The dispute between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be described as a "thousand-year dispute". The mother-in-law hopes that her daughter-in-law will be virtuous and sensible, and the daughter-in-law hopes to have a reasonable mother-in-law. They both have different expectations and requirements for each other. If this is achieved, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will have a harmonious relationship and get along happily. Then the daughter-in-law hopes to have a reasonable mother-in-law.

What is your good mother-in-law like?

It should be a three-pronged approach.

First, the so-called care of the heart comes from the heart, which means that a person’s perception of the people and things he sees and the corresponding behavior are determined by his heart. To be a good mother-in-law, you must be a good mother-in-law.

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To take good care of yourself, the first thing you should do is to be less careful, that is, don't think too much about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

As the saying goes, "A woman's heart is as deep as the bottom of the sea", which describes women's minds as complex and diverse, difficult to grasp and guess.

Due to the influence of tradition and social phenomena, this characteristic of mother-in-law is particularly obvious and prominent in her treatment of her daughter-in-law. She likes to consider her daughter-in-law's thoughts, analyze her daughter-in-law's behavior, and guess her daughter-in-law's purpose and motivation. In short, she likes to think about her daughter-in-law.

Duoduo and many worries will often lead to deviations in opinions and behavior of the other party, causing misunderstandings and prejudices in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you want to be a good mother-in-law, don’t spend too much thought on your daughter-in-law, have too many ideas, do your best

Be as narrow-minded as possible.

The second is "righteousness".

As the saying goes, people and things should be treated equally, which means that they should be fair, just and reasonable in all aspects. However, some mothers-in-law are a little biased and unfair in these aspects. What's the matter?

It is one kind of attitude towards one's own family, but it is another way to treat one's daughter-in-law. She is obviously showing favoritism and favoring one's own family, and is obviously selfish. She even directly treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider. How can we get along well with each other in such an unfair environment?

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Therefore, if you want to be a good mother-in-law, you must have a fair heart and treat your family and daughter-in-law equally. Only by treating your daughter-in-law fairly and without favoritism can your daughter-in-law have a psychological balance and the corresponding complaints and injustices will be reduced.

The last thing is "care". All mothers regard caring for their children as their instinct and responsibility. They can automatically care for and love their children from the heart, and spend a lot of time on their children.

However, some mothers-in-law call themselves "Mom" after their daughter-in-law comes into the house, but they do not really regard their daughter-in-law as their own children. There is an obvious difference in caring about their children and daughter-in-law, and they do not have enough relationship with their daughter-in-law.

In this way, the daughter-in-law will definitely feel that her mother-in-law does not treat her as a family member, and she will feel disappointed and dissatisfied, and prejudice will arise accordingly, which will be reflected in her words and deeds.

If you want to be a good mother-in-law, you should care for your daughter-in-law just like your own children. Treat your daughter-in-law as your own, truly care about her, and take more care of her. Your daughter-in-law will definitely remember this kindness in her heart. As the saying goes, people's hearts are like flesh.

Only when you grow up can your daughter-in-law exchange her heart for her heart, and she will repay you in a corresponding way.

Second, despite current factors such as consciousness, customs, traditions, etc., some mothers-in-law have bright eyes and electric eyes when it comes to their daughter-in-law’s every move. They always like to find out what their daughter-in-law is doing.

If you ask questions and see any flaws or mistakes, it seems that this can reflect your mother-in-law's shrewdness, and then you just have to be picky.

In addition, the daughter-in-law is of a different age from her own, and many lifestyles, habits and hobbies are completely different from those of the older generation. Due to this difference, the mother-in-law often cannot accept and understand her daughter-in-law, and always sees her daughter-in-law in this or that way.

I can't see it, it looks awkward.

For example, it is normal for a daughter-in-law to be affectionate and enthusiastic in front of her son. It means that the relationship between the couple is very good and they should be happy. However, the mother-in-law will think that she is unruly and uneducated. If a daughter-in-law buys new clothes, skin care products, and cosmetics, she will respond.

The family buys some daily necessities, or improves their life and prepares some sumptuous food. In the eyes of the mother-in-law, it may be that she is not thrifty and does not know how to save, and she is a prodigal daughter-in-law who spends money randomly. If the daughter-in-law has any hobbies, there is a party.

In the eyes of the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law may think that she is not caring about her family, not being a good wife and mother, etc. In the eyes of the mother-in-law, she will always see different things from her daughter-in-law's behavior and have different understandings.

To be a good mother-in-law, you should be clearly aware that times have changed. People of each generation have their own characteristics. People in different periods have different ways of living. People have different lifestyles. If you want to be harmonious together,

To get along, you either need to keep pace with the times or take care of your eyes. When something happens, turn a blind eye. Pretend not to see it, deliberately ignore it. Don't take it too seriously when something happens. Just keep your eyes open.

Third, there is a word to control your mouth: "Misfortune comes from your mouth", which means that careless speech can easily lead to trouble.

Many mother-in-laws and daughters-in-law have tense relationships, and the problem often lies in the mother-in-law's words. Some mothers-in-law and daughter-in-law seem to have a competitive relationship with their sons. The daughter-in-law takes away the son's heart and feels uncomfortable, so she likes to talk to her son.

The daughter-in-law is not talking bad about her. Don’t you know that the son and the daughter-in-law live together day and night, share the same bed and pillow, talk to each other all the time, and rarely have any secrets, and they will soon reach the ears of the daughter-in-law, so complaints will arise.

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