1. Gift words for women and hairpins, or ancient texts used to bless young women

Hairpin ceremony is a kind of ancient gift.

It is a coming-of-age ceremony for Han women. Commonly known as "Shangtou" and "Shangtou ceremony".

Hairpin, that is, hairpin. Since the Zhou Dynasty, it has been stipulated that aristocratic women should perform a hairpin ceremony after getting engaged (promising a marriage) and before getting married.

It is usually held at the age of fifteen. If you have been waiting to marry and have no one to marry, you can also hold the haircut ceremony at the age of twenty. To receive a hairpin is to change the hair style of childhood during the hairpin ceremony, tie the hair into a bun, then wrap the bun with a piece of black cloth, and then insert the hairpin into the bun.

The person who performs the hairpin ceremony is the female head of the family, and the invited female guest adds hairpin to the girl, indicating that the girl can get married when she reaches adulthood. After aristocratic women receive hairpins, they usually receive adult education in the palace or clan, where they are taught "women's virtues, women's appearance, women's skills, women's speech", etc. As a daughter-in-law, they must have the moral courtesy and female beauty to treat others and serve their aunts. This song is about labor and other skills.

In later generations, the mother of the girl gave the precepts and taught her etiquette, which was called "teaching tea". When a woman is fifteen years old, she is called "Ji Hairpin".

"Book of Rites. Weddings of Scholars": "When a woman is promised to marry, she will give her hairpin and give her a courtesy, and then call her by name." "Book of Rites. Nei Principles" "Women.

Ten years and five years "And the hairpin."

1. The age of the ceremony "Zhou Rites" and ancient customs are that the hairpin ceremony is around fifteen years old, and the latest is twenty years old. 2. The date of the ceremony is the third day of the third lunar month - Doll's Day (Shangsi Festival).

3. Issues to note: 1) Women should serve as guests, guests, sponsors, and other attendees of the ceremony. The place for saluting should be in the hall.

2) Adding hairpins: The ancient ritual for women to add hairpins is the same as for men to wear hair extensions. There are also three additions, two additions, etc. The crown and hairpins are placed on a plate, covered with a handkerchief, and held by a secretary.

The three top accessories for men are scarves, hats and futou, while women also have various hairpins and crowns. 4. Preparatory activities for the concise operation ritual of the Hairpin Ceremony 1. The day of the Hairpin Ceremony: determine the date.

2. Binbin and Jiebin: Determine the people attending the ceremony and invite them by invitation or various communication methods. For guests of honor, parents should come to invite them three days in advance (one day at the latest).

Participants: the person with the hairpin; the host - usually the parents of the person with the hairpin; the guest of honor - a virtuous and talented female elder; 1 person with a secretary - the person who serves the person with the hairpin; 1 praiser Person - assists the guest of honor in performing the ceremony, usually a friend or sister of the hairdresser; there are a number of spectators. 3. Utensils and furnishings: venue, uniforms, ritual utensils, music, etc.

Venue: In ancient times, hairpin ceremony was performed in the "family temple", and facilities needed to be built to the east of the main hall, called the "East Room". Clothing system 1) Caiyi: Caiyi is the children's clothes worn before saluting.

According to Guanli information: the style is short coat and trousers, with black cloth as the clothes and vermilion brocade. 2) The first addition: hairpins and ruppa, and a plain underskirt, which looks like a middle coat.

There is no decoration on the edge of the clothes, and the belt is made of ordinary fine cloth. 3) Add: hairpins and deep robes with curved trains.

4) Three plus: hairpin crown. Formal long-sleeved gown with long skirt and top.

Peer ribbons and other accessories. Placement of clothes: fold them in order, with collars facing east, and place them on the mat in order from north to south, with the mat placed on the east side of the venue; hair accessories to be added will be held on a plate by Yusi and placed on the west side of the venue. , facing south, arranged from east to west, in order: hairpin, hairpin, hairpin.

Explanation: Clothes with haircuts added three times have different meanings, symbolizing the growth process of girls - the pure color of the clothes symbolizes the innocence of girls; the light and elegant undershirt The skirt symbolizes the innocence of a cardamom girl; the dignified dark coat (especially the one with a curved train) is recognized as the most beautiful dress that embodies the beauty of Han women, symbolizing the beauty of a young girl; and finally, the grand long-sleeved dress reflects It reflects the aesthetic orientation of Han women - graceful, elegant and beautiful. Ritual utensils: ① 1 cup of sweet wine ② 1 meal ③ One small table ④ 3 mats: 1 is placed on the east side of the venue to place the three sets of clothing to be worn.

The other two are placed side by side on the west side of the center of the venue, with seat cushions (used for kneeling). ⑤ 1 washroom ⑥ Incense burner, ⑦ 1 wall chart ⑧ Several seat cushions for spectators.

Music and ritual are the order of heaven and earth; music is the harmony of heaven and earth. Chinese ritual and music civilization is a whole, and ritual and music are inseparable.

Hairpin Ceremony Procedure 1) Welcome: The host stands on the east steps and waits for the guests; the host stands under the west steps with a tray; the guests wait outside the venue; the hairdresser (after bathing), changes After picking up clothes and shoes, we sat in the east room (changing room) and waited; the music started. 2) Get in place: There is a strict order.

When the guest of honor arrives, the parents come forward to greet them, bow to each other formally and then enter the room. The guest of honor sits in the guest of honor seat; the guests sit in the viewing seat; the host does not enter until all the guests have sat down. Take a seat in the host's seat. 3) Opening Ceremony: The host (father) stands up and gives a brief speech.

4) The person with the hairpin takes his place: The person who likes the ceremony comes out first, washes his hands, and takes his place on the west steps; the person with the hairpin comes out to the venue, faces south, and bows to the guests watching the ceremony. Then he sat upright (that is, kneeling down) on the hairpin chair, facing west.

The person who likes combs his hair and then puts the comb to the south of the mat. 5) Bin wash: It means that guests wash their hands in preparation.

The guest of honor got up first, and the host then got up to accompany him.

The guests of honor washed and dried their hands at the foot of the east steps.

After bowing to each other, the guest of honor and the host returned to their respective seats. 6) At the beginning of the ceremony: The person with the hairpin turned to the east and sat upright; a minister presented the Lopa and the hairpin, and the guest walked up to the person with the hairpin; he loudly recited a congratulation saying: "On the auspicious day of the month, I will start adding yuan clothes."

Abandon your young ambitions, follow them and become virtuous. Longevity test is only for Qi, introduce you to Jingfu."

Then he knelt down (kneeling on the mat) to comb the hair of the hairdresser, and then stood up and returned. to the original position. The person who praises the haircut gets it straightened symbolically.

The person with the hairpin stands up, and the guests bow to the person with the hairpin and congratulate him. When the hairdresser returned to the east room, the admirer took the clothes from Yousi and went into the room to change into a plain skirt that matched the one on his head.

7) Bowing: After leaving the room, the hairdresser puts on the skirt and shows it to the guests. Then face your parents and perform formal prayers.

This is the first time to pray. This time it is to express my gratitude to my parents for their upbringing.

8) Two additions: The person with the hairpin sits upright facing east; the guest of honor washes his hands again, and then resets; a minister offers a hairpin, the guest of honor takes it, and walks in front of the person with the hairpin; he chants a congratulatory message loudly: : "The auspicious month is the day when you are in charge of your clothes. You respect your majesty and are virtuous.

The eyebrows will live for thousands of years and will be blessed forever." Those who praise hairpins should get hairpins.

The guest of honor knelt down, put hairpins on the hairpins of the host, and then got up and reset themselves. Those who like it help those who have hairpins, symbolically getting their hairpins straightened.

The guest bows to the person with the hairpin. The person with the hairpin returned to the east room, and the person who praised the hairdresser took out the clothes to help, and went to the room to change into the dark clothes with curvature that matched the hairpin on the head.

9) Second prayer: The hairdresser wears dark clothes and comes out to show to the guests. Then face the guest of honor and perform formal salutations.

This is the second prayer. This time it is to show respect for teachers and seniors.

10) Three additions: The person with the hairpin sits upright facing east; the guest of honor washes his hands again and returns to his original position; a minister offers a hairpin, and the guest of honor takes it and walks to the hairpin. 2. What are the poems about "women and hairpins"

"Mi Xian Yin·Only passed the hairpin year" Song Dynasty: Liu Yong had just passed the hairpin year, and first tied up the hairpin, so he started to learn singing and dancing.

At the banquet, the princes and grandsons made their promises to each other. If you think it's just a matter of time, if you smile, you'll lose a lot of money.

I am often afraid that my time will be wasted because I will exchange my flowers easily. I have been favored by you, and I mainly like flowers.

Thousands of miles to Danxiao, why not go back together hand in hand. Forever giving up, companion of fireworks.

Don’t teach people to see my concubine, it will be morning and evening. "Fighting Hundreds of Flowers·Manchui's palace waist is slender" Song Dynasty: Liu Yong Manchui's palace waist is slender, and he is only about 10 years old.

Having just been aroused by the romance, the couple wears double buns. When you first learn to apply strict makeup, you will feel as if you are slimming your body, timid and shy about your emotions.

What a charming move. If you have a nagging mind, you will not pity your good son-in-law first.

It’s late at night, so if you don’t want to, you will get into the quilt. With Xie Luoshang, Yingying stood up with a silver hairpin on his back, but he said that you should go to bed first.

"Qing Xing" Qing Dynasty: Yuan Mei It is difficult to write about the origin of hobbies, but you will feel at ease after you change a poem a thousand times. Grandma still looks like a girl with her first hairdo, and you can’t even look at her hair until it’s combed.

"Sudden Mountain Stream" Song Dynasty: Zhou Zizhi, with moon eyebrows and star eyes, is a true fairy couple in Langyuan. When I was young, I was always sad about singing and dancing at banquets.

The misty trees in the water pavilion, spring has gone without a trace, Taoyuan Road. Know where.

The past is like catkins in the wind. Now when I hear the Tao, I mistakenly cut the fragrant cloud strands, tied the small black gauze leisurely, and even more unintentionally, shallowly evenly and deeply.

The three-mountain road is gone, and it is not the human world after all. Who knows? Flute girl.

***Drive Qingluan. "Looking at the Newlyweds" Tang Dynasty: Zheng Shiyi The first hairpin dreams of peaches and plums, and the new makeup should be filled with plum blossoms.

Doubts disappear with morning clouds and come with dusk rain. The miscellaneous attire contains the sound of wind, and the clusters of flowers are blooming through the partitions.

What's the use of Chang'e returning to this evening? 3. Poems about women and their hairpins

The appearance of Ban Ji continuing history, the attitude of Xie Ting chanting the snow. There is Wushan in Badong, with the graceful face of a goddess. The eyebrows are spread across the far side, and the green temples are thickly dyed with spring smoke. . The shadow of the clear makeup is on the singing fan, the fragrance of the clothes is scattered on the dancing wind, the beads are wiped on the robe, and the gold and green cup is passed on the plain hand. The willows next to the door curl up weakly, just like the flowers on the waist of a fifteenth daughter left to the ground and no one will take them. This is true The edge of the ornament is always filled with a golden smile, the long hanging jade cries, turns around and moves, just like the willow flower's smile moistening the early beauty of the sutra, the beads do not move and the eyebrows are condensed, the lead is gone, the innocent girl in the building is playing the yaose, sitting and sighing before the song is finished. Beauty talents can attract people's trust, but it is not because of this. The beautiful lady with bony eyebrows has filled the house with flowers. For the past three years, it has been heard that her fragrant eyebrows compete with willows for green, and her face with peaches competes for red. This beauty has filled the house with flowers for three consecutive years. The fragrant fingers are like peeling onion roots, the mouth is like holding vermillion pills, and the delicate steps are exquisite and unparalleled in the world.