Original text: Where the path is narrow, leave one step with others; when the taste is strong, reduce it by three points for others to taste.

This is the most blissful Dharma in the world.

——"Cai Gen Tan" Translation: When the road is narrow, you should leave one step wide so that others can pass.

When enjoying delicious food, you should share some food with others.

This is the best way to be happy and successful in life.

Before we start the discussion, let us think about a question: Does the reason why a successful person succeeds really only rely on his outstanding personal ability?

After thinking about it, continue reading the following discussion with the answer to this question.

The book gives an example of children playing games. This example tells the story of a group of children playing games together. One of the children was hungry, so he took out a delicious pastry from his bag, which happened to be seen by everyone.

At this point, he has two choices: share some with everyone, or keep it all for himself.

What will be the consequences of sharing it with everyone?

Because the friends got the delicious food, they all liked him and supported him. He became the central figure of the small group and had appeal, and the children were willing to listen to his arrangements.

What's the point of eating it all by yourself? Just eat it one bite at a time in front of everyone as if no one else is watching.

Hahaha, as adults, we sound a bit orphaned.

Of course, children will not think so complicated.

Of course he does not need to be criticized harshly by us.

But the fact is that those children who have been educated by their parents' generosity will think that he is a stingy person, and everyone's impression of him is more stingy.

More importantly, he lost an opportunity for group centralization.

Let me exaggerate here again. Although the matter is small, if he is not aware of the concept behind this behavior, he does not understand the concept of sharing.

Then he will become a selfish "orphan" just around the corner.

What do you want to say by giving this example?

The relationship between people is not like a cowboy duel, where the brave person wins when they meet on a narrow road - that is, in many cases it is not a single-choice question, and your interests and his interests can only be considered one or the other.

There is you without him, there is him without you.

In life it is precisely a multiple choice question where there will be a choice for both parties to win.

Although the benefits of this multi-win are sometimes not as great as a single win, other benefits are greater.

Ironically, everywhere in life we ??can see some people competing tit-for-tat with others for fame and fortune, and end up dying together.

Such people never realize that taking a step back when necessary can actually bring them more benefits.

To give another example, a young civil servant graduated from a prestigious school and is very talented. He always feels that he is unambiguous and has the aura of guiding the country wherever he goes.

He felt that others had outdated ideas and shallow knowledge, while he was the only one who received the most advanced education.

"I'm so capable, so I deserve more," he always thought.

Therefore, he takes all the credit for everything and keeps all the benefits to himself without sharing them with his colleagues.

As a result, his colleagues were dissatisfied with him and joined forces to compete with this "outstanding young man". You are dedicated to your job, you are responsible for your duties, you are allowed to do the work of five people by yourself, and you are so good at it, we just can't

Cooperate with you and be passive and slow down.

What you can do in five minutes, I'll give you the trouble and let you do it in an hour.

When I came here, I deliberately dropped the chain and pretended to forget.

In this environment, can "outstanding young people" still accomplish anything?

I'm afraid it's harder than landing on the moon.

If he fails to accomplish something or does his job poorly, his boss will blame him and his colleagues will isolate him.

Haha, even if he has a strong psychological quality and does not resign at this time, I am afraid that the company will not keep such an unaccustomed person.

Let me talk about my thoughts below. After reading this, I can’t help but wonder, how does he understand abilities?

Does ability = academic qualifications?

Or do you mean ability = professional ability?

I'm afraid this idea is too one-sided, and his understanding of abilities is too arrogant.

Ability is the ability to solve problems. If ability can be cultivated and learned through listening to lectures in class, bypassing the failures and attempts again in real practice, is this called ability?

The rule of life for adults is the exchange of interests.

"There are no permanent friends or enemies in the world, only permanent interests." This is true between countries and among people.

There is a similar saying in "Cai Gen Tan": "Human sentiments are repeated, and the road of life is bumpy. If you can't go where you want to go, you must know how to take a step back; if you can go where you want to go, you must make an extra three points of effort."

Leaving one step behind and giving up three points not only leaves a way for others to survive, but is also an excellent way to expand interpersonal resources.

If you give him one step today, he will give you two steps back tomorrow, which means you have one less enemy and one more friend.

Learn some sharing principles, and give them appropriate benefits when you get them, so that you will not attract jealousy and hatred, and everyone will feel balanced.

We will definitely work together to help you succeed in the future.

The difference between these three points of interests, whether they are given or not, is up to you.

Here is another appropriate expansion. It is said in "Cai Gen Tan" that "the path to be first is narrow, take a step back to be broad and level; the rich taste is short, and the simple talk is long."

Successful people understand this sentence without exception.

They spend a lot of money to benefit others and benefit those who follow them, so they are determined to go through fire and water.

This is true in officialdom, and the same is true in shopping malls.

A really smart businessman would not do that kind of thing: for example, I saw that the barbecue restaurant here on the street was very popular, so I opened a barbecue restaurant next to him, which is a brainless act.