I was just immersed in the milk sound of a child (that milk sound is really nice and so cute), and I was not calm at once ...
! Why do you lie to children like this? Why can't we just tell him why we wear masks when we travel? Why can't you tell him what the function of urban management is?
Yes, he may not understand, but there is really no need to make such a chaotic arrangement.
Many parents think that their children are too young to express their ideas and can't understand the rules and principles spoken by adults. Why bother? Just make yourself comfortable.
Actually, it is not. It's not that children can't express themselves, nor can they hear the so-called "truth" of our adults. Its key lies in-can you listen to your child attentively? Have you ever patiently observed children? Can you correctly evaluate the ability of this object to communicate with yourself? Have you ever stood in the child's perspective to help him understand things?
A 4-year-old child can communicate completely, just need a little patience and a little method.
A while ago, my friend Xiaomi was very upset and said to me, "My 4-year-old son is a poor family who washes his face and brushes his teeth and dresses in the morning. I have been playing in bed while dressing, and I can't get up. Washing your face, brushing your teeth and washing your feet is like fighting every time. " "I can't put it off." I really don't know what to do.
My advice to her is to let her find a chance to talk to her children and find out what they really think. I also shared with her a family meeting we "held" because my son didn't want to take a nap at school in the middle class of kindergarten.
Xiaomi is a mother who is particularly willing to pay attention to her children. She prepared rich snacks and snacks and took her children to the roof of her house. The mother and son held a small but warm "cold dinner party".
Xiaomi and his son are watching the blue sky on the roof, eating snacks and chatting slowly.
After both of them entered a happy and relaxed state, she frankly told her son that she was a little angry because of the daily dressing and washing (when we face the children seriously and honestly, the children can feel it). My son is talking to his mother while eating snacks happily.
Little by little, Xiaomi finally learned from his son why he didn't want to dress and wash, and also discussed the solution with his son.
The whole process is long and the pace is slow. But it is also a wonderful time for parents and children to enjoy.
The children on the bus, I guess, resisted because they held their breath and were uncomfortable wearing masks. Adults will casually make up such a reason for children to "submit". Just like when we were young, we were often warned by the elderly: cry again! Cry again, bear. The blind man is coming to eat you!
The older generation likes to use intimidation and threats to "manage" their children. But do we raise children to "manage" them? Not really!
A child is an independent person, and learning, growing and thinking is an inevitable process of his life. He needs to get to know the real world in which we live.
In the adult world, there are many truths and rules. If you tell them directly in the way of adult communication, they really can't understand them. In addition to using children's language and ways of getting along with each other to communicate with children, telling them through fairy tales will also have a good effect:
"In the distant ocean, there is a small island. Many happy people live on the island. People on the island are kind, kind and hospitable. They welcome everyone who has settled on the island. Later, there were more and more people on the island, and gradually, everyone's life was a little messed up ... "
This is the beginning of a fairy tale. If we continue to talk about it, we can help the children on the bus understand the function of urban management. Later, we can also tell our children why we must wear masks when we travel.
Through such a short story (not too complicated), you can tell the complicated truth to the children simply.
So, children aged 4 or 5 can communicate. They can tell us what he thinks, and we can also reason with them. All we need is a little love, a little patience and a little method.