As times change, women’s roles in society have changed, and they have the right to choose love. However, the original intention of freedom is to promote more happy unions, but it ended up with a group of leftover men and leftover women. So now it has become a phenomenon where people are urged to get married every festive season. Some people obviously have good conditions, and are even very good, but they have been single for many years and are in a state of being left alone. It is said that there are no women who cannot marry, only men who cannot marry a wife. But is it true that there are women who cannot marry? Still haven't found anyone to marry? Because of foreign language, family and various pressures, anxiety easily occurs, so some people start to "actively" look for a partner. In fact, most people who have been single for many years have problems of one kind or another, perhaps due to cognitive blind spots, or perhaps due to blindness in their thinking. However, they are in a "furnace" and cannot be saved from the dilemma of not knowing their "true face". . Generally speaking, the reason for being single is due to the following possibilities:
1. Your own conditions are too good
Many people have a misunderstanding and think that the rest is bad. In fact, sometimes the reality is completely different. It is because of her good conditions, high taste, good looks, good education and even a good income, which have become the capital and self-confidence of an older leftover woman, even for a leftover woman. There are many such women who have secret crushes and suitors, but she is too striving for perfection and demands too much for her ideals. Her own inner wealth also requires her other half to have a sexual relationship with her, and for the man in front of her, she not only requires finances, but also hates the male chauvinism's contempt for women. What she wants is harmony and needs mutual sympathy. They care for each other, and in her eyes, the men she can come into contact with do not meet her standards at all.
2. No chance to meet
Many school departments are in a state of yin and yang decline, and after work, due to the closed environment, they have to work from 9 to 5 in the office building Relatively familiar faces and fixed people, not to mention the possibility of not being unmarried. Even if everyone is of the same trial marriage age, it is difficult to have good feelings under work pressure and conflicts, and some thoughtful women will understand the consequences of office romance. and negativity, so they will not choose people in the circle as their boyfriends. I am already exhausted from work and don’t have much of a life circle, so even if I am very good, I have no chance of meeting the person I like. And those who have lowered their requirements and agreed to go on a blind date are not adaptable to materialistic relationship interactions, so opportunity has become one of the important reasons why leftover women cannot find their partners.
3. Too much pressure, too busy and no energy
The mental state after work is completely different from that on campus. Think about when you were about to graduate, no matter how stressed you were, I’m afraid you I will take time to participate in on-campus fraternity parties, and everyone can understand the pain of physical and mental exhaustion after work. I work mechanically like clockwork all day long. After get off work, I just want to completely relax myself and no longer want to waste time. When considering such troublesome issues as relationships, of course the key is to just look for a partner, not to meet your sweetheart. This kind of search is just a purposeful interaction, so thinking about it makes me too lazy to go, and I am not in the mood.
4. Expectations that are too high
It is good to have requirements for life, your partner, and yourself, but too high expectations will constrain your own pace and often set your own pace. After positioning the level, it is easy to set the standard for the future partner too high. However, no one is perfect. From the ignorance in the cardamom years to the changes in thinking when you come into contact with society, you will continue to make new adjustments as your level of contact increases. , the conditions for him to meet the standards will increase even more, so when he was young, he would definitely not meet the standards due to his youthfulness, and later, as his age increases, the range of options will also be shortened. Such an attitude and handling method are destined to delay his own success. It is the best time to choose a mate, but you have already sacrificed your youth just to find a good one, and now you don’t want to compromise your own heart and wishes, so this is the reason why you have remained single.
5. Lack of self-confidence and not good at contact with the opposite sex
China is a traditional country, so many parents are very conservative and strict when disciplining their children. Due to their strength, they eventually You have to manage your children so that they are afraid of things and don’t even know how to get along with the opposite sex. No matter how good-looking you are, no matter how strong your financial resources are, no matter how capable you are, if you want to get along with the opposite sex for a long time, you need your own experience and skills, and with such a personality As a result, she didn't even have the courage to communicate normally, let alone continue the intimate interaction and sharing of love. Therefore, barriers to contact will inevitably lead to a lack of inner self-confidence. How can you get the admiration and appreciation of a man? Therefore, if you want to get true love and a single-minded partner, you may need more adaptation and practice.
6. Lack of self-awareness
What I am sure is that there are no perfect people in this world, but there are no useless people either. They all have their bright spots and shortcomings. Confidence is a good thing, it makes people exude a unique temperament, but overconfidence becomes a kind of arrogance without self-awareness. You cannot accurately face up to your own strengths and weaknesses, and you don't know what kind of standards and life you really need in your heart. To put it simply, there is a saying that the requirements are high, but there are no actual details.
With this kind of mentality, even if you start a relationship, it will end in vain. You will constantly find fault with the other person during the relationship, and you will also over-exaggerate your own abilities. If such a vicious cycle is unable to be self-reflected and adjusted, it will be easy to keep yourself in a vicious circle. I'm running around in circles, but I can't find the right person.
7. Relying on fate
Some people, although they are highly educated and know a lot of knowledge, they still believe that the power of fate is stronger than that of others. If you don't take action or cherish it, even if the opportunity comes around, you will run too fast and have the attitude of "I will get it but I will lose my life". There are also some people who throw away the fate they have already obtained just for an unrealistic "belief" standard in their hearts. Therefore, in the eyes of the opposite sex with whom they come in contact, they may not be looked down upon, or it may be because of being with such people. Women feel depressed and uncomfortable being together, so it is easy for them to become single.
8. I only want to be tall, rich and handsome
Don’t judge whether this is correct, no matter whether she worships money or not, but if you want to pursue a good life, it will shorten the number of steps and hard work you have to do. In fact, there is nothing wrong with it, but in real life there are so many rich, handsome, diamonds, and kings waiting for you to take it into your pocket. Even if he does have countless women around him, how can he leave you a chance so far? Therefore, the obsession to find tall, rich and handsome men will definitely create a group of remaining women.
9. Because the love has not been forgotten
It is said that women are ruthless and decisive in their feelings. In fact, they are just trying to force themselves on. When you have loved someone deeply, how can you say that you have forgotten it? And then she started a new relationship like no one else. Due to the influence of her fate and her fragile heart, when she got out of the shadow of lovelorn, she might have missed the best age for trial marriage. Her options were already limited, so between reality and It's difficult to make a decision before you have to.
10. Fear of change
Everyone thinks that being single is a lonely and scary existence. In fact, a person who has been single for too long will become a habitual pattern and feel very comfortable. Relaxed, but the most beautiful thing for a single woman is not the freedom itself, but the inner sublimation of growth. She has made her single life fiber-optic and eye-catching, allowing her to exist freely and grow as much as she wants. She doesn’t have to worry about other people’s feelings, and she doesn’t have to follow other people’s pace. Everything she does is absolutely because of what she needs at the time; she doesn’t have to be angry at the other person’s lack of gratitude because she has paid so much for herself, and she doesn’t have to be bitter about not being able to receive love in return. pregnant. She didn't draw the ground as a prison, she just used her own abilities to illuminate her own world. And when faced with the situation of having to find someone, helplessness and the surrender of freedom and rights became her difficult choice, because being single for a long time will become addictive.