"Nothing", can't you live well?
Chen Jialing, 40, dressed in professional clothes and high heels, is the special assistant to the chairman of the board of directors in the recently hit Taiwanese drama "The Story of the Evil Woman", which sounds very high-end. To put it bluntly, she does odd jobs for her boss.
Chen Jialing has been wandering in Taipei for 20 years, working hard as a "private nanny" 24 hours a day, and her boss's private affairs are waiting for her to deal with.
What impressed Xinjie was that Chen Jialing couldn't even squeeze out the time to go to the toilet. Holding a pregnancy test stick in her hand, she smiled and patiently answered questions for her clients.
Chen Jialing suffered a heavy blow at her ex-boyfriend's wedding. She learned that many students do well in the workplace and show off everywhere. They are just enviable winners in life.
And she: the work is not smooth, there is no car, no house, no husband and no children, and the emotional life with her boyfriend has long lost her passion.
Chen Jialing was drunk, and the classmates who sent her away laughed at her behind her back: "Being drunk at the age of 20 is lovely, but being drunk at the age of 40 is pitiful".
But the days have to go on, and Chen Jialing is suffering from the helplessness of reality. She began to lose sleep all night, and finally broke out. She stopped pretending to be a lady in order to please her mother-in-law, stopped being respectful to her boss and resigned directly.
In the days of living with her family, she learned to let go and gradually reconcile with herself.
She found that not only herself but also the people around her didn't seem to really succeed. Ordinary life is just the background of life.
Frankly speaking, Sister Xin appreciates Chen Jialing's behavior. Although she has accomplished nothing at present, she is brave compared with the cowardice of most people.
I am not ashamed to admit that I am ordinary.
Middle-aged people without cars, houses, marriage and jobs will be defined as losers by social standards. But Chen Jialing has a strong self, so she doesn't have to be what others expect and have the courage to start a new life.
In the past, many people were restricted from being themselves. Now, more and more modern people can grasp the rhythm of life and become the masters of their own lives.
It really doesn't matter what others say.
For life, Xin Jie believes that most people have to go through three stages of psychological development:
The first stage was when I was young. I had many ideas, kept chasing what I wanted, was busy with my work and worked hard for my life. You envy those who have a good life. You always feel that everything others have is better than yourself. It is easy for you to be blinded by fame and fortune, and you are anxious while working hard.
In the second stage, you often compare with others, and you care about all kinds of evaluations of yourself. Others' comments make you think too much. However, people know that they drink warm water and cold water, so you still have to pretend to be strong and show me good looks. You are tired and full of confusion and confusion: what do you really want in life?
The third stage comes when you realize that you want to be yourself.
Gradually, you understand that a mature person will not dwell on bad people and things, abandon the views imposed on you by others, treat problems rationally, and be himself with a simple and pure mind.
Jiang, who became famous as a teenager, was a "child of other people's family" since he was a child, but he was a typical "pleasing personality". Because she cares too much about each other's feelings, she dares not show her true feelings in front of others and leads a particularly depressed life.
Later, Jiang tried not to care about other people's eyes and tried to act like a real life ideal.
As she said:
"Everyone has his unique value. In the process of realizing this value, he may be bared his teeth, and he may appear clumsy. But if you give up the pursuit of personal unique value and build a person who is liked by others, it is actually very risky. The people you attract are not the people you really appreciate. Those who really appreciate you will always appreciate your pride. "
It is better to please others than to love yourself.
If you are not strong, who will be brave for you?
Many of us are working hard every day, rushing between home and work, silently swallowing grievances at work; For my family, I am always used to reporting good news instead of bad news, trying to satisfy everyone, trying to live the life I want, but forgetting to be kind to myself.
There are also many people who repeat the monotonous life every day. They have been numb in the plain rice, oil and salt, and unconsciously lost themselves.
Time is short, and time makes people old. Many people, like Chen Jialing, find that they have accomplished nothing in life and cannot move forward.
As we all know, it is never too late to learn to love yourself.
Some people know how to invest in themselves at the age of 20, and some people start to care about what they want at the age of 40. It's just a matter of time. We live in different environments, and we love ourselves in different ways, but it is always right to love ourselves. It is more worthwhile to focus on our career than to cater to the orientation of the world.
You may not be a poetic and modest lady, an independent strong woman, or Gao Fushuai in others' eyes, but you are you, the unique one.
People don't live to find their own sins. The quality of a person's life is closely related to whether he can treat himself well. Love is a life-long event.
There is a saying, don't chase a horse, but spend the time chasing a horse on planting grass. When spring blossoms, there will be a group of good horses for you to choose from.
I'm impressed.
Life will treat you the way you choose to treat life.
In Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, human needs can be divided into five types from low to high, namely, physiological needs, security needs, social needs, respect needs and self-realization needs.
Modern people are more aware of the importance of self-worth.
Therefore, no matter how busy you are, you should love yourself, for example:
Clean and decent clothes, fresh and elegant makeup;
Put down the phone and enjoy the food with your taste;
Chat with interesting people and share happiness;
Learn to give up, throw things or delete things regularly.
Give your life a sense of ritual, don't be influenced by others, don't dwell on unworthy things, and don't lose yourself because of work and family.
As time goes by, we have held the night in our hands before we could embrace the morning. You always take care of others. Who will take care of you? Don't find yourself exhausted until you are in your fifties. Life doesn't have to be rich and expensive, but you must come to the heights of life to feel comfortable!
Sister, please remember what Luo Zhenyu said:
There is only one value of success, and that is to live the way you want.
People who live well will always bring their own light. Ta can choose any way to live a good life and make life glow.