Sister-brother love should be very tiring. In society itself, why are men usually several years older than women? In the marriage law, the marriage age is 22 for men and 2 for women, two years older, because women mature earlier and men mature later, which is normal and makes people the most suitable state.
Brother-sister love pays more attention to feelings, so it's hard to say whether life is suitable.
first, if women are older than men, the gap in psychological age is even greater. Women's psychological age is two or three years older than their actual age, while men's psychological age is two or three years younger than their actual age. In this way, from a mature point of view, the gap between them is even greater, which can be seen from the appearance, not to mention the way of handling things. Different thinking will make them out of step, very troublesome and very tired.
Second, the love between brothers and sisters may appear in daily life in the form of mothers taking care of their sons. Women have experienced many social events, and their minds are more mature. Men are young and ignorant. They should not only make their own decisions, but also take care of him in life and help him ideologically. There is no more worrying and tiring role in the world than being a mother.
Third, girls need to be cared for, but boys need to be cared for. In normal times, I only see my sister coquetry in front of my brother, and I have never seen my sister coquetry in front of my brother! This kind of love is upside down, which does not reflect the nature of men and women, and it is bound to be very tired in getting along.
Fourth, physical torture, a woman's appearance gradually changes with age, and it will change greatly every few years. For example, after 3 years old and 4 years old, the change gap between men and women will be even greater. Maybe men can't see any changes, while women are covered with traces of years. She will always wonder if this man still loves himself when he is old ...
In short, I think. Right!
You think that a man younger than yourself will make you tired, because he is immature, and there are many things you need to worry about, so you need to let him do everything because he is younger than you.
In fact, men have the same problem even if they are older than you. Science shows that men mature later than women both psychologically and physically. So men of the same age or even older than you will not be more mature than you.
One more thing, men don't hate to hear it. Most men, regardless of their age, are not particularly mature in front of their lovers. In life, you will find that he will always be like a child who hasn't grown up. Without you, it's like life can't take care of itself.
quarreling won't let you down. I take it out on you when I'm unhappy. I'm more delicate when I'm sick, and more fragile when I meet something ... This is a man, regardless of age. (Not all of them, just most of the men)
It's not so much that the brother-sister relationship in reality is tiring, but the reality that we have to face after the brother-sister relationship is tiring!
Sister-in-law love itself is not tiring
Just like normal feelings, a good sister-in-law love will be relaxed, comfortable and sweet! The two people depend on each other, care about each other, rely on each other, learn from each other's strengths, and make progress together.
My girlfriend and I have always been like this. For example, I have a wide range of hobbies, so I teach her what I know. Take her swimming, teach her the rhythm of breathing and coordinate her body; Take her to play table tennis, teach her how to hold the club, how to aim at the target and how to hit the ball; Take her to exercise, teach her how to control her breathing, how to stretch her muscles and so on.
as for her, she is a complete snack and a top scholar of milk tea! I know all kinds of milk tea like the back of my hand, and I know a lot about it. I have been drinking happy water before I met her, but I changed to milk tea after I met her, hhh!
She will show me around the delicious food and teach me to use the APP to find a good treasure shop. Invite me to eat ice, which greatly satisfies my taste buds.
We have experienced so many firsts together. The love experience is really rich and colorful, and we are completely unaffected by the age difference when we get along. We rely on each other, care about each other, make progress together, and each of us becomes better!
So, brother-sister love is just like normal love, only with an age factor added.
Unfortunately, influenced by traditional ideas, the vast majority of parents in China are against sibling love. The reason is that a young man is not mature enough, and his daughter's marriage partner must be older than her before she can take care of her.
However, age is never a qualified and absolute criterion.
people's maturity and age are not completely proportional. The factors that affect maturity are not only the superposition of years, but also the precipitation of past experiences, the depth of thoughts and so on.
As early as in their twenties, some people began to learn to be independent, face the pressure of survival, fight bravely and strive for self-improvement! Some people are still gnawing at the old until their thirties and forties, content with the status quo, accomplish nothing and live a mediocre life.
To judge whether a person is mature or not, we should comprehensively consider his various qualities. We should not only look at the age, but also look at the degree of mental development, that is, psychological maturity.
the reality that brother and sister are in love with each other makes people feel tired.
All good feelings hope to go to the palace of marriage and join hands with their beloved for the rest of their lives.
so, the real problem comes.
1. The material foundation is not solid
Love is only the soul blending between two people, but marriage is the match between two families. From love to marriage, the level of consideration will also be enlarged from individuals to families.
The man in the love between brother and sister is destined to be young. He has just graduated and entered the society, and he has just begun to accumulate wealth.
Except for a few people with rich family background, most men are weak in economic foundation, and they can only rely on their parents to get married. If you don't have enough material foundation, you can only spell the family background and the support of your parents.
2. The risk of marriage is high.
The older the woman is, the greater the pressure of marriage is. Parents think that the woman can't afford to wait, has no time to fight with the man, and has no capital to continue to consume.
Men continue to struggle and their value continues to rise; On the contrary, women's faces are aging day by day, waiting for men to succeed in their careers, but women are getting old. At that time, women were likely to be rejected, and men should find new lovers.
Lack of economic and material foundation and high risk of marriage are two problems that sister-in-law love must face when it comes to marriage, and they are also the core factors that the woman's parents cannot accept! The real reason for the strong opposition!
The bloody reality is in front of me, forcing people to face it. In fact, these are two difficult problems that stand in front of me.
My girlfriend's parents told me clearly: You are four years apart. Who can guarantee that you will not change your mind in the future? And now that you have no car, no house and no financial security, my daughter will definitely suffer when she marries you!
My girlfriend has deep feelings for me, and believes in my character and that I will get ahead in the future.
But her parents and I have nothing in common. They can only see what I have now and judge me only by those unchanging material foundations. Potential and future are castles in the air in their eyes, illusory!
My way forward in the future
I want to marry her. These two problems cannot be avoided, and there must be an explanation!
after many times of thinking, I have a set of methods to break the game in my heart.
I can control the high risk of marriage by signing a prenuptial agreement.
parents only believe in unchangeable things, OK!
a legally binding document, a prenuptial agreement in black and white, will never change! I am also willing to use this agreement to show my sincerity. If I cheat in the future, the law will judge me and the interests of my girlfriend will be guaranteed.
in view of the weakness of the economic foundation, I will try my best to show my self-motivation and execution, and make achievements in my work to prove myself; At the same time, try to do a sideline to improve your income.
Prove to her parents that I have the ability to give my girlfriend happiness without making her suffer.
make money and strengthen yourself.
strength is the last word!
The above is my thinking in the love between brother and sister, interspersed with my experience, and I will share my method of breaking the rules with you.
I wrote a thousand words magnificently, hoping to give you some reference when you are confused in the road ahead. If you think it's helpful, you might as well give me a compliment, collect it and support me. I sincerely hope that beautiful love can blossom and bear fruit!
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