Du, the boss of green gang, has a famous saying: People can't read, but you must know people, and you can see the importance of people. We all know the importance of knowing people. The well-known proverb is: friends have many ways to go; Depend on your parents at home and your friends when you go out. Maybe people are naturally lazy, especially those who have read a little. I am one of them. I like to amuse myself by being trapped in my own acre of land. Although my life is interesting, I can't solve many practical problems and miss many wonderful things. Reading is a three-step process, and countless people walk Wan Li Road in thousands of books. If you can say that you have read some books and walked some roads before, then the next step is to make more excellent people.
This book is China's version of Don't Eat Alone. Its beauty lies in clearly explaining the importance of interpersonal relationship and the most practical methodology: initiative, sincerity, help and openness. I strongly recommend this book, which is one of the rare books in China where interpersonal relationships have not been written into the successful study of larded science.
The first part is to establish contact. As a social animal, it doesn't matter who you are, but how you interact with the world. Everyone has a desire to socialize. Knowing this, I walked out of the misunderstanding that upward socialization is flattering. The so-called six-degree division theory means that you can know anyone in the world through five people, which is very helpful for social confidence. Methodology: initiative, sincerity, help and openness are also the essence of this book.
1, initiative, driving force is curiosity about people. In interpersonal relationships, everyone has a kind of inertia, hoping that others can take the initiative. The reason for not being active enough is a lack of curiosity about others. Once you find that everyone is a thick story book, you will be surprised at their stories. Curiosity can be established in two ways, and you can find out what you have in common with him and his concerns.
? 2. Sincerity, needless to say, only the sincerity of the world can win the falsehood of the world. 3, help, provide your value to help others achieve others, but also an opportunity to tap their own bright spots.
? 4, open, share your contacts and growth with your friends, don't be stingy, contacts are enriched through sharing. A lot of stress in life comes from peers around us. Some studies show that your achievements are almost the average level of peers around you, and it is an excellent way to grow people around you. We should know that our journey is a sea of stars, and our greatest enemy is ourselves. To solve "comparing" and "being compared", we need to establish lifelong growth thinking. Are you more knowledgeable today?
The second part is the way of making friends. The author manages a wide range of contacts systematically. You can take a notebook to manage contacts. There is a famous saying in the west: If you want to make a friend, please ask him to help you. Friends are troublesome. Some people are not confident behind the so-called fear of being ungrateful, fearing that they are unable to help others. The author mentioned a method that is very helpful to form positive habits, that is, applying to be a conference volunteer, which I deeply agree with. The three steps of expressing gratitude, gratitude, attitude and hope strengthen our connection with others.
? The third part is workplace socialization, and the fourth part is upward socialization. Just look at the mind map directly.
The fifth part is very interesting. I eat casually. When I saw others discussing food there, I felt incredible. After a while, I found that the food culture is so powerful. Food is the most important thing for the people, and sharing food is the beginning of sharing stories. Be a conscientious person and pay more attention to digging up local specialties.
Once, I read an article that the national spirit in the Tang and Song Dynasties was tolerant, open, confident, sunny and good at singing and dancing. Later, for some reason, it gradually became stiff and stiff. As a social person, going out to embrace the world and establishing contact with others, I find that it is a self-confident road from rigid introversion to tolerance and openness. For example, in the past, the occasional gains from reading were more self-cherish, and now it is sincere to cut open the self.