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Many people in Zhihu mentioned something like "Do you want to suffer with boys?" Many people's answers to such questions are negative.
It is said that there are many people who can share joys and sorrows, but few people are willing to accompany you through life after success.
Perhaps, people who say this are experienced people. Once, they all tried to overcome the difficulties of life on the basis of love. I never thought that many men would turn their faces faster than turning pages when they became famous.
In fact, in this rapidly changing society, it is really risky to lose the whole youth and live up to the good time of accompanying men to start from scratch.
Zhang Yu and Xiao Rui have been married for ten years. During these ten years, both of them were busy with their work and often didn't even have time to have a good meal together.
Zhang Yu used to be a poor boy, but in recent years, Xiao Rui never gave up and accompanied him to achieve today's achievements from scratch.
In those years, they were sometimes too busy to sleep. Business has finally stabilized this year. Xiao Rui wants to take a trip with Changyu, relax the nerves that have been tense for several years, and create a world of two people.
XiaoRui talked to Zhang Yu, but Zhang Yu refused. He said that he was very busy recently and there was no one in the company. The company has just stabilized, so wait.
Xiao Rui thinks so, too. After all, the company has finally stabilized. If something goes wrong again, all these years' efforts will be in vain. Xiao Rui gave up his trip and worked with peace of mind.
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One afternoon, Xiao Rui went to buy coffee, only to find Zhang Yu and his ex-girlfriend drinking coffee. Xiao Rui looked at them, Zhang Yu saw Xiao Rui, and then introduced Xiao Rui to his ex-girlfriend. Xiao Rui saw Zhang Yutan's generosity and introduced himself to his ex-girlfriend. At that time, he didn't care so much.
Xiao Rui knew that before she got married, yu zhang said that she had a girlfriend who talked for nearly four years, and then broke up because of a long distance. The breakup was first mentioned by his girlfriend. After nearly four years of love, Zhang Yu didn't agree to break up at that time, but his ex-girlfriend insisted on breaking up, and he finally agreed.
Zhang Yu didn't find a girlfriend after breaking up, and he didn't let go of this relationship until he heard that his ex-girlfriend was married.
For Zhangyu's confession, Xiao Rui thinks he is an honest and reliable person.
Although I have been a little busy in recent years, in terms of women, XiaoRui and Zhang Yu get along very well. After all, after all these years, their relationship is still very stable, but the appearance of Zhang Yu's ex-girlfriend makes Xiao Rui very uneasy.
After returning home, Xiao Rui asked Zhang Yu what his ex-girlfriend was looking for him. Zhang Yu said that she wanted him to help find a good lawyer. She wants a divorce. As for why she divorced, yu zhang didn't ask.
Originally, Xiao Rui wanted to ask something, but Changyu said that she was very tired and went to take a shower. Xiao Rui didn't think much.
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Two months later, my best friend burst into Xiao Rui's office and told Xiao Rui that she saw a woman sitting in Zhang Yu's car. The two of them are still talking and laughing. Xiao Rui didn't believe it, but her best friend had to drag Xiao Rui to see what happened.
When Xiao Rui saw the woman, she said to her best friend, "Forget it. That's Zhang Yu's ex-girlfriend who wants a divorce and asks Zhang Yu for help. "
However, my best friend said, "If you don't get divorced early, you won't get divorced in the future, but if Zhang Yu has money, she will get divorced. Are there men and women with pure friendship in this world? "
After listening to her best friend, Xiao Rui felt uneasy.
After returning home, Xiao Rui wanted to check Zhang Yu's mobile phone, but she actually got a password. Zhang Yu's mobile phone has never had a password before, so it doesn't matter what Xiao Rui thinks.
Xiao Rui knew there must be a secret, so she carefully observed the password of Zhang Yukai's mobile phone. After staring for a few days, she finally knew the password. After turning on the mobile phone, she found an ambiguous message from Zhang Yukai and his ex-girlfriend.
After seeing the information, Xiao Rui's heart almost jumped into his throat. She tried to restrain herself and put her mobile phone back in place as if nothing had happened.
Since seeing Changyu's mobile phone, Xiao Rui has been thinking about what she should do all day. What can I do to win back Zhang Yu's heart? She doesn't want to lose her family or Zhang Yu.
At a loss, she found her best friend and told her these things Her best friend gave her advice and said, "If you don't want to lose this family, take good care of Zhang Yu and rekindle these lost feelings."
Xiao Rui is also thinking about this problem. Besides working, she has not been a qualified wife in these years. She has been absorbed in her work, but she has never been able to go home.
In the evening, Xiao Rui cooked a meal and waited for Changyu to go home for dinner. After waiting for about two hours, Zhang Yu came back and looked at the dishes on the table. Zhang Yu said, "Help yourself, I have already eaten."
Then he went into the bedroom and fell asleep. Xiao Rui looked at the food in front of him, speechless for a moment, and then fell asleep.
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The next day, Xiao Rui put forward the idea of traveling again. After all, things in the company have stabilized a lot. I hope Zhang Yu Can will go with me. They have been married for ten years, worked hard for ten years, and never went out to relax. But Zhang Yu said that she was very busy, and after a while.
Xiao Rui also wants Zhang Yu to go shopping with her. She wanted to buy some clothes for Zhang Yu, but Zhang Yu said that she had an appointment with a client and had no time.
In the evening, Xiao Rui secretly checked Changyu's mobile phone and found that the meal was eaten with his ex-girlfriend. At noon, the client was his ex-girlfriend, and Zhang Yu sent her all kinds of love stories in the form of red envelopes.
Looking at this information, Xiao Rui was completely disappointed. She wants to divorce Zhang Yu, share the property equally, and not have children when she was young. But yu zhang promised nothing, and tried to argue that his ex-girlfriend was in a bad mood and wanted a divorce. She just comforted her out of sympathy.
I never thought that a few days later, when Xiao Rui checked Zhang Yu's mobile phone again, he found that he had opened another account in the name of Zhang Yu's parents and was saving money.
At this time, Xiao Rui finally understood why Zhang Yu didn't get divorced. It turned out that she was afraid to share the property equally, so she was stalling for time and saving money for herself.
Xiao Rui gave a wry smile. From the age of 25 to 35, she gave up her beautiful youth and spent a lot of time making money and dreaming of a beautiful life, but she never thought that when the beautiful life came, no one saw her pay.
Why not suggest suffering with men? Maybe that's why.
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In life, too many women have followed men who have nothing, but they have experienced storms. When the rain clears up, the good life is enjoyed by others.
In fact, the main reason is whether this man is really worth it.
In fact, people like Zhang Yu and Xiao Rui were wrong for a long time from the beginning. He never loved Xiao Rui from beginning to end. He was desperate because his ex-girlfriend got married, and he didn't want to marry Xiao Rui until his sweetheart got back together.
The reason why he confessed to his ex-girlfriend before marriage was that he never cared about Xiao Rui's feelings. Because he doesn't love him, he makes you think what you want. But Xiao Ruitian really thinks it is honest and reliable.
In fact, in front of the person you love deeply, men and women in love will forget their predecessors more or less, but Zhang Yu remembers them very clearly and boldly shares them with Xiao Rui. Obviously, she can't forget it, and the stupid Xiao Rui has become a catcher.
So you have to ask "Do you want to suffer with a man?" It mainly depends on whether he really loves you so much and how his character is.
I think couples who have experienced storms together know how to enjoy a better life and cherish the people in front of them.
A person with good moral character and deep love for you is willing to enjoy it with you, whether it is windy, rainy or sunny.
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There is a saying on the Internet: "It is an instinct to want to cheat, but loyalty is a choice."
Here, "choosing loyalty" has an ethical component. A mentally healthy man understands the meaning of family, can see the contribution of his wife, can understand the difficulty of life, and will cherish it and not trample on it.
And those who can't forget their predecessors and become bad when they have money, besides love rat's disgusting parallelism, blame women for meeting the wrong people at the right time.
There is never a standard answer to whether to accompany men to suffer hardships, because it always varies from person to person. In the end, whether to accompany this man to suffer hardships depends on whether the person in front of you is worth it. Whether it is worth it depends on the observation and understanding of women before marriage, rather than blindly indulging in the sweetness of love.