and countryside to escape.

Well, it was not easy to wait until the great * resumed the college entrance examination, and then H went home and picked up his books. I originally thought that after I was admitted to X Medical College, the past things would be in the past. Unexpectedly, after H entered the new unit, he would be scolded everywhere because of his previous dirty deeds. Other people's applications for household registration, professional title, and house went smoothly, but when I got to H, everything became a problem. In this regard, H, who was arrogant and arrogant, could not do anything even if he was angry.

After confirming that there was no hope of room allocation in W's unit, H was resentful of W's deception and was very rude to W in his words. However, when H came home from get off work every day and saw the simple but cozy little home decorated by W, the sumptuous dishes on the table, and the beautiful wallpaper wrapped around the legs of the table and chairs, his heart was warmed again. Impressed. In any case, W is indeed taking care of this small family with all his heart; H thinks so, even if I don't have a house, I will marry her.

H turned to blame himself: It is so useless for a grown man to rely on his woman to take care of the house. However, under the domestic political situation at that time, it seemed that H would never see the light of day. Finally, H made up his mind to go abroad; once he went abroad, he would no longer be subject to the "stainful deeds" of the past.

In the two years after C left, going abroad became popular. But there are still very few people who can get the full prize. In college, H used to be a student who was serious about studying but not diligent, so his grades were only above average. It is really difficult to get a scholarship based on this score.

Mentioning C, this excellent woman is already married to an American. There are rumors that before getting married, C once said angrily that he would never find a Chinese man again in his life. The logic of this sentence is very interesting, but also very problematic; and it is unknown whether C said this sentence or whether it was made up by the girls to spread rumors. Medical school has always been a place where there are many girls and there is a lot of gossip.

When H heard the news of C’s marriage, he felt a little sad in his heart. But he soon calmed down. The past must be past; there are enough difficulties to deal with in reality, so how can he be in the mood to carry the sadness of the past?

As for going abroad, H decided to fight against the odds. This is not only a real economic issue, but also a man's dignity issue. Especially when H saw that his classmates who were far inferior to him were all doing well in the workplace, he decided to find a way to go abroad and make a name for himself no matter what.

From then on, H changed his previous lazy style and started working hard from dawn to dusk. He had to work during the day to support his family, so he had to use evenings and weekends to prepare for going abroad. If your grades in professional courses are not good, then find a way to publish papers to make up for it. If your English is not good, just try your best to memorize it. If you don’t have the opportunity to meet foreign teachers, then find time to volunteer at various international academic conferences. H used to be a person who liked a comfortable life, but he never thought that one day he would be so diligent. When he was most tired, H fell asleep at the dinner table. H himself was touched by his diligence.