Whether it's blind date or not, it's quite difficult for introverted shy people to find a topic that both sides feel tacit understanding. It's normal to cause silence from time to time, but what to do after it is more confusing and embarrassing. Personal experience believes that after a silence occurs when talking with the first person you meet, the taboo is to look around and be on pins and needles because you can't find a topic.

This situation will make the other person feel that you are insincere, not interesting enough, or not disappointed in yourself, etc. In short, this situation is a taboo when meeting on a blind date, so it is easy for the other person to leave you OUT after the blind date-if the other person is the kind of person who pursues "feeling", it will be even worse.

who doesn't want to be humorous and full of fun? But it must be difficult for me and many friends.

In the face of strangers who can't find a topic, friends who have the potential of introversion and shyness, and friends who don't have rich entertainment activities, you can discuss it together. Personally, I have summed up some small experiences for reference. I hope everyone will actively make suggestions and contribute their own experiences.

First of all, I personally don't think it's appropriate to contract coffee shops and teahouses if there is no topic, because it's easy to stare at each other and because nothing can distract both sides, the problem becomes more magnified.

I suggest eating directly. I like so-and-so dishes, and so-and-so restaurants are good. How do I usually eat? If I can't cook, I have to say that I can cook, and if I can't take care of it, I have to say that I know the taste of life ... Food is the most popular topic. Moreover, from this topic, we can smoothly derive the work situation, for example, it is usually 7 or 8 o'clock when I come home from work, and I have no time to cook, because I work there, and I am busy with my work, what kind of work I have, and so on.

It's also a good choice to watch movies, but it's not just watching. For example, before watching movies, you can fully discuss the topic of movies, what movies you like, what movies you watched recently, and what actors you like. After watching movies, you can also discuss this movie, but in fact, not many movies can give people too much aftertaste, so don't expect to have a topic after watching movies. Basically, there are very few discussions after watching movies nowadays.

At the same time, you'd better do your homework before discussing movies, and you must show that you are an expert in a certain aspect. For example, if you say that you like Julia Roberts, you should count all her life films. For example, if you say that you like Galaxy Image, you must blurt out the style, characters and masterpieces it represents. Only in this way will the other party feel that you know astronomy and geography (a little exaggeration), thus building up their confidence and making the other party sit up and take notice of you.

Girls prefer romantic movies, Korean dramas and cartoons. I hope that even if you are not interested in these things at all, you should know what hot spots are in every aspect recently, and then you can listen to Kan Kan.

In a word, topic preparation is quite necessary. You can't go out on a date with your head empty, especially for introverted and shy people. If you meet someone who doesn't like to talk, the atmosphere will be super embarrassing. If you can't find a topic when you meet your favorite person, you will regret it.

The purpose of the topic is to make both parties communicate well, and let the other party know that it is best to admire your erudition. It would be more perfect if you can be awed and sit up and take notice. Because girls are creatures who pay attention to "feeling", so when you start an argument on the other side, and you can just make a subtle comment and agree with your mind, the whole conversation will be more than half successful. "We have a tacit understanding." "People around me don't understand this, and I can't find someone to discuss it. I didn't expect to talk to you for so long." This is the ultimate goal of chatting.

But for strangers, how do you know what they are good at and like? Just like the movie topic mentioned above, it is definitely a must-have weapon. While showing your knowledge, you can also show that you know the type of interest in each other like the back of your hand. Will this meeting be difficult? .