Shakespeare said in "Everyone is Happy": "Beauty is more likely to cause evil intentions than gold and silver."

I am deeply impressed.

I take the same road and take my dog to the park at almost the same time every day. Some men took the opportunity of teasing dogs to inquire about my occupation at first, and then found various opportunities to chat with me and add my WeChat. I am not a beautiful woman, but I know very well that if I am an old and ugly woman, men will not be interested at all.

this incident inspired me, so I put forward this proposition: women should have five kinds of people.

for the convenience of memory, I use "gold, wood, water, fire and earth" to represent these five kinds of people, and explain them one by one.

Earth: simple and unpretentious, self-protection

In p>214, I was a woman, riding alone for thousands of miles, and came on a trip to Tibet.

At that time, I had already resigned, and a firm thought jumped out of my mind: I would go to Tibet. So I immediately bought a sleeper from Guangzhou-Lhasa, packed my things and set off.

At that time, everyone thought I was crazy and worried about me. What about altitude sickness if you go alone? What should I do if I meet the bad guys? What about sudden accidents?

in fact, nothing happened.

I didn't do any raiders. I stayed there for more than a month, let nature take its course, stopped and went, had a good time, and made some brave friends, which gained a lot.

They all go out to play alone. Why do some people have an accident, while others don't cause trouble wherever they go? There is only one principle: flies will never bite eggs without gaps.

when I go out, I have a principle: simplicity, simplicity and safety first.

dress as usual as possible. It's best to walk on the road like a passerby, and no one will notice you.

Most women are the opposite. When they go out to play, they always dress themselves up and wish everyone would look back at her.

actually, this is the greatest beauty and the greatest crisis.

Girls who often travel in Lijiang, Dali, Southeast Asia ... are exposed to clothes that make men's eyes simply unable to move. If you are with a group of friends you know, that's fine; If you are alone, it is easy to attract a pervert for yourself.

if you think that strange men come to court because they are attractive, you are wrong. Faced with the temptation of beauty, most men can't hold it. The other person can't remember your name at all, but he can remember your chest, beautiful back and long legs.

Some women go hiking in the wild and wear miniskirts, shorts and high heels, which is really hard for me to understand.

I'm not afraid of getting naked, being seen by people below, and being bitten by mosquitoes. I don't know whether these women want to show their beauty or their stupidity.

I came back from Tibet, and after more than a month, my tanned skin slowly recovered and I returned to my usual fashion. The little friend I met in Tibet suddenly brightened up: "Wow! It will be beautiful when you return to the big city! You were so rustic when you were in Lhasa. "

this is my strategy, the strategy of self-protection.

During my trip, I saw strange men who always pay attention to fashionable and beautiful girls and take the initiative to strike up a conversation. That's an instinctive reaction.

if your appearance is simple and men are still attracted to you, that's your true charm. When a man makes friends with you not because of "visual impulse", he is a relatively reliable friend.

Jin: Shine, release yourself

The above-mentioned person is "earth" and protects himself; Now it is said that an opposite person sets "gold" and releases himself.

three parts for appearance and seven parts for makeup.

a woman is not beautiful enough, which can be supplemented by makeup, clothing and showing her advantages.

I have a friend with a good figure who performed a sexy belly dance at the company's annual meeting and surprised the audience.

on the stage, she sparkled and was charming. Although the clothes are exposed, everyone appreciates them and doesn't feel too much. This is the courage to release their charm.

in contrast, some women want to show it, but they dare not.

I remember once, we went to the prairie to play, lit a bonfire at night, and everyone gathered around to dance. Some women really want to dance, but they are afraid that they can't dance well, so they can only stand by and watch, which is very disappointing.

What's the charm of this woman when she doesn't even show her courage?

water: supple as water, moistening things silently

pretending to be gentle is different from real gentleness. After a long time, it will show its true colors.

One night, I saw a mother stop at the roadside, loudly scolding her son who was under 1 years old. She was so angry that she tried to pull the child's ear. The little boy didn't dare to say anything, but silently endured.

I know a friend who once talked about her family. She said that she is very capable, and she can buy food and cook everything, but she can't control her temper. If her children don't listen, she can't help but start work. On several occasions, I was angry with my heart and hit my son hard, beating his nose and bleeding. I regret it afterwards, and I shed tears to repent, but I can't control my anger next time.

these are common.

Some time ago, there was an extreme murder case in the news. My mother strangled her fifth-grade son with her mobile phone charging cable, and then committed suicide by jumping off a building.

why do old people say that marrying a bad daughter-in-law will destroy three generations? Here's the key.

Fire: energetic and positive

Most women like to eat snacks, lose weight (just shouting, no action), indulge in drama, chat gossip, go shopping and shop until they want to chop their hands ... This is the "decadent" of the new era.

Only a few women can "catch fire": keep exercising, go hiking on weekends, have picnics in nature, read more books, take part in beneficial activities, do interesting crafts, eat delicious food, and garden ...

Whether the atmosphere of a home is full of vigor or laziness is run by people. An interesting woman can create an interesting home.

Mu: Hard-working, independent-minded

I know a lot of women. Men are philandering outside, even openly raising mistresses. Women can only quarrel and cry day and night, but they don't have the ability and courage to leave this man.

why? Because there is no "wood".

Wood not only represents a down-to-earth attitude, but also represents a lush career.

Many women are afraid to divorce because they are afraid that they will not find a job, lose their financial resources, and have a bad life for their children after divorce, so they fight and make noise every day, and they just don't want to divorce. In fact, this kind of family is the most harmful to children.

Many women, especially those in first-and second-tier cities, are "overcorrecting". Because of their economic independence and high efficiency, they can earn money to buy a house and a car without relying on men themselves, and the yin flourishes while the yang declines, and they begin to go to the other extreme.

In life, not many people will like a strong woman's aggressive and aggressive attitude. Only weak-willed little men who want to "struggle for 1 years less" like to find strong women.

a woman's strength is not aggressive, but easy to put away. The strong is strong, and the soft is soft. It is calm in prosperity and rises resolutely in adversity.

living in this era, if a woman has these five kinds of personal designs at the same time, and changes flexibly with different times and occasions, and constantly improves herself, then no matter what happens, this woman will have a good life.