A reader left a message saying that he used to like to read and write. Since giving birth to his second child, he has returned to the family and has become a housewife. She is surrounded by her children every day, taking care of the older ones to and from school, and the younger ones. He eats, drinks, and has no time to read or write, "I don't even have time to watch TV"... I feel that I am "becoming more and more mediocre and often very annoying."
I once read a post "Housewife" Why do you always look in a bad mood?" The housewife who posted the post was full of complaints and detailed the household chores that made her unhappy, from the pots and pans in the kitchen to the discovery of cash receipts and toilet paper in her husband's clothes pocket after washing... A woman left a direct message in the comment area : "If I were a man, I would definitely not want to live with you. The negative emotions are too great. No matter what I choose to do, it is my own choice. Where does all this nonsense come from..."
I thought about it, one day I will become a full-time housewife, and every woman will become a "housewife" sooner or later. After retirement. That will be a long period of time in my life. Will I "always be in a bad mood"?
Why do we have to "look like we're in a bad mood"? Why do you think you are mediocre? Why bother?
Before the possible "bad mood" appears, I know I must make some positive preparations. Lyricist Lin Xi wrote a book called "So You Must Be Unhappy". I seemed to understand the title only after reading the entire book. I understand that "fei" means "must" and "must". . It's not that you are unhappy because you are a "housewife", it's that "you are not unhappy" and "you are not mediocre".
My ideal career has always been "housewife". In fact, I prefer to write "housewife" as "cooking wife", which is the "cooking" of "cooking rice". My ideal life is one where men take care of the outside world and women take care of the house. When men earn money, they take it home and spend it on women without feeling that women have done nothing. My ideal society is to generally increase men’s salary levels and allow women to Returning to the family is more conducive to social stability. ? (It’s impossible, so it’s ideal)
The first time I deliberately wrote “housewife” as “housewife” was when I was filling out a “resume” when I was a student. In the "Social Relations" column, I wrote down the names of my two aunts, and the occupations of my eldest aunt and my second aunt were both "housewife." Because my grandfather attended a private school and participated in the revolution in his early years, he was well-educated and literate, which was very rare in their generation when women with small feet were the majority. It is said that someone in my hometown once gossiped: "What's the use of the two daughters of the Ding family going to school? Why don't they stay at home and take care of the children and do housework and become housewives?
In the eyes of many people, "at home" "Being a housewife, taking care of children and doing housework" is not a job, and its value cannot be equal to that of a so-called professional who works nine to five. We now know that this view is wrong. A columnist wrote about his wife like this: She greeted her in the kitchen When I went to help, I said, "Please come to my office..." Isn't home the workplace and office of housewives?
I have said to my husband more than once: "If you earn enough money, To support me (the two girls), I don’t go to work. I work as a housewife at home every day, yes, a cook. “Every time his response to me was: ‘How much money is enough? ! "I couldn't explain the reason for "enough money", so he said grandly: "I'll support you!" ”
Women are often born with insecurities. If you don’t work, your sense of security will be even lower. This is probably the reason why I have been working. As I grow older and I am about to retire, Sooner or later, you will return to your family and become a "housewife". This is a very certain thing. If you don't prepare yourself mentally and even physically in advance, there will inevitably be a gap.
Teacher Wang once said. One thing happened that impressed me deeply. She had a female neighbor who was a housewife and a stay-at-home wife. One day when she saw her son after sending her to school, she complained: "I'm so tired at home every day, and I don't think I'm good at cooking." "It's delicious. If you like it or not, I will make rice and stir-fry dishes like this..." Teacher Wang said: "As a mother and a wife, since you already spend time cooking and cooking, why don't you spend a little more time?" Are you thinking of making meals more in line with your family’s tastes? Why not do it happily? "
Everyone who reads my articles knows that I often write about Teacher Wang. Just like Chen Xiaoqing, the chief director of "A Bite of China", mentioned Cai Lam's name in his book "The Taste of the World" At least seven or eight times, it shows that Teacher Wang is an "important person" in my life. What she always conveys to people is a positive attitude towards life and a healthy lifestyle.
Teacher Wang's duty. I am a teacher in a vocational school and work in a company. I have been to Teacher Wang’s warm pastoral style home and enjoyed her hot sesame paste grinded on site in her kitchen. Many companies have been influenced by her. My colleagues bought an oven and learned to make moon cakes, bake chiffon cakes, oatmeal cookies, etc. People who love life, including me, must be in a happy mood even if they are housewives.
Except for some big Vs, the most popular public accounts and blogs I follow are about food.
For example, Wenyi Private Kitchen, Junzhi Baking, YY Food Space, Shuangshuangjia Kitchen, etc. I admire the very popular online mother who has a different breakfast every day 365 days a year. She has to love life with all her heart to be able to do that. What a degree!
So, I will also spend time baking a batch of moon cakes for the Mid-Autumn Festival, a plate of birthday cakes, learning how to make vinegar-based pork ribs according to the mobile app, and asking Du Niang how to steam the custard for breakfast more deliciously. Smooth and tender without any holes... Although I eat less now, sometimes I just cook it but don't eat it. But when doing these housework, one is also filled with joy when one is in the kitchen late at night.
Several girlfriends in my circle of friends are considered by others to be “housewives” who don’t work. They range from their twenties to their forties or fifties. Some of them are doing micro-business, some are working part-time but have moved their offices to their homes, some are learning to draw, some are writing columns and books... They read and write to educate their children to respect the elderly, and they are full of vitality and enthusiasm. The living conditions of the family are not bad and unkempt because they have "returned" to the family.
The sense of value is created by oneself. The house is neatly kept, the children are taken care of healthily, and one is in good spirits, which is the greatest value and contribution to the family. Housewives themselves must have such self-esteem and self-confidence.
The mother of one of her daughter’s classmates turned out to be an office worker. Because her husband often traveled for business, she had to take care of her two children in school, so she had to quit her job. She rented a house near the school and set up a school house. On the one hand, she could take care of her own children for lunch and rest, and on the other hand, she provided help to other parents. Later, it expanded into a tutoring class; she also knew a child who had successfully entered university. As a parent, she is also a housewife. She has been accompanying her son when he was painting since he was in elementary school. She also accompanied him when he was waiting. His son was admitted to university, and she herself joined the Municipal Artists Association and held an art exhibition... It's really "Unintentional planting of willows creates shade."
Who would think they are mediocre? Some people say that happiness is nothing more than ten words - "something to do, someone to love, and something to look forward to." Is this simply a portrayal of the happiness of housewives? There are so many things to do at home, even if your husband doesn't love you, you still have the love of your children. Isn't your hope for your children just like your expectations for the future?
Being "mediocre" really has nothing to do with not working, and being "mediocre" is not due to the so-called "housewife" status.
A happy person, a calm and calm person, accepts every moment, every state, and every identity of his life. Being a housewife is not mediocre. To be a housewife, you must be happy, cheerful and loving - in this way, your family can be happy with your happiness, happy with your happiness and love you with your love.
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