There is also a problem of concept, which can also be said to be personal education, that is, whether I was well influenced by my family when I was growing up. I have read the psychological analysis of many criminal cases, and found that the reason why the vast majority of criminals moved their crooked ideas and put them into action is that they lacked the "nagging" of their families in their childhood. You did bad things and no one praised you. Over time, your concept of right and wrong and moral bottom line became blurred, including some selfish, rude and unreasonable people in society. He lived in that environment since childhood. What do you mean by "words and deeds"? That is, you have done a lot of things that offend or even insult others, and you don't know it. Others remind you that you still think people are "too busy" and "too narrow-minded".
Everyone must have met such people and words and deeds. Here I mention 10 (in no particular order). Let's see if there are any similar cases around us.
As soon as a popular word appeared on the Internet, it was used blindly, regardless of the context at that time and the mood of the other party. Obviously, it offended others, and I thought I was witty and humorous and kept saying it. Some people even joke with the public about the niche stalks seen by local TV stations. As a result, no one knows that you are playing with stalks, and the result is targeted by the public. You are scolded, but you still feel wronged, saying that the public is small-minded and accusing, "I am obviously playing with the stalk, you don't know!" Stupid! "
Love to be "smart", don't go online and offline, like to give directions everywhere, "correct" others, and only when they are scolded at last do they know that others are right, so they are eager to find a sense of existence, so they take "outrageous views" to teach others.
I have never been recognized at ordinary times, and I seriously lack a sense of self-worth. So I maliciously argue with people everywhere, trying to prove myself. For example, young people find old coaches to compete with 100 meters, and even send videos on the Internet to ridicule them after winning. When playing a game, others do voice teaching while playing online, and do raiders tutorial. In order to find existence, you can play it 10,000 times, pick out one that is harmless, compare it with the live video of raiders, maliciously ridicule and wrangle, say that others can't do it, publicize how powerful you are from the side, and then put the video link under others' videos to promote yourself in a demeaning way.
Seeing others succeed, they say that others rely on their parents. "If I had such a rich backer, I would have succeeded." ; When someone else's girlfriend looks good, he makes a rumor behind his back, saying that his girlfriend is a good person and he bought it from an indecent shop; I didn't even think about it when I saw people playing games well online. I immediately asked with bitterness, "Are you TAS?" When others saw it, it was obviously a spray that came to find fault. It was unreasonable, so they blacked it out for you. However, you were angry. You immediately went to a place like Post Bar to violently criticize others and said, "So-and-so blacked it out for me as soon as I heard that he was hitting TAS. It must be guilty, garbage!" On the surface, it is dirty inside, but behind it, it is jealous, incompetent and uneducated.
When you are poor, you scold the rich, then you scold the poor after you get rich, and even hate those who live in poverty with extreme resentment. On the surface, you hate poverty, but what you really hate is those poor experiences that have tortured you for a long time in the past, which leads you to hate my house and my dog, transfer the unknown hatred to the object in front of you, and then erupt into pathological rage.
Rice circles are more common. This kind of people are often easy to be used, making rumors offline, online violence, hearing any gossip, not thinking, not checking, immediately listening, followed by abuse and slander. On the surface, it is "enforcing justice", but in essence, because there are no sincere friends at ordinary times, it is this way to report to the group that they are in common danger and find a sense of belonging. However, is this kind of friend who knows each other by hostility really a friend? Have they ever cared about you? These are only clear to you.
I like to steal concepts and argue irrationally, and treat every conversation as a "duel". I have to fight with the other party to win or lose. Not only do I have to be maverick, but I can't let others refute me. Everyone must admit that he is 100% right and everyone else is 100% wrong. Looking at things, black and white, seemingly domineering and unrivaled, but behind it is the inner fragility, narrowness and vanity.
Some people, such as "cyber police" and "just people", often show certificates, certificates and evidence with a mouthful of questioning hostility, and treat others as fake, bad, malicious and dirty when they come up, but even if they are true and well-intentioned, the other party will feel a deep humiliation, which is tantamount to slandering people with confidence. You are so arrogant and openly provocative. Who wants to talk to a mean sunspot whose heart is full of filth and suspicion?
These people always think that they can be alert by "counterfeiting" or "enforcing justice", but they have exposed their personal experience of being cheated frequently and their fragile psychology of being afraid of being cheated. At the same time, they have also told others that your thinking ability is very poor, so you lack the most basic ability to distinguish and reason about things, and you can only protect yourself by stupid and crazy questioning.
Some people, as soon as they hear what others want to do and become in the future, immediately sarcastically criticize others. You think that this will make you look mature and can see the reality clearly, but it highlights your narrow incompetence from the side. Because your actual ability and the ideal pursued by the other party are too far away, you feel it is impossible, so you also measure others like yourself, thinking that others are dreaming and refusing to admit each other's strength and talent. In fact, your heart.
It is very clear that the other person has this ability and possibility, but it is completely impossible for him, so in order to find a balance, you must laugh at each other and throw cold water on each other.
Likes to compete for position. In a small group, you are all classmates or colleagues in the same position, and your status and identity are the same. However, in order to show that you are better than others, some people especially like to fight for a special position for themselves. When several people travel together, he especially likes to be a "leader". Like a superior arranging a subordinate, he arranges seats for others, assigns tasks, and points to others' actions. Moreover, he has a strong desire to control and demands everything from others. He said that everyone will go to the supermarket next. If you have no demand and don't want to go, he will launch an offensive and try his best to make others listen to him, and then he will say to you with a contemptuous smile, "Just stay in the dormitory and let's go", creating an atmosphere of crowding you out from the side. This kind of person seems to be controlling others and fighting for face, but what is revealed behind it is bottomless inferiority and loneliness, so he is extremely eager for the attention and recognition of others.
I started writing in 2005, and started writing essays in 2008. I often study spray and psychology. There is a saying that "existence is reasonable". For more than ten years, people have always asked me why there are sprayers in the world, so ugly, so stupid and so mean. What is the significance of their existence? I often think about it, and then I get several results:
First, the sentence "Being is reasonable" is the truth of nature. Nature talks about "natural selection". These people exist because we have not developed a good system to restrain them at present. Once there is no mandatory restraint, just like pests in nature have no natural enemies, they are bound to flood. But on the other hand, there are too many "pests" in society, which will certainly stimulate people to work hard to develop better systems and help the society to check and fill the gaps from the side.
Second, no matter whether a person's conduct is good or not, they are all compared. Their existence is to highlight and set off those kind, warm and intelligent people. Just like looking at a picture of a whale, if we don't put a boat and a flock of seagulls around the whale, we will never realize how huge the whale is.
Third, Confucius said: "A threesome must have my own teacher, choose the good one and follow it, and change the bad one." If you often watch legal news, you will have the feeling that these people have been providing negative cases to the society, and their existence is to warn people not to do those things, otherwise you will become as ugly, stupid, despicable and unruly as them.
Whether you can accept it or not, we are in such a stage of development, but when people get lost in the dark forest and most people are waving sticks in the dark and are afraid to protect themselves, there are always a group of people who take the lead in lighting the lights. No matter what kind of environment you are in, you should remember that those who care about you always hope that you can be a person who is far away from fools, has wisdom and actively illuminates the surroundings.