Ten articles of the marital quarrel convention:
1. Never quarrel in front of parents, relatives, neighbors and friends. Generally, you can't make noise in public places. When you really need to make noise, you should pay attention to saving face for the other party.
No matter who is right or wrong, as long as there is a quarrel, the man must coax the woman first and try to calm her down. Otherwise, once serious consequences are caused, the man will be entirely responsible.
Third, quarreling at home is not allowed to walk away. If you really want to go, you are not allowed to leave the community, you are not allowed to take your mobile phone, and you are not allowed to turn off your phone.
Quarrel is a matter between husband and wife and cannot involve a third party. Special attention should be paid to respecting each other's ancestors, parents and elders. If you are unhappy in a quarrel, you should not be rude to the other parents.
Five, the wrong party should take the initiative to apologize, and the innocent party should forgive the other party in the shortest time after the wrong party apologizes and compensates.
Six, when both sides are wrong, they should review each other. After recognizing the mistake and apologizing, the man offered to take the woman out for fun.
Seven, to vent, you are not allowed to smash things, you can only eat, and it is really itchy and can only smash pillows.
Eight, quarreling does not last overnight. When sleeping at night, the man must take the initiative to hug the woman. If the woman is angry and refuses in every way, the man can't give up. He must coax the woman to sleep and have a good dream.
Nine, massage each other once a week, because it is very hard for everyone to quarrel often. If the man's craft is not good, he can learn from the masseur Fu Xue.
X. When quarreling on the phone, the man is not allowed to hang up first. If he hangs up first by accident, he should call back immediately and apologize. If the woman hangs up first, the man must call the woman within 1 minute. If the phone is disconnected, he can call the mobile phone directly. In short, don't be discouraged, you must hang up and fight again and again. However, the woman should also give the man face, and the number of angry phone calls should not exceed three times.
The above ten articles shall be implemented as of the date of promulgation, and the final interpretation right belongs to the woman.
Extension and continuation
How to deal with the cold war between husband and wife?
1, both husband and wife should do more self-criticism.
There is a conflict between husband and wife, no matter who is right or wrong, you can't blame it at will, which will add fuel to the fire. Instead, we should do more self-criticism and find out our own mistakes, which will help ease the tense relationship.
2, one party mainly.
In marriage, never be strong. This will only lead to contradictions. It is also that you are a very strong person in life, but you should know that being strong in love is not good. Even if you are right, reason is on your side, but you don't need to be reasonable to live. If you love your spouse deeply, please be nice first.
3. The most important thing is to coax.
After their quarrel, they were angry for one night at most, and the next day they were still kind and happy. The quarrel between husband and wife is generally a temporary anger, so it should not be taken seriously. Husband and wife are equal and mutually beneficial. Don't be afraid of losing face, because you are facing your lover, you should be flexible, especially men, and you should know how to humor your wife.
4. Find the reason for the quarrel
After the quarrel between husband and wife, we must reflect on ourselves and see what the quarrel is about. If it is an avoidable reason, then avoid it. As the saying goes, if you are not good at summing up, you will somehow make up after this quarrel, so there is no denying that you will quarrel and have a cold war next time.
5. Don't insult each other at will during the Cold War.
To avoid emotional intensification during the Cold War, it is necessary to talk less, and it is best not to talk, so as not to hurt people. During this period, both of them are very sensitive, and it is easy to go wrong once the bad words are exchanged.
6. Lower expectations and seek common ground while reserving differences.
As the saying goes, the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment. Lower your expectations appropriately. When the living habits of both sides are quite different, you might as well listen to each other's ideas with an inclusive heart first. When thinking about solutions, consult with each other and let each other's living habits seek common ground while reserving differences, which is the best way to avoid falling into a fierce quarrel.
7. Do more self-criticism.
There is a cold war between husband and wife because of contradictions. No matter who is right or wrong, don't blame them at will, which will add fuel to the fire this time. After you calm down, start from yourself, think about your own mistakes and make more self-criticism, which will help ease the tense relationship.
In marriage, most quarrels between husband and wife are fruitless. It is impossible to be clear about who is right and who is wrong, and sometimes it is just a choice. Therefore, it is not terrible for couples to quarrel. The key is that both sides should understand some art of quarreling, so that the ties of love become tighter and tighter and can withstand any impact.
The ending methods of the cold war between husband and wife are: good words, good actions, atmosphere creation, help from parents or elders, and reconciliation from good friends.
1, good words
Either husband or wife can take the initiative to find a partner to apologize. No matter what causes the dispute, as long as it does not violate the marriage ethics, it can be mainly, and everything is based on the stability of marriage. Verbal courtesies need to combine your partner's personality and past experience, and speak out what the other person likes to hear, so as to ease the other person's emotions and find a breakthrough in communication.
2. Act well
Every couple has a unique mode of getting along with each other, and they are very familiar with their partners' preferences, which is very beneficial for "acting well". Either spouse can carefully prepare a gift for his partner to prove your love and reconciliation attitude. Of course, there are many ways to show kindness, not only by giving gifts, but also by taking the initiative to do housework, preparing meals, and so on.
3. Atmosphere creation
Whether it is words or actions, we are creating an atmosphere of communication. When the communicative atmosphere is not reached, both husband and wife need to make efforts through the above two methods. When you create an atmosphere of communication, the' cold war' between husband and wife has begun to resolve.
4. Help from parents or elders
It is a great event for parents to have conflicts between young couples, and parents don't want to see problems in their children's marriage. Parents know their children's character very well, and they can instruct their children in a targeted way, or they can euphemistically tell the way of marriage management; Parents should convince their children "with emotion and reason", so as to end the cold war between young couples and allow both sides to communicate and resolve conflicts.
5. Good friends mediate from it
Such as girlfriends, brothers, and children, can all become confidants and mediators of your husband and wife. Couples can talk to their best friends about their innermost feelings and relieve their emotions appropriately. If they can't save face, let them explain their feelings to their partners on your behalf. This method requires this friend to be reliable and enthusiastic, and never choose to confide in each other at will, let alone find someone with a poor reputation in the circle of friends, so as to avoid backfiring.
6, exchange ideas more.
When you have just finished quarreling, don't just get angry, or consider leaving home, thinking that you are out of sight and out of mind. Although you are angry now, you will be very unhappy when you come home again, because you have never made it clear between you, so when there is a contradiction between husband and wife, one party must initiate a topic with the other. Talk more about yourself and let the other person know when you care.
7. Tell a little joke to solve it
When there is a cold war between you, either of you can tell a humorous joke and make one of you laugh. Laughter is the best way to ease the cold war. As long as one of you laughs, things will be solved when you are looking for a reconciliation with him.