I once read a post "Why do housewives always look in a bad mood". The housewife who posted the post was full of complaints, detailing the household chores that made her unhappy. From the pots and pans in the kitchen to the washing of clothes, she found the wool tickets and toilet paper in her husband's clothes pocket ... A woman in the comment area directly left a message: "If I were a man, I would definitely not want to live with you. The negative emotions are too great. No matter what I choose to do, I choose what I like. Where can I get so much nonsense?"
I thought about it, I will become a full-time housewife one day, and every woman will become a "housewife" sooner or later. After retirement. It will be a long time in my life. Will I "always look in a bad mood"?
Why should we "look in a bad mood"? Why do you feel mediocre? Why bother?
Before the possible "bad mood", I know that I must make some positive preparations. Ci writers lin xi wrote a book called "So you are unhappy". It seems that I didn't understand the title until I read the whole book. I understand that "Fei" means "have to" and "have to". It is not because you are a housewife that you are unhappy, but because you are unhappy and mediocre.
All along, my ideal career is "housewife". In fact, I prefer to write "housewife" as "cook", which means "cooking". My ideal life is "the man is the master outside and the woman is the master inside". Men earn money and take it home for women to spend, but they don't feel that women "have done nothing". My ideal society is to generally raise the salary level of men and let women return to their families, which is more conducive to social stability. ? (impossible, so it is ideal)
The first time I deliberately wrote "housewife" as "cook", I filled out a Resume when I was a student. I wrote down the names of my two aunts in the column of "social relations", and my aunt's occupation was filled in as "family cook". Because grandpa had studied in a private school and participated in the revolution in his early years, he was well educated and literate, which was very rare in an era when most of his generation were women with little feet. It is said that there was a gossip in the old family: "What's the use of Ding's two daughters going to school?" Don't you just take your children to do housework at home and be a housewife?
In the eyes of many people, "being a housewife with children at home" is not a job, and its value cannot be equal to that of so-called professionals working from nine to five. Now we know that this view is wrong. A columnist wrote about his wife: She called me to help in the kitchen and said, "Please come to my office ..." Isn't home the workplace and office of housewives?
I have said to my husband more than once: "If you earn enough money to support me (my mother and son), I will not go to work and cook at home every day, yes, that is, cooking." "Every time he responded to me, he said," How much is enough money? ！” I couldn't explain why I had enough money, so he said angrily, "I will support you!" "
Women are often inherently insecure. If I don't work, my sense of security will be lower, which is probably why I have been working. With the growth of age, it is very certain that one day he will return to his family and become a "housewife". If you don't prepare psychologically and even physically in advance, there will inevitably be a gap.
Teacher Wang once told me something that impressed me deeply. She has a female neighbor who is a housewife and a full-time wife. When she saw her one day when she sent her son to school, she complained, "I'm exhausted every day at home, and I don't think my cooking is delicious, so I will cook such a meal and stir-fry such a dish ..." Teacher Wang said, "You said that as a mother and a wife, since you have spent time cooking and stir-frying, why don't you pay more attention to making the meal more suitable for your family?" Why not do it happily? "
Anyone who reads my articles knows that I often write about Teacher Wang. Just like Chen Xiaoqing, the director of China on the Tip of the Tongue, mentioned Cai Lan's name at least seven or eight times in his book "Taste on Earth". It shows that Miss Wang is an "important person" in my life, and she always conveys a positive attitude towards life and a healthy lifestyle to people.
Teacher Wang is a teacher in a vocational college and works in a company. I have been to teacher Wang's warm and idyllic home, and I have enjoyed the sesame paste hot drink she ground on the spot in her kitchen. Influenced by her, many colleagues in the company bought ovens and learned from her to make moon cakes, bake Qifeng cakes and oatmeal cookies, including me. People who love life, even if they are housewives, must have a happy mood.
Apart from some big V's, WeChat official account and blogs that I pay attention to are mostly food. For example, Wen Yi Private Cuisine, Junzhi Baking, YY Food Space, Shuangjia Kitchen, etc., I appreciate the mother who is very popular on the Internet for breakfast every day for 365 days a year. She has to love life more carefully to achieve that level!
Therefore, I will also take the time to bake a batch of Mid-Autumn moon cakes and a plate of birthday cakes, learn to make a vinegar-vinegar sparerib according to the mobile APP, and ask Du Niang how to steam the egg custard for breakfast more smoothly and without bee holes ... Although I eat less now, sometimes I just do it. But when doing these housework, when a person is in the kitchen late at night, he is also full of joy.
Several girlfriends in the circle of friends are "housewives" who don't go to work in the eyes of others, ranging from twenties to forties and fifties. Some of them work in Wechat business, some work part-time, but they just move their offices to their homes, some are learning to paint, and some are writing columns to write books ... They read and write to educate their children to be filial to the elderly, showing a vibrant and steaming life, and they are not in a bad mood because they have "returned" to their families.
The sense of value is created by oneself. It is the greatest value and contribution to the family to clean up the house, take care of the children healthily and concentrate on themselves. Housewives should have such self-esteem and self-confidence.
My daughter has a classmate whose mother turned out to be an office worker. Because her husband travels frequently, she has to take care of her two children and go to school, so she has to quit her job. She rented a house near the school and set up a school house. On the one hand, she could take care of her children for lunch and rest, on the other hand, she helped other parents, and later she expanded into a remedial class. I also know a parent whose child has been successfully admitted to the university. She is also a housewife. She accompanied her son when he was a child, and she also accompanied him when he was waiting. When his son was admitted to the university, she joined the City Artists Association and held an art exhibition ... It was really "unintentional".
Who will think they are mediocre? Some people say that happiness is nothing more than ten words-"something to do, someone to love and something to look forward to." This is simply a portrayal of the happiness of housewives, right? There are so many things to do at home, even if the husband doesn't love you and the child still loves you, isn't your expectation for the future for your child?
"Mediocrity" really has nothing to do with not going to work, and "mediocrity" is not because of the so-called "housewife" status.
A happy person, a calm person, accepts every moment, every state and every identity of his life. Being a housewife is not mediocre, but being a housewife should be happy, happy and loving-in this way, your family can be happy with your happiness, your happiness and your love.
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