Xiaohongshu blogger Lifeng talked about how to guide children to solve the problem of fear of difficulties in a video. She gave her children an example of how the Leishenshan and Huoshenshan hospitals were built in only ten days during the Wuhan epidemic. This is an unimaginable example. speed. Sun Wukong also wanted to learn 72 transformations from Patriarch Bodhi, but Patriarch Bodhi deliberately made things difficult for Wukong in order to test whether Wukong really wanted to learn, saying that he didn't have gills like humans, so he couldn't learn it, but Wukong said that although I don't have gills, I have the skills. Bags can also be learned. These two examples are a good interpretation of Mao Zedong’s classic saying: If there are conditions, we must make conditions even if there are no conditions.

? Blogger Yingying has a video in Tokyo about the thoughts of a Japanese doctor suffering from rare cancer before his death: 1. No matter what negative people or things you experience, don’t dwell on why it’s me. Be calm. Accept the consequences and the pain will be halved. 2. Live in the present, complete small goals every day, and gain a sense of accomplishment from them. The Japanese doctor originally loved to taste delicious food, but after he became ill, he lost his appetite. Every day, he would slowly and ritually taste the soft-boiled eggs carefully prepared for him by his wife. 3. Allow yourself to lie flat, weak, and decadent, because just being alive in itself is amazing.

? Mija mentioned the definition of success in the video: Some parents believe that their children’s success should not be defined and their children should not be forced to pursue success. However, as a high-frequency word among 7 billion people, The definition of success never ceases to exist because you don't admit disobedience. Success is victory, winning the game, and making achievements. The bottom line of success is objectivity. Success cannot be self-reliant. It means that you must follow certain rules and gain some recognition from the outside world. If failure is regarded as success, it will only confuse children's basic understanding of the game. This need for socialized happiness is a rigid need of human beings.

? Blogger Mija also talked about the principle of how to use emotions as an effective tool to manage children: When you are the most angry, it is precisely the time when you should least indulge your emotions. Before scolding, First, set a framework for yourself. What did your child do wrong? What principles did he violate? What will be the consequences if this continues? How do you ask him to change? If he can't change, what kind of sanctions are needed. Bring a frame, bring emotions, and then criticize the child severely, your intimidation will be fully enhanced by you, and the child will be completely impressed by you, because he knows that you have no problem with your logic and are reasonable.

Blogger Xiao Yan said that a person with good Feng Shui is a person who cannot tolerate emotions. How to develop the ability to tolerate emotions? She shared her private method: when encountering negative people In the present moment of things, I instantly told myself that no one should try to ruin my Feng Shui, I won’t allow it. As long as you don't have any emotions, no one or anything can hurt you.

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