# parenting education # Let's take a look at it with examples!

Wen Lu is 11 years old, with long black hair, low braids, and loves all elements related to "Princess". She has reached the age of almost sixth grade, but she never thought that she would get a primary school diploma at this time next year. If you want to prove that she is involved in the campus, you may only have a "kindergarten large class graduation certificate".

She likes her mother, who is very good at making small flowers and noodles. My mother also loves to wear an elegant Hanfu with a high bun, just like a lady in ancient costume who came down from Chinese painting. Wen Lu's mother, Hu Minyi, is 36 years old. More than ten years ago, she came to Zhongshan with her husband who is also from Jingzhou, Hubei Province, and later she had Wen Lu.

In recent years, in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangdong and other places, some parents are not satisfied with the rigidity and monotony of the traditional education system and let their children go to school at home. Five years ago, Hu Minyi also made this decision for her daughter.

here, you can hardly hear the sound of "Lang Lang" reading and the children's playful laughter, and there is no recess bell for several seconds after class. Because this is a school with only mothers and daughters. Now, Wen Lu has become a girl who loves to wear princess skirts. Mother's expectation is very simple. I hope my daughter will find her own prince when she is 18 years old, and then, grow old together.

The memory of the school stays in the kindergarten class

In this ordinary migrant family, children are the light of the family's life. It is undoubtedly a very risky decision to let her daughter study at home without the traditional education system.

On the morning of July 5th, Hu Minyi sat on the mattress on the floor in the living room of Nancy, an English teacher, and talked with Nancy about her children's education. From time to time, my daughter leaned in to say a few words and occasionally giggled.

But chatting, a faint English song came from the teacher's study. Wen Lu, an 11-year-old, sneaked here and hummed with relish to the lines of "forest princess" printed by her mother. This is Wen Lu's favorite cartoon, stuffed in the first layer of a thick CD package. The CD package contains all kinds of English cartoons carefully selected by my mother, and I have watched each one more than a hundred times.

"Wen Lu, don't sing. Read it out as soon as possible." Nancy urged in English.

Wen Lu gave a clever Yes. She can hum the tune of every line along every CD. She loves English and patriotism. But this girl who is obsessed with learning doesn't like campus at all. "I don't like going to school." The little girl opened her eyes wide and nodded, as if she had made a solemn statement. Her attitude is very satisfying to her mother.

If Hu Minyi hadn't watched a CD in 27, her daughter might have met a charitable and qualified teacher in a primary school full of students by luck, dragging a schoolbag weighing more than ten kilograms and doing her homework with a sad face after school. In this CD-ROM entitled "A Speech, A Hundred Years of Shock", Wang Caigui, the speaker, quoted a sentence from nan huaijin: "Now parents and all teachers in the world are doing one thing that is killing our seedlings."

Wang Caigui also said that if we grew up in a place with a high civilization of 5, years like China, our citizens, our children, would grow up without culture. Excuse me, is this called artificial cultural dwarfism?

In fact, 6-year-old Wen Lu has memorized Tang poetry and Song poetry. Hu Minyi hopes that future generations will accumulate in Chinese studies. She said: Daughter, I won't go to school.

At this time, Wen Lugang just graduated from kindergarten in a large class. Her only memento mori about this campus experience is: "Children always bully me." What impressed Hu Minyi the most was that the teacher told her that Wen Lu was wearing a skirt with a belt, and she always rolled and rolled against the belt in class. Hu Minyi and Mr. Hu are from Jingzhou, Hubei Province. At the node where their daughter is about to go to primary school, if they don't let her drop out of school, they can only send her to a school for migrant children in Zhongshan, or send her back to her hometown and let her be a left-behind child.

Mr. Wang is engaged in handicraft business, and Hu Minyi is a folk craft teacher. In this ordinary migrant family, children are the light of a family's life. It is undoubtedly a risky decision to let her daughter study at home without the traditional education system.

But when this idea exploded like a full hydrogen balloon in this family, mother Hu Minyi found that her daughter's life can be full of choices, at least to help her choose a "happy way".

If you let your hand loose too much, the real problem will come crashing over.

When you return to your hometown in Hubei during the Spring Festival, Hu Minyi voluntarily confessed to your in-laws: "Wen Lu hasn't studied math yet." Grandparents were anxious: "How can this be done? How can this work! "

After dropping out of school, Hu Minyi made room at home to make a classroom for her daughter. In this room, Wen Lu whispered from morning till night about Disciples Rules, Analects of Confucius and Four Books and Five Classics. In order to prepare lessons, Hu Minyi, who majored in chemistry when he was in secondary school, studied and pondered the classic Chinese studies.

this process made her extremely painful, but it also made her become a teacher in the National Studies Museum in the future. Of course, this is another story.

Hu Minyi was quite satisfied with the effect after one year's trial teaching. As a direct result, Wen Lu's name will never appear on the primary school enrollment list in the next few years.

Hu Minyi has made an 11-year training plan for her daughter: 2 years of Chinese, 3 years of English, 2 years of Chinese, 2 years of piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and 2 years of study tour. In 29, Wen Lu successfully graduated from this special school with only her and her mother. In the two years of teaching Chinese, which is mainly about Chinese studies, Hu Minyi was able to go into battle personally, but after this stage, she seemed to be unable to do so.

At school that year, Hu Minyi had a capital that others looked envious of. His father was a teacher. This means that others can only buy steamed buns in the canteen, and she can buy steamed buns, which also means that her father's colleagues can give her more urging. Her grades are not ideal, but to her surprise, other students failed in the exam, and her parents wanted to beat and scold her, but her father never clung to her because of her grades.

She tries to deal with many educational problems in detail. Three years ago, Hu Minyi had a son, Yi Qian. Once I went to the park, Yiqian, who loves to jump, suddenly jumped off the stone and fell to the ground. The friends around him broke into a cold sweat. Hu Minyi pretended not to see: "We love him, but we don't have to help him."

She also seeks inspiration from reality. She noticed that after school, children learned "market-oriented" languages such as "Fang *" in a few days; The boy in grade one of primary school was jokingly asked, is the girl next to you your girlfriend? The boy replied solemnly, "No, it's my ex-girlfriend" ... Hu Minyi doesn't want a pair of children to be precocious, she wants them to remain childlike.

In addition, she understands that education is a process of letting go. When Wen Lu was focusing on English, Hu Minyi hired a tutor. The schedule after class depends entirely on Wen Lu's interest. If you are tired of reading, you will listen to English songs and watch English cartoons and movies. If you don't want to learn anything, then find children to play with. In these traditional schools, mothers can meet the irregular requests.

but if you let your hand go too loosely, the real problem will run amok at once. Returning to his hometown in Hubei in the New Year, Hu Minyi volunteered to his in-laws: "Wen Lu hasn't studied mathematics yet." Grandparents were anxious: "How can this be done? How can this work! " Every July, near the day of primary school registration, the phone call from my hometown comes as a routine: let Wen Lu go to school.

but Hu minyi pushed it back again and again. She firmly believes that although the future is uncertain, this road is not wrong.

Many children in the Home-schooling Alliance returned to school

At this time, the school teacher called: "My students have never failed in English!" The scores were unconvincing, and discontent from grandparents followed. Helpless, Zhang Honglin went back to school to read the sixth grade.

In Zhongshan, Hu Minyi has like-minded parents and friends, and Fu Rongli is one of them. However, Fu Rongli is full of hesitation on whether a pair of children go to school at home. For this reason, drop out of school or go back to school? In the past three years, in this multiple-choice question with only two options, his son Zhang Honglin has always been uncertain.

This is a 3-story villa hidden among green trees. In 29, Fu Rongli and her husband set up a Datong National Studies Museum here. Why don't you let your son try to drop out of school? The following autumn, Zhang Honglin did not appear in the fifth grade class of primary school, but in the National Studies Museum. Parents personally went into battle and gave lectures to their sons.

A year later, the mother wanted to check her son's academic achievements, so Zhang Honglin took the final exam of grade five in the school. Fu Rongli gasped when she saw the report card handed down: 33 points in English and 7 points in math.

At this time, the phone call from the school teacher came: "My students have never failed English!" The scores were unconvincing, and discontent from grandparents followed. Helpless, Zhang Honglin went back to school to read the sixth grade. Sure enough, Zhang Honglin's English score "rubbed" on the ground.

Today, there are 13 children in the National Studies Museum. Some of them come out of interest, and some of them simply don't go to school. Fu Rongli enrolled her 12-year-old son in junior high school, but within two years, Zhang Honglin's teacher became his parents again. Fu Rongli pondered that the two-year junior high school course could be finished in one year, which saved his son a lot of time to read books such as History.

Brother Zhang Honglin is "leading the way", and sister Zhang Kaijun may follow the path of "home schooling". Zhang Kaijun has been studying in her mother's National Studies Museum for three years. Every day, Zhang Kaijun spends 7% of her time reading the Four Books and Five Classics. At other times, she will read historical books, interspersed with moral education and English listening.

You don't have to go to school, and you don't have to stay up late to do your homework at the teacher's behest. Zhang Kaijun, 6 and a half years old, enjoys it.

According to mom's plan, Zhang Kaijun may not have anything to do with his student status until he goes to college. Mom said that according to this educational method, Zhang Kaijun will learn much more than his peers on his 15th birthday. At that time, I will get an undergraduate diploma through the self-study exam and climb up the ladder. The next step is to study for graduate students.

With the continuous emergence of "home schooling" cases, some parents are gradually dissatisfied with the isolation and isolation of their children's home schooling alone. On the Internet and in reality, they are looking for the combination of education outside the system. Hu Minyi has joined many QQ groups similar to "Homeschooling Alliance". In Zhongshan group, there are four or five parents.

Five years ago, Hu Minyi also expected to find like-minded parents. But this plan failed to be put into practice after all.

According to her idea, by means of "joint tutoring", parents with similar experiences can be found and teachers can be hired together, which can not only bring the benefits of sharing costs, but also help each other to teach children various skills, whether it is manual, cooking or singing.

but she found a lot of resistance. For example, Mr. Jiang's child is only 2 years old, but another teacher's child is a teenager. Every parent has different plans for their children's growth education, and Hu Minyi still chose to give up.

I hope my daughter can find a "prince" when she is 18 years old.

I hope she can be a tour guide explaining the Four Books and Five Classics in English. But more, my mother wants her to be a happy person.

What my friends are worried about is that Wen Lu will become withdrawn from the collective life. To this end, Hu Minyi tried to send her daughter to attend classes in her women and children center. One day, Wen Lu told her mother in a depressed mood: "The children laughed at me for not going to school." But as my daughter grew up, the idea of sending her back to campus was completely dispelled.

To Hu Minyi's relief, her education method is not ineffective. At the end of June, 21, my mother and 9-year-old daughter were on the train back to Zhongshan from their hometown, and the conversation between them was recorded in QQ space by Hu Minyi.

"Wen Lu, I'm going back to Zhongshan. Do you miss my sister?" Mother asked, referring to Wen Lu's cousin. After returning to their hometown, the two sisters slept together every night. "think." The daughter said. "Do you miss the moon?" Yueyue is her mother's student, a 7-year-old girl who loves to tie two pigtails. "think."

"Which do you like better?" "I like both." "What if I have to choose one?" "Then choose your sister." Mother was surprised, because her daughter also liked Yueyue very much: "Why?" The daughter thought for a few seconds and said, "It is immoral to love others because you don't love your relatives." Mom was surprised again.

Hu Minyi's cousin, an English teacher in Grade Three, once questioned her behavior. Recently, after trying to have a simple English conversation with Wen Lu, she was surprised to find that "Wen Lu's oral English expression is comparable to that of college students." This test made her a staunch supporter of Hu Minyi. However, Hu Minyi is not completely satisfied with the effect of the three-year English education. She feels that her daughter only meets 7% of her requirements. Therefore, the completion time of English education was delayed for half a year.

Nancy is Wen Lu's new English teacher. She comes from Xinjiang and loves to wear peacock long skirts. Her life is half dancing and half working. "I will teach Wen Lu as my own incarnation." She said to Hu Minyi, "If my children and I can start over, I also want to choose this free and easy way."

Nancy suggested that Wen Lu should finish all the courses before senior high school before the age of 15. At present, the reality is that Wen Lu only touched the tip of the iceberg in the content required by exam-oriented education. Hu Minyi replied softly, "Well, yes, Wen Lu's grandfather likes this."

Now, grandparents are not urging Wen Lu to return to campus so often, but Hu Minyi is planning to let her daughter take part in an English contest in her own name and go back with a certificate. "Well, Wen Lu's grandfather likes this."

In September, Wen Lu should continue to learn Chinese. Hu Minyi, who has long been a teacher of the National Studies Museum, intends to compile his own teaching materials, and the content of the lecture is "explaining words". For example, the word "cloud", she will collect photos and videos of various forms of clouds, and personally do the experiment of "the formation principle of clouds". In her opinion, the illustrated way can deepen her daughter's understanding.

My daughter likes to play house as a princess, and she also cuts the newly bought orange dress into two pieces to make a princess dress for the doll. She loves painting and watching the food program of Tomato King. She wants to be a designer, a gourmet or a tour guide who can travel around the world. My mother agrees with the latter most: "I hope she can be a tour guide who explains the Four Books and Five Classics in English." But more, my mother wants her to be a happy person. "When I am 18, I will find my own prince, and then I will grow old."

Besides a pair of children, Hu Minyi also has plans for her career. She wants to run a private school with only four or five children, and the name is "Yiqian Academy"; Or run a kindergarten with only games and happiness. What should I name it?