Why did ancient wars often lead to the separation of wives and children

Why didn't you run away together during the war? Because I don't know how to escape!

In ancient times, there were no smart phones, no cell phones, no landline or public telephone in the reception room, and the information was very blocked. This leads to a serious problem-how do you know that war is coming? Enemy at the Gates or the army besieged the city naturally has a huge momentum to follow, but as a civilian, you are doing your own small business with a cool breeze. At this time, you will see a group of cavalry leaving in front of you. Can you know what happened? Last night, when I was drinking with Brother Guarding City, I heard that the number of defenders was large and foolproof! Even if there is a dusty man, running all the way, shouting, "The defenders are defeated, and the enemy is coming!" Will you immediately leave your own small stall to make a living, pack up and run for your life?

not necessarily. Some troops may give priority to informing everyone and transferring the masses; But the army also lacks information. At that time in the Three Kingdoms, the army didn't know the enemy was coming, let alone the common people. Just because I don't know how to escape, it may be too late to escape when the enemy really enters the city.

why didn't you run away together during the war? We may not be able to escape together in time.

if you have time to run for your life, can you run together? That is to say, catch up with the well-informed defenders, the generals in guarding the city will be sympathetic to the people, tell everyone ten days and a half months in advance that the enemy is coming, and hurry to flee. At this time, all the people in the city are packing up, carrying big bags and small bags all the way, pushing cars and leading animals, and walking to nearby towns. It is said that you are running for your life. In fact, you are not "escaping" quickly.

the old, the weak, the sick and the disabled walk slowly, and the young and strong are either carrying big bags or pushing cars. It is fast to walk dozens of miles a day. In ancient times, there were no asphalt roads, square brick roads and even fewer stone roads. The horses and men raised the dust on the dirt road, and the smoke was not bad. In case it rains, thousands of holes have no place to hide. When the rain stops, push out the cars stuck in the mud one by one ... How far can this run? There was no map navigation in ancient times, and I wouldn't tell you that there was a landslide 5 meters ahead, and the 8-meter right-turn bridge was washed away by the flood. All kinds of difficulties and obstacles encountered along the way will greatly affect the speed before fleeing.

Mountains, lakes, jungles and valleys, which are usually poetic, have all become obstacles at this time. It is not a pleasant word to wade across mountains and rivers now. If the enemy forces behind us catch up, it will be wiped out! Take 1, steps back, except for the above factors, assuming that there is a plain between the two cities, you can get there all the way without going around. It won't be the majority that can make the whole family arrive smoothly.

In Awakening the World, there is an article titled "The Oil Salesman monopolizes the flower heads", which tells the story of a grocery store owner in happy village, just outside the capital of song dynasty, and his family fled because the nomads from the capital entered the city. Along the way, I was thirsty, hungry and hard-working, calling heaven and earth my ancestors, for fear of meeting the Tatars halfway. Unexpectedly, the Tartars did not meet, but they met a group of soldiers of fortune who had lost the battle. When they saw the fleeing people, they had bad intentions, set fires along the road and took the opportunity to plunder. The boss's daughter was separated from her family in panic and then sold into a brothel.

It can be said that it is better to be a peaceful dog than to leave people in chaos!

fleeing, eating and drinking are also problems. People are not vegetation, just basking in the sun is not enough, and we must ensure that we will not die of hunger on the way to escape. Fang La occupied the city, and the people fled before the city was closed, and then hid in the Woods. Not starving to death on the way to escape is the primary problem. What should I do if I run out of dry food? Picking fruit to shoot wild boar? How many trees do thousands of people need to eat? How many wild ducks, hares and wild boars do you need? The director of the procurement office has scratched his head, not to mention the unorganized and undisciplined refugees on the way to escape.

another reason why we can't reach the safe area together is that the information is not smooth. The men of several families saw that the old man was starving and the children were starving. They kept crying and felt sorry for it, and decided to go to the mountains to collect some game. As a result, I didn't come back for a day and a night. Wait or not? Suddenly, someone in the marching team called for pursuers, and the team was in a mess, and the children whizzed and disappeared. Looking for children or running for your life first? When people are in panic, they are most likely to be influenced by rumors.

Some people say it's not safe to go from the town ahead. Some people say that the enemy is catching up. Some people say that there are tigers in the mountains further ahead. Some people say ... Who do you listen to? In case the enemy kills you when you go to the toilet, shall I run or wait for you to come back? When you left the team to go to the toilet, the enemy was killed. Do you want to put on your pants and run, or return to the team first?

everyone should struggle with their own decisions and suffer from the consequences of their decisions. On the way to escape, it is very difficult to get to the destination together smoothly. Even if you escape to a nearby town, it may not be safe. Take the Liu Zhidan family in northern Shaanxi as an example. During the Tongzhi period, most of the villagers were killed when the enemy attacked. Liu Zhidan's great-grandfather Liu Mincun and more than 5 members of his family fled to the Suoyangcheng Village on the cliff in the north of wuqi next door, and defended the city with hundreds of local refugees by bows and arrows.

Unexpectedly, the enemy troops arrived again. After a siege of more than a month, the castle was breached, leaving only four brothers Liu Mincun, his wife Wang and his two sons alive. Later, they fled to Jingbian County, Shaanxi Province, and stayed for a while. I heard that the war in their hometown had subsided, and the other three brothers discussed returning to their hometown and taking away the money buried when they fled.

As a result, on the way home, one person was killed by a robber, one person was killed by a wild wolf on the way, and the remaining one rolled and crawled back to Jingbian. Unexpectedly, the enemy troops hit Jingbian County, and Liu Cunmin and his surviving brother were killed. His wife, Wang, and her two sons begged all the way to Suide, only to be spared.

The death rate of the Liu family in this war was 96%, and the family fled, not to mention the refugees who fled in general.

why didn't you run away together during the war? When the war comes, who cares to escape together?

Wang Xiuchu wrote a book, Ten Days in Yangzhou, which recorded the experience of the massacre in Yangzhou in the late Ming and early Qing dynasties. At that time, the general Shi Kefa fled to Yangzhou after defeat. Ten days later, the army besieged the city, and Shi Kefa ordered it to be strictly observed. However, the military situation was chaotic. Some people shouted that full soldiers had entered the city, some people shouted that reinforcements had arrived, the streets were in a mess, some people fled in rags, and no one could tell what the situation was like.

suddenly, Shi Kefa led more than ten cavalry to rush south, and rushed the crowd. Shao Qing, some soldiers guarding the city fled hastily, abandoned the city for their lives, some fell dead on the spot, some broke their legs, and soon the wall was empty. Burning and looting is not the order of massacre. At first, no one knew it would be a massacre. The Qing soldiers first asked the people in the city for money in waves, and the troops were independent of each other. After you searched, we would go again. After all, the owner of the house knows where the money is hidden, which is much easier than rummaging around aimlessly.

There are also ordinary people who took out all their possessions the first time they were searched, and were later attacked by unprofitable Qing soldiers. Seeing that someone paid money but died, people ran and fled, and those who could not escape hid. The hidden people were hungry, and it was very troublesome for the searched Qing soldiers to find people, so the Qing soldiers began to lure the snake out of the hole. Someone read the official document, saying that as long as you come out to line up, you can guarantee everyone's safety. So some people believed their stories and came out to line up. Those who came out were asked to take the soldiers home and hand over valuable property. After rounds of searching, I was penniless.

At that time, Wang Xiuchu's maiden had just fled to his home, so the whole family had to hide in the gutter on the roof. Later, the Qing soldiers who entered the city also found that the gutter could hide people, so they went to the roof one by one to arrest people. Wang Xiuchu's family met a pawn with a knife. When the broadsword was cut off, the whole family fled in all directions, and it was important to save their lives. Who would care for the whole family to run together?

why didn't you run away together during the war? The ideal is full, and the reality has no bones left.

Because information is blocked, it's hard to see it once you get separated on the road to escape, so it's not that you don't want to escape together. Various factors are complicated and it's very difficult to reach your destination together.

The old man said that when the East is not bright, the West is bright. In response to sudden war, a family may have more chances to survive, and the blood of the family can be continued, which is better than being wiped out by the whole family.

Wang Xiuchu also mentioned in "Ten Days in Hangzhou" that his first reaction was to go home and greet his wife and children to flee for their lives, but the "deception" of the Qing soldiers made some people at home waver and took the initiative to queue up; The rest got separated when they were hunted. And he himself was finally caught and arranged into the team.

In the face of war, no matter men or women, personal strength is insignificant, and it is still difficult to protect themselves, even more difficult to protect their families.

even if we are separated, we know each other exactly where they are. Why can't we look for them?

there are actually three situations:

I don't know, I can't find it;

yes, I can't find it;

yes, don't look for it.

I don't know where the other party is, so I can't find it

Because the information is not smooth, knowing where the other party is is just a beautiful imagination. Although the questioner takes it as a natural condition, in fact, knowing the other party's position is based on highly developed information. In The Journey to the West, it often happens that the Monkey King goes out to beg alms and comes back to find that Master Tang Priest has been captured by goblins, and Pig Bajie and Friar Sand have been knocked down and left in the same place. Bajie and Friar Sand don't know where Master has been taken! Fortunately, the author set up the Land Lord, which is a convenient and quick celestial GPS on call, so that the Monkey King can know which hill there are goblins nearby, otherwise there is nothing the Monkey King can do!

In Beijing, there is a place called Wukesong. According to legend, at that time, it was considered as the city within the Second Ring Road, and everything else was considered as the suburbs. At that age, this place, as a lonely place, was often haunted by bandits, and pedestrians were afraid to go alone. So we meet in Wukesong, go to town together, and take care of each other together-provided that people make an appointment.

this meeting will be made several days later, otherwise, how can we make an appointment when the distance is so long and the letters are all in months? Without landmarks, it is really not easy for people to meet at a specific time and place. Some netizens ridiculed that before the information age, how difficult was it for two people to meet? It's like playing "eat chicken" and landing in B city without GPS. When teammates meet, they may have to go through bullets first, and then meet by luck.

Not long ago, a video became a hit, and my college roommate lost contact after graduation. I recognized each other when I picked up the courier, and I jumped up with excitement! Some older netizens commented: At that time, we were still using the 21 card on the phone. After graduating from college, we went our separate ways, and basically broke up, which was the last time we met in this life.

I know where the other party is, but I still can't find it.

There is a cross talk about riding a motorcycle to a gas station and wanting a free map. The staff looked at his oil tank and said disdainfully, how far can you run with this box of oil? Where are you going? I'll show you!

In ancient times, many people didn't really need a map. They may have never been to several places in their lives, and even if they left the village, they would travel far. If there was no map in ancient times, even if I heard that my relatives were in such and such a place, maybe that place would only be a name that stayed in my mind. Where? How to get there? How long will it take? It's all unknown Even with a map, can we find each other?

maps need to be updated. How often can the maps in ancient people's hands be updated? With the map, how many people do you need to go with you to deal with bandits, wild animals, landslides, earthquakes, floods, and even in that era when colds, fever, illness and injuries are fatal, can you find a person if you know where he is?

If you know where the other person is, don't look for him

There is another situation where you know where the other person is, but don't look for him. Some people say: I can't hold you if I put down the brick, and I can't feed you if I put down the brick. Some people lost their children in the flight, but compared with a certain child, it may be more important to go to work every day to support the children around them than the children who have not seen each other for decades.

After all, the weekend in China was only implemented in 1995, and the single weekend on Sunday only originated in the late Qing Dynasty. In the Han, Tang and Yuan Dynasties, only officials could enjoy a five-day or ten-day rest. Other times? Work! You can't finish your own work? How to find children? I left by myself. What about the children around me? Quit working. What about the travelling expenses on the road? There are also some, and it is a last resort not to look for them. China has experienced many times when there was a meal. Trade a child for a month's rations, or watch the whole family starve to death together?

are the children who have been exchanged eligible to come back? Will he come back? In that era when there were no books to read, it was not easy to live. Where could there be energy and financial resources to find lost relatives?

write here, and you will know the answer to the question of fleeing in troubled times. Compared with the ancients, today's people live too well, and they don't know how to suffer in times of peace and prosperity. Thanks to the country for providing us with a stable and peaceful life.

It is said that people are afraid to go out at night abroad, and they don't know when they will be robbed, and even their lives are in danger; Later, when I arrived in China, I was afraid to go out at night-especially in fun run, where there were too many delicious foods, and there were food stalls at the end of fun run. Every generation is an arrow shot by the previous generation and flies to the future that they could not reach in those years.

Respect the heaven and love others, be grateful to the country and the times.