I am also a person who likes quiet, doesn't like noisy and doesn't want to get together to chat, but now I will often reflect on the reasons, advantages and disadvantages of this character.
First of all, I think this personality has genetic factors, and it is also related to the parenting style of parents when they were young.
I remember when I was a child, we all went in and out of the house conveniently, but many people around us left their doors open in broad daylight, as if anyone could go in and chat. Our mother likes to talk to people, but she doesn't allow us to drop in and invite strangers to our home. A classmate at the back of our home once said maliciously: Your home is a deep house compound, which let me know that our children are really unsociable in the eyes of others. Some people talk less, the fundamental reason is that their parents said too little to them when they were young. When I was a child, I seldom chatted with my parents at home. Basically, we talked about things, nothing. Although there are many sisters, I just play and don't talk endlessly, so everyone has developed a character of poor communication and poor expression.
Secondly, this personality is also a kind of self-choice in the process of growing up.
I still use my own example to illustrate that I met Jason after I changed my job at work. She likes chatting very much and can chat with anyone. She is a person with high emotional intelligence. Sister Li, who retired a few days ago, came back to play, and a group of sisters sat there chatting. Everyone says that they have learned a lot about this topic from each other. Several of us said that Sister Zhang didn't know the way of the world. She answered seriously: You people are willing to talk to people with quality, and I am willing to talk to anyone, especially those who don't have a job to look after children at home, such as XXX and XXX.
It seems that this is really the case. The so-called love of silence is nothing more than self-suggestion and self-choice again and again. There are many occasions when we don't participate in chatting, not because we don't want to, but because we think this topic is really boring, useless and a waste of time.
Many of us do things with a useful purpose in life and think that useless days are not worth talking about. But at a certain age, we will find that many things are done in this useless chat, and 99% of the words in life are nonsense. The life of an elite technician like the Monkey King is not necessarily happier than that of an idle activist like Zhu Bajie. If you don't talk nonsense, just say useful words and do useful things, this should be the real performance of low emotional intelligence.
Now I will consciously join some people to chat, but besides our own development, we still care more about our inner feelings. If I am really excluded from my interest, I won't force myself to do my own thing quietly.
So I suggest you just follow your heart and don't dwell on what is right and wrong. There is no right or wrong in your own personality. Every personality has advantages and disadvantages. If you like chatting, you can chat for a while. If you don't like chatting, you can't talk. After all, boring chatting really wastes too much time. You have to believe that there are pigs and the Monkey King, and all kinds of people will have their place.
Encounter this problem! I'm thinking about myself! I don't think there is anything wrong! I like being alone, too Come back after a day's work! Tired and weak, my heart is a mess! What is the mood to get together and chat? There is a reason for the noise at home! It is better to move some strength! Save it! Not only did you do housework, but you also avoided quarreling! Forget your troubles! Why not do it!
If you find the following symptoms, you are suspected to have depression.
First of all, emotional symptoms
Common adjectives: sadness, depression, helplessness, misfortune, despair, loneliness, unhappiness, depression, uselessness, frustrated self-esteem, shame, anxiety and sense of worthlessness.
The most obvious emotional symptoms: sadness, self-blame and anxiety.
Symptoms change at different times, and the symptoms are more serious (most obvious) in the morning.
Lose satisfaction and numb the fun of life.
A person who likes making friends and parties very much will avoid all social activities after illness.
A gourmet whose eyes glowed at a food party lost interest in food.
Second, cognitive symptoms.
There is a dark cloud on my head, and my eyes are wearing sunglasses. Everything is gloomy and negative.
Feel incompetent and doomed to failure.
Inferiority, feeling that failure is your own problem, your own responsibility, and your heart is extremely guilty.
If you are pessimistic and desperate about the future, it is meaningless to do anything.
There are many reasons for future failure, but there is no reason to support its success.
Third, the symptoms of motivation.
People with depression have great problems in getting up, working and even playing.
Students have lost their enthusiasm for learning; Students who used to be among the best are no longer willing to study.
The enthusiasm for work is gone forever, and going to work becomes boring. If you don't want to go to work, you just want to stay in bed and stare at the ceiling.
Making decisions becomes difficult and terrible.
Even if this decision is very important to him, he often loses courage because he is afraid of making the wrong decision.
Fourth, physical symptoms.
The level of physical health has declined.
Loss of appetite. Severe depression is accompanied by weight loss, while mild depression may be accompanied by weight gain.
Sleep disorder. It is difficult to fall asleep, and I will wake up too early in the morning, so the rest of the time is accompanied by fatigue.
Loss of interest in sex or difficulty in erection.
People with depression often pay attention to themselves and are always worried about the occurrence of pain.
In addition to worrying too much about their health, people with depression may be more sensitive to their physical diseases.
Patients with depression can be treated with drugs, such as western medicine such as paroxetine and sertraline, Chinese medicine such as Xiaochaihu decoction, Buyuan Jieyu decoction and Huanglian Ejiao decoction. You can also choose psychotherapy and physical therapy. In addition, self-regulation such as practicing Tai Chi, enjoying music and cultivating hobbies is also beneficial.
Stress is everywhere, but some people are psychologically fragile and may suffer from depression under heavy pressure. The patient's mood is always particularly low. In severe cases, there will be symptoms of inferiority, depression, pessimism and even suicide. So once depression is found, we should pay attention to timely treatment. So, what is the best way to treat depression?
First, the drug treatment of depression
1. western medicine treatment
If the patient's depression is serious and above moderate, antidepressants, such as paroxetine, sertraline and fluvoxamine, can be used under the guidance of a doctor to relieve the condition. , are currently commonly used in clinical antidepressants.
2. Chinese medicine treatment
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Decocting Radix Codonopsis, Radix Bupleuri, Huang Cen with wine, Jiang Banxia, etc. once a day can relieve depression to some extent.
(2) Buyuan Jieyu Decoction
Decoct radix rehmanniae, radix Paeoniae alba, flos Albizziae, cortex et radix Polygalae, radix bupleuri, rhizoma Atractylodis Macrocephalae, Poria, etc. Take it with water and take one dose every day to treat depression. When the symptoms disappear, these drugs need to be made into pills, and the curative effect will be consolidated after 10~ 15 days.
(3) Huanglian Ejiao Decoction
Fried Ziziphus jujuba, Huang Cen, Radix Paeoniae Alba, Rhizoma Acori Graminei, Radix Bupleuri, Radix Glycyrrhizae, Radix Curcumae, etc. It also has a certain effect on relieving depression.
Second, the psychotherapy of depression.
Because the onset of depression has a great relationship with psychological factors, it is also very important to carry out psychological treatment for patients with depression. Common psychotherapy methods include cognitive behavioral therapy and supportive psychotherapy, especially cognitive behavioral psychotherapy.
Third, physical therapy for depression.
If you are a patient with mild to moderate depression, you can choose to repeat transcranial magnetic stimulation, and the effect is still good.
Fourth, self-regulation of depression.
1. Practice Tai Chi
Regular practice of Tai Ji Chuan has a good effect on the central nervous system, vascular system and microcirculation, so patients with depression often practice Tai Ji Chuan, which is also helpful to relieve their illness.
Enjoy music
After hard work, you can listen to your favorite music, although only a few minutes can help you reduce fatigue and release your emotions in a wonderful feeling.
Cultivate interests and hobbies
Choose an activity that interests you and devote yourself wholeheartedly to it, so that you can forget the stress and troubles in your life and effectively relieve the symptoms of depression.
There is nothing wrong.
This is a sign of your mental imbalance. How can a family not fight? If a married person's home is too quiet, it will not smell like home, nor will it smell like home that a family should have. You are not satisfied with everything, so you don't like the noise at home, and there is nothing wrong with the idea of not liking parties and chatting. This is the quiet and pure Xanadu life you want to live, but can you get rid of your present family and all your relatives and friends? If possible, I suggest you become a monk If you think that becoming a monk can't stand the boring days of the past life, then show yourself well, cherish the good life now and live with your family. This is a happy and beautiful thing. It's great to get together with friends, chat, think about the future and recall interesting things about childhood. Why do you want to live a lifeless life? Since life is too short, why not live with yourself and your family? Why not enjoy your present life and be happy?
That's right! I don't like to get together, sometimes I stay alone quietly! Very enjoy
There is nothing wrong! Some people like lively, others like quiet, as long as it doesn't affect others, they like it!
When I just graduated from college as an intern, I was very tired every day and wanted to go home and go to bed early at night. In the end, I will be too noisy to rest, so I choose to go out and rent a house alone.
It's really quiet after living alone. When I come home quietly every day, there is no noise, but I feel particularly lonely and empty, and that feeling is quite difficult.
But after the most difficult time, I gradually got used to that kind of loneliness, and when I am lonely, I can really enjoy my inner peace. Later, I have been living alone, or traveling alone, so I can vent.
But chatting together is social, and people can't socialize. You can't use silence as an excuse. When you are alone, you like to be quiet. When you leave home, it is necessary to communicate with others. You can't leave this society and shut yourself in a space every day. Even if you don't like it, you must face these things.
If you pay a little attention, you can bring more joy to this silly child! ! !
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No problem at all. I don't like too much noise either. I like being alone.
Of course, it depends on the individual, how comfortable you are without affecting normal social interaction and people around you.
There are no two identical leaves in the world, and people are different. Some people are outgoing and like to make friends and get together. Some people are quiet and like to be alone, with a cup of tea, a book and a quiet afternoon.
Extroverts can't force others to be extroverted, and introverts can't force others to be introverted. Everyone has his own way.
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