Maternal love is the greatest and selfless, and mothers are the ones who spend the longest time with their children. Teaching by example is better than words. During the day and night with the mother, every word and deed of the mother affects the growth of the child. A professor from Tsinghua University pointed out that the growth of an outstanding child has a lot to do with the mother's personality. The kind of mother they stay with determines their children's future.

It is said that children are copies of their parents, so how can you be a positive mother and guide your children to grow up healthily? I have summarized the following, hoping it will be helpful to mothers.

1. A mother with upright views plays a decisive role in the growth of her child.

The author had a junior high school classmate who was a very smart and beautiful girl, but she dropped out of school early to get married. Because her mother always said that "it is useless for a girl to study, but her true ability is to marry well". She married a so-called "rich man" at the age of 18 and lived the life of a young mistress. I met her after I graduated from college, but she returned to her parents' home alone with her children because of the wealthy man's abandonment. The rest of life is about constantly looking for goals and remarrying.

I remember when her mother laughed at my mother, what is the use of my daughter reading so many books? Spending all the money at home is not as good as being beautiful so that you can live a good life. But my mother taught us that if a person wants to live a good life, he cannot rely on anyone else and must learn his true skills on his own.

In this society where people are impetuous and materialistic, a mother with extremely upright views is very important for the growth of her child.

2. Try to be a "lazy mother" and cultivate your children to be independent and self-reliant.

Mothers love their children, but they should not take care of everything for their children. There are many hard-working mothers around us who prepare sumptuous "food" for their children every morning and evening, monitor weather changes at any time, add or remove clothes for their children, and rack their brains at night to teach their children picture books and do homework with them.

A mother loses herself from the time her child is born and spends all her time and energy on her child. Don't you know that such a "100-point" mother is not conducive to the growth of her children? If a mother learns to be "lazy" properly, she can train her children's independence and let them learn to do their own things.

My son is eight years old. Every day before dinner, he comes to help clear the table, serve rice, serve dishes, and help take care of his sister. In this process, the child will understand that eating is his own business, that his parents will not care about him, and that helping with housework is the obligation of every family member.

In fact, "lazy mothers" sometimes have a harder time, because their children will do many things badly, and mothers have to spend more time to patiently guide and clean up the aftermath. However, you must not replace everything just because you are afraid of trouble. You must give your children opportunities to exercise, so that they can grow up through constant encounters.

Behind an independent and self-reliant child, there is a mother who dares to let go.

3. Be a mother who knows how to control her emotions, so that her children can learn trust, understanding, generosity and tolerance.

Nobel Prize winner Mo Yan recalled his mother. He said that the thing that impressed him most was that he broke the only thermos bottle at home and was so scared that he crawled into a haystack and stayed there all day. In the evening, his mother found him and did not beat him. She just touched his head and sighed softly.

Let's assume that if a child accidentally breaks an antique at home and loses his mother's beloved jewelry, how many mothers can do it without getting angry and teaching their children a lesson?

Children’s minds are very fragile. We should not try to reason with our children by yelling, because the mother’s angry posture and demeanor have frightened the children, and the children will not listen to your reasoning. Got in.

We often lack understanding of our children. When children make mistakes, we should not rush to punish them. We should first ask for the reason. The injustice the child suffered from his mother today may turn into his incomprehension and distrust of the entire society.

Having been with a tolerant and generous mother since childhood, I have been influenced by it, and the pattern of my children will definitely not be bad.

4. Mothers who are good at praising their children for their hard work, diligence, and creativity will make their children work harder, be more motivated, and be more imaginative.

Nowadays, everyone advocates positive education, and encouraging children does have many benefits. But mothers must pay attention to technique when praising their children, otherwise it can easily backfire.

For example, after a long period of hard work, the child has tidied the room very cleanly. Many mothers will praise their children, "You are awesome." This kind of praise is relatively abstract, and children cannot specifically understand what they have done well. Mothers can praise their children, "You are very conscientious and persistent in doing housework. The room is so clean because of your hard work."

It is important for mothers to try to praise their children appropriately and appropriately. Growing up in an atmosphere of love and encouragement, children will surely become optimistic, open-minded, and kind-hearted people.

The development of a person's character can almost all be traced back to his childhood.

Mom has taken on too much in this process.

Just like Mo Yan’s illiterate mother, there are many mothers who are uneducated but have great wisdom. I pay tribute to the great mothers