Different couples have different ways to get along.
Some couples are always lingering in their intimate relationship and devote their lives to each other completely, leaving no gap, but such efforts are not only not loved and respected, but even alienated by disgust.
However, in marriage, some couples still keep themselves, live their own lives, and leave some space for each other, but such independence does not destroy the feelings of husband and wife, but makes them closer to each other.
Why is this?
In fact, couples with harmonious marriages have "single strength".
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Xiao Xuan's husband, Fei Zhu, is an executive of the company. He has a lot of income, and since he got married, he has been reassuring his wife to be at home in front of a full-time wife.
Fei Zhu is very busy at work. He worked hard to run his own business and went up step by step according to his own plan, so he didn't have much time to spend with Xiao Xuan.
Although Xiao Xuan is a full-time wife, she has no job or social life. She has a lot of free time, but she doesn't pester her husband because of it, but arranges her life to the fullest.
After finishing the housework, Xiao Xuan listened to music, read books and took classes to learn how to arrange flowers. She loves food and often shares her food videos on the website. Her good production skills have won a group of fans.
Whenever Fei Zhu comes back from work at night, he can have a sumptuous dinner prepared by his wife. When the two couples were eating, they shared the interesting things of the day and had a good time.
In this way, they live their own lives, have their own hobbies, appreciate each other and love each other more. Naturally, life is getting more and more harmonious.
Marriage is the union of two couples, who are integrated with each other and are independent individuals at the same time.
Between husband and wife, it is an equal relationship. No one is attached to anyone, and everyone has their own life.
A good marriage is both independent and interdependent.
People who really know how to manage marriage must know how to maintain the balance between love and life. They will not take love as their whole, but live their own lives first, and then love each other well.
People who live in the world will play different roles, but the first role must be to be themselves first. Only by doing your own role well can you play other roles well and bring light to each other.
Only by managing your own life well can you become a better self. Only by appreciating each other and sharing feelings with each other can we go more firmly and further.
Couples with "single strength" can live themselves in marriage and have their own personality and charm, which will make them love each other more.
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Xiaoying quit her job and became a housewife at home since she got married.
Xiaoying, after her marriage, put all the focus of her life on her husband Zhang Ming. She washes clothes, mops the floor, buys food and cooks at home. She has no personal space and works hard.
At first, Zhang Ming felt very warm and warm in the face of Xiaoying's concern and encirclement.
But after a long time, Xiaoying, who has no personal preferences, social life and friends, only watches her watch and urges her husband to come back every day, which gradually makes Zhang Ming feel breathless and begins to feel tired and bored.
She sacrificed so much that she was not recognized and alienated from her husband. Xiaoying's heart was extremely unbalanced, so she began to complain and even question Zhang Ming's empathy and began an endless quarrel.
In the face of his wife's unreasonable troubles, Zhang Ming is even more disgusted. His wife's making out of nothing has become a burden in his heart. There are more and more disputes between the two couples, and the gap is getting bigger and bigger. Finally, it is irreparable.
Some couples, when they enter marriage, will regard marriage as their whole life and think that love is definitely a contribution and pay.
They sacrifice their personal space and freedom, completely surround their partners, persist in the name of love, but lose themselves.
In marriage, if you don't know the balance between love and self, you will be divorced from society and lose social contact, leaving only one reliable partner in your life.
If a relationship can only be balanced by the support of others, it is easy to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss or even feel insecure.
People who lose confidence in marriage will cling to the only straw, and the rope of marriage will be pulled tighter and tighter, even suffocating each other. The relationship between the two will only get worse and worse, and even enter a period of suffocation.
Couples who don't know how to be independent and manage their own lives in marriage will only be more likely to enter a painful state and lose each other.
Couples who lack "single strength" will lose themselves in marriage, lack self-confidence, and have to rely on them. Marriage will only become a burden to each other.
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Marriage is very important, but never treat each other as the only one in your life.
Everyone needs to keep himself in marriage and keep a proper distance to be intimate.
Marriage needs some freedom and space. Only when they have independent personality and spirit can they be equal, respect each other and love each other more.
At the same time, a healthy and long-term relationship between husband and wife must appreciate each other in addition to love and respect.
A person's self-confidence and charm are never deprived and claimed from others, but his own satisfaction and self-recognition.
Only when you know how to "fill" yourself and have a "full" mentality can you shine. Only those who are independent and full of love in live high can be sincerely appreciated by their partners.
Although marriage is a combination of two people, they still need to maintain their "single strength" and have their own lives. Only when they learn to be "independent" can they learn to appreciate and love each other more, and their marriage can be happy and harmonious.