Article｜Miss Yaoyao

Part 01

Xiaomei

Xiaomei is a friend of mine. We know each other now It’s been almost 10 years, and although I’m not particularly familiar with her, according to my observation, she’s actually quite a nice person.

But since I have known her for such a long time, it seems that she has never had a best friend, the kind of best friend that everyone now has.

Go shopping together, watch movies together, sleep together, go crazy together, make trouble together, talk unscrupulously, talk about everything, share your private things together, and even go on a three-person trip with each other’s boyfriend .

But Xiaomei has no such best friend, not even one.

Since high school, she has been alone a lot. We occasionally play together, but we are not best friends. We occasionally chat after class, but we don’t interact too much in private. She is serious in class. Listen to lectures, study hard, go home after class, and rarely hang out with classmates. She is a typical good girl in the eyes of teachers and classmates, and rarely does anything out of line to worry her family and friends.

Part02

I recently had a phone call with Xiaomei. She said that she has a boyfriend. In front of her boyfriend, she can be unscrupulous and completely release herself.

But she said that she was also like this at work. She always felt that she didn’t have much to talk about with anyone, and there was nothing special to talk about. She had a few close friends, but she didn’t know why. She has always been unable to get very close to her friends. She always feels that there is still a sense of distance and cannot completely release herself. She doesn't know why. She was particularly distressed about this matter for a while, but she doesn't want to cater to others. She forced herself to chat awkwardly with others, but then she gradually stopped thinking about it. Maybe she was born to be like this. Currently, she is accompanied by her family and boyfriend, and she feels that she can do without a best friend. After all, best friends are hard to come by.

Part03

Some people may be like Xiaomei. They are obviously very good people, and they are not so evil-minded. They are not particularly introverted or extroverted. You are also polite. If others are nice to you, you should be nice to others, but you don’t know why, but you just don’t have much popularity...

Maybe a large part of the reason is because of the following:

1. You are not particularly proactive in communicating with others consciously

2. You are boring and you have nothing new to say to others

3. The attitude you show Being too cold prevents others from getting close to you. Although your heart is warm, no one will pay attention to your heart at the beginning

4. You have no sense of security and feel that no one can be trusted

Humans are still social animals and need friends. Studies have proven that people who are popular and sociable have many friends, have a higher sense of happiness and are more likely to succeed, so here Let’s work hard together on this road

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