The reason is actually very simple, because if love is compared to a flower, then marriage is the withered fruit of this flower.

From this point of view, love is a brilliant epiphyllum for a while, and only one place is red after wheatgrass is exhausted; And marriage is the ultimate sublimation of feelings, because it allows love to continue in life.

You can be presumptuous in love, but marriage needs restraint.

Marriage carries too many family and social responsibilities. Marriage is more solemn than love.

Therefore, there is also a saying that "men are afraid of entering the wrong line and women are afraid of marrying the wrong person". Marriage is as important to women as career is to men.

But in fact, the influence of career on men is far less than that of marriage on women.

The most direct and simple way to destroy a woman is to get married when she is ignorant.

I have a close friend whose name is Rong Rong.

Rong Rong is 28 years old. Like me, she is about to enter the third grade. I have been busy since I graduated from college at the age of 23, but I don't know what I am busy with every day.

She got married after graduating from college. After nearly five years of marriage, she still doesn't know what she really wants.

This feeling is so bad that I can't bear to think about it. As long as she thinks about it carefully, she will feel that she has wasted six years, and in these six years, her youthful vitality and passion have been consumed by more than half.

It is said that when you lose something, you will gain something. When God closes a door for you, he will open a window for you. However, in the six years of Rongrong, not only did the work not improve greatly, but even the marriage turned red.

Rong Rong and her husband are not college classmates, so I was a little surprised when I suddenly received her wedding invitation just after I started working.

Many people are getting married in a flash marriage, but Rong Rong, who is slow-witted, doesn't look like a person who can get married in a flash marriage.

But that's the truth.

Rong Rong and her husband formally met at a blind date dinner arranged by relatives. Boys are big and handsome, which naturally attracts women.

Although the man's family background is average, Rong Rong still likes him.

In fact, after Rong Rong's parents met each other's elders and got to know their family background, they complained about the matchmaking relative.

Rong Rong's mother leaned in her husband's ear and said, "Who do you despise? Why did you introduce such a family to us in Rong Rong? "

Originally, I was going through the motions, taking care of both sides and the face of the matchmaker, but it happened that Rongrong and the boy looked at each other.

Parents also feel that young people are uncertain and may be separated in one place. I didn't expect Rong Rong to marry her boyfriend.

When Rong Rong asked her mother for a hukou certificate, her parents took pains to make an inventory of all the difficulties in marriage, and told her daughter that as a person who had experienced it, what was meant by "but not like people who had been poor together".

But Rong Rong was unmoved. She wanted to marry love and had that kind of "heartache".

She told her mother that the reason why mom and dad quarrel every day because of all kinds of big and small things is because they lack "love", because the depth of love determines the quality of marriage.

You don't know whether it is sweet until you taste the lemon. When you really step into marriage, Rong Rong knows what marriage is.

Marriage life is not that simple, especially if the husband and wife do not have a harmonious outlook on life and a solid economic foundation, no matter how deep their feelings are, they will be erased one day.

After the marriage, at the suggestion of Rong Rong, the husband and wife moved out of their parents-in-law's shabby house and rented a modest elevator.

At first, we can encourage each other, strive for the future hopefully, and gradually be smoothed out by reality.

Rong Rong can't remember when they started quarreling about trifles such as tea, rice, oil and salt.

Especially after having children, the economy itself is not very rich, and it is even more difficult for two people.

However, the husband and wife quarreled and quarreled. Rong Rong said that she never wanted to divorce her husband, and she never wanted to abandon her husband and children and run away alone.

However, people can control their own thoughts, but many times they can't guess other people's minds.

Rong Rong has always disliked her mother-in-law in the past few years. First, the mother-in-law cares too much and always likes to interfere rudely in the life of her son's daughter-in-law. Second, mother-in-law has a natural sense of superiority. She always thinks that her son can attract buttonwood trees in golden phoenix. The self-confidence of this fan makes Rong Rong, who has always been critical, feel on pins and needles.

Fortunately, my parents-in-law are not old, and they all have their own things to do. On weekdays, they seldom come to this city to join the life of Mr. and Mrs. Rong Rong.

The relationship between Rong Rong and her husband, from the initial lingering, after several years of washing and tempering, has now lost its original attachment and passion, just like the left hand holding the right hand, without a trace of waves.

Since having children, their husband and wife have little life.

They are both responsible for this situation. Rong Rong is busy with things at home and abroad. Just having children makes her one head and two big, and she is exhausted. My husband doesn't know when to work overtime. Even on legal holidays, he often goes out to socialize, sometimes even staying out at night.

At first, Rong Rong was very picky, but later he got tired of it, so he stopped talking and didn't take it to heart.

One day, the mother-in-law who went back to her hometown to take care of her grandmother who was ill in bed suddenly killed the Rongrong family.

In order to entertain her mother-in-law, Rong Rong specially cooked a big table of dishes, ranging from meat to vegetables.

Although the mother-in-law is not very likable, she has been married for five or six years and the two places are separated.

No matter far or near, they are all guests, and there is no reason to neglect them.

Unexpectedly, at the dinner table, my mother-in-law released thunder.

After three rounds of wine and five flavors of food, Rong Rong was preparing to clean up the tableware, but her mother-in-law held her back.

Mother-in-law pulled Rong Rong back to the dinner table, awkward. Rong Rong looked at the opposite husband and found that his face was also very ugly and embarrassed.

Mother-in-law said, "Actually, as an elder, it's not good for me to intervene between you two, but since it happened, it must be solved, otherwise it will always be a problem."

Rong Rong looked puzzled, but her mother-in-law's subsequent words made her angry.

My mother-in-law went on to say, "Daughter-in-law, I came here today to hope that you can divorce my son and get together well. This is also for the good of the children!"

Judging from her husband's expression, Rong Rong also knew that this was something that mother and son discussed, but she wanted to know why.

My mother-in-law said that her husband had someone else in his heart, and that person was her husband's boss, Miss Li.

My husband's female boss, whom Rong Rong met when she went to attend their company's annual meeting, wore expensive clothes, and there was a kind of bossiness between gestures. Most importantly, that woman was much older than her husband.

Obviously, without her mother-in-law's explanation, Rong Rong also knows that her husband has a crush on each other's economic strength.

"Children, you have been married to my son for five or six years. You know what you've been doing these years, and that's all my son can do. You should be kind and cut him some slack. His money is good for your children, isn't it? In the future, children can't go to school, work or get married without money. As long as my baby can step into the sky, won't your child follow suit? "

"Who wants to touch this light? We Niangs are not rare! Judging from your posture, you are not ready to have custody of your children, are you? "

"Rong Rong, you have to understand my baby, a man with children, which female baby is willing to be a stepmother as soon as she gets married. And you are different. There are so many single men now, even if you bring children, someone will want you! "

Rong Rong was livid. She doesn't understand why they can say such shameless things.

At this point, she also understood that no matter how her husband ended up with others, her marriage was over.

Looking back on my impulsive marriage, five years later, it was ridiculous everywhere.

Mother-in-law strikes while the iron is hot: "That girl is really good to my son. Not only does she not want a bride price, but she also wants to marry a house. Most importantly, once they get married, my baby will be a half-owner in the company in the future. Can I get my grandson's share at that time? "

Rong Rong's head buzzed, and after a pause, she wanted to call her parents, but she felt too weak in front of her mother-in-law and husband.

She thought for a moment and said, "Divorce is ok, I can take the children, but the child support should be paid in one lump sum, one month 1500, 18 years old and 300,000. You' booked' such a rich daughter-in-law, and the money should be nothing. Everyone has a clear delivery and will go their own way in the future. Since then, they have been born and died, and no one will miss anyone! "

Rong Rong's ex-husband really asked the latecomers for 300 thousand, but she broke up with him ...

Although there was no outside interference, Rong Rong insisted on getting a divorce.

Now she takes her four-year-old baby with her every time she goes out with us.

Being a mother is strong. A woman may not be strong, but a mother must be strong.

Although men and women are equal, in fact, most women are in a natural weak position in both life and work. There are many reasons for this, including women's own factors and social and cultural factors.

But there is a saying that women are fallen fairies, and every woman has devoted her life to perfecting others.

In the family, women bear greater family responsibilities, and in the parent-child relationship, women make more efforts.

When my grandmother died, my mother cried very sadly. I didn't know why at the time. Later, she said, "Although your grandmother can't talk at home, once she is gone, the family will be separated."

As my mother said, after my grandmother died, there was less contact between my uncles and aunts. Even if my grandfather was still alive, they could not be twisted together.

When my mother died of liver cancer, she held my father's hand and said, don't let the family break up.

But in fact, since I came back from college, my family has been separated, and it is no longer that warm home.

Especially after my father and I got back together, I got married again, and we became polite to each other. Every time we went home, it was like being a guest.

It can be seen that women play a very important role in the family.

Marriage is also the most important part of a woman's life.

After a man goes into the wrong business, he can start over after experiencing a little pain, while once a woman marries the wrong person, it is likely to delay her life.

When men and women are labeled as "second marriage" at the same time, men can basically organize their families unaffected, while women will be devalued.

A powerful woman may have a good home after getting married for the second time, while ordinary women can only reluctantly accept their fate.

Therefore, women must be cautious about marriage. We can't choose when to be born, but we can choose the marriage and life we want in the next few decades.

In case a woman meets love rat, no matter how much she has invested before, it is the right way to stop in time.

"When you meet someone who grows old together, choose a city to die", love is mixed with too many unrealistic fantasies, and marriage is exactly what love looks like after landing.

Whether you can "meet someone who will grow old together" depends not only on women's vision, but also on women's own literacy.