In two cases, one is to hope that her daughter can stand on her own feet and exercise her cooking ability; The other is that if a daughter wants to marry someone else in the future, she must take care of her husband and learn to cook, otherwise she will be gossiped. If it's the first one, no problem. Whether boys or girls, they can cook and won't starve themselves. Self-reliance is crucial. If it is the second type, it is unnecessary. Whether a daughter will be happy in the future does not depend on whether she can cook or obey, but whether her daughter knows how to know people and find a husband who nourishes herself. This is the most critical. The reason for this is the following：

First, it varies from person to person. If my daughter's in-laws are very good at handling people, they will not be willing to teach her to be so considerate and virtuous. If people know that you are easy to bully, then I will bully you. It's best to finish everything at home. Since I am not nice to you, you can accept it. Why should I be nice to you? This is what we often say that a good woman is easy to be unhappy, that is, your goodness will stimulate the evil of human nature.

Second, it is more important to teach her how to meet people when she has time, so that she can learn to cook and serve others. Parents' vision and knowledge directly determine their children's future. If parents also think that my daughter only deserves to go to other people's homes to cook and take care of others in the future, will her daughter position herself like this? You know, the attitude of others towards you is generally determined by your attitude towards yourself. If you don't even know who the other person is, just pay stupidly there, and the marriage will definitely not be happy, so it is very important to know people.

Third, a woman's value lies not only in cooking, but also in taking care of her in-laws and husbands. First of all, it's okay to teach my daughter to learn to cook, but it's for her own good, not to cater to anyone's needs. Only when people love themselves can others love you. Daughters must earn their own living and learn to be excellent, so that they can find someone who understands and loves you. But those men who consume you should stay away, and life will be much smoother.

So parents should enlarge their own pattern, and your pattern determines the future of their children. A well-structured parent will teach her daughter to stand on her own feet instead of simply teaching her to cook and please others. A rotten good man, no one will appreciate your efforts, no one will cherish you, but only think that this is what you should do.