The relationship between Vanessa and Kobe Bryant is like a modern Cinderella and a prince. Under the circumstances that Kobe's family strongly opposed it and broke with it, these two people with strong love came together. Later, the sensational Kobe sexual assault case was exposed, and Vanessa also gave full tolerance and understanding.
The studio turned a blind eye to Kobe Bryant's soul.
Vanessa, before meeting Kobe Bryant, was just an unknown student in a high school in Los Angeles, but a meeting at the end of 1999 led to a marriage. At that time, Kobe's fame was not as high as it is now, and Vanessa Laney of 16 was only a sophomore. She often works as a part-time model in her spare time, and one day she was invited to help make an MTV. Unexpectedly, she happened to meet Kobe who recorded a song in the studio that night. They fell in love at first sight and soon fell in love.
The 2000 NBA Finals was Vanessa's first public appearance, but at that time, the media only found that Kobe often molested her off the court, not knowing that they had established a relationship. Since then, the relationship between Kobe and Vanessa has developed secretly under the chase of the media, until April of 200 1 year-Kobe suddenly announced that he was going to marry Vanessa!
On April 9th, 20001year, Kobe Bryant married Vanessa in a Roman Catholic church in Los Angeles. The wedding was accused by the media as "Kobe's irresponsible behavior". At that time, the bride Vanessa wore a white wedding dress without even wearing the groom's tuxedo, and Kobe didn't invite any teammates to witness it.
After getting married, Kobe spent a lot of money
Vanessa, who was born in poverty, came from a divorced family and her mother was Hispanic, which made Kobe's parents very dissatisfied. They always hope that their son can find a suitable girl. After failing to ask Kobe to abandon Vanessa, Kobe's parents and two sisters left his mansion in Los Angeles and resolutely moved back to their hometown of Philadelphia.
Despite the external pressure, Vanessa's obedience to Kobe made him love him more and more. During his honeymoon, Kobe once spent13.5 million dollars to buy a mansion with a private cinema, a recreation room and an artificial lake for Vanessa to relax. They once visited China hand in hand, visited the Great Wall together and left a group photo.
After the crisis, the husband retired and forbeared.
The waves occurred in the summer of 2003. When Kobe went to Eagle County for knee surgery, he was accused of sexually assaulting a female college student aged 19, and then fell into a "sexual assault record" of 14 months.
At that time, Vanessa had a daughter with Kobe. She showed the concession and forbearance of a great mother. Shortly after the incident (July, 2003 19), she and her husband appeared at a press conference, fighting back their grief and saying that Kobe was just confused for a moment. Vanessa said at that time: "My husband is definitely not a criminal. I know he won't commit a crime. He won't invade anyone at all. He has always been a good husband and father. I believe his innocence. Because I firmly believe in his innocence, I will support him and face everything with him. I will do my best to support him in refuting all absurd accusations. I won't leave him alone. I know Kobe better than anyone. In private, he is a thousand times better than on the court and in public. "
Finish the goal and get back together.
Because of this incident, there was a bad feeling between Kobe and Vanessa. It was not until June 2004 1 that they got back together with a big victory. This is the sixth game of the Western Conference finals. The aggressive Timberwolves made a comeback under Garnett's leadership, which once brought trouble to the Lakers. But Kobe Bryant and O 'Neal joined forces to grit their teeth at the last minute and finally beat the Timberwolves 96-90 to advance to the finals!
Vanessa attended the competition in person. After the game, Kobe held his beloved wife and daughter to his chest, and Vanessa also said with a heartfelt smile that after the court storm, the family had made up.
Get married because you need worship.
Perhaps it is the emotional blank that makes Kobe urgently need the comfort of love. 1an encounter at the end of 999 contributed to Kobe's current marriage.
Vanessa Lane, 16 years old, a sophomore, works as a part-time model in her spare time. At that time, she was dancing for Snoop Dogg, and Kobe just recorded his own rap music in the studio. The two met at this point. In the words of one witness, "both of them stopped and fell in love at first sight." Soon, Kobe used his black Mercedes-Benz limousine to drive Vanessa to and from school. Because the girl lived with her stepfather at that time and managed her loosely, the relationship with Kobe Bryant developed rapidly.
The local TV station that got the news began to "search for news" at Marina High School where Vanessa attended regularly. In order to take photos of Kobe and Vanessa together, they even used helicopters to hover over the school. This phenomenon has aroused the dissatisfaction of the school. They forbid Kobe to appear near the school, and forbid him and Vanessa to participate in any school activities. Although the school refused to give any explanation, Kobe's friend Tanahei believes that Kobe's appearance has greatly interfered with the original normal teaching order of the school, and Vanessa has become a big celebrity in the school.
In the end, Kobe had to hire a private teacher at his own expense to educate Vanessa at home.
Boys and girls didn't expect that there was a "storm" waiting for them, and Kobe's family opposed such love. His parents designed everything for Kobe, including asking Kobe to find a suitable and prestigious woman to marry. Vanessa is just a sexy ordinary woman with a Spanish family background and a white father. She is ridiculed by Kobe's family as "uneducated".
One player of the Lakers thinks that Kobe and Vanessa are not together because of love: "Kobe is just happy to have someone around him, and this person has patience to deal with him." He doesn't know that the other person is just a child, and his feelings for him are only awe and worship, not the love between men and women. "
The contradiction was quickly intensified. Due to the financial situation of Vanessa's family, the family often spends Kobe's money, which makes Kobe's parents more and more dissatisfied. At this time, Kobe offered to marry Vanessa. Although his agent Tenem kindly reminded Kobe that it was best to sign a prenuptial property certificate with Vanessa, Kobe refused. Kobe's family wants Kobe to reconsider and get married in a few years. Lakers coach Jackson has the same attitude as Kobe's parents. Even Jordan and several NBA veterans advised Kobe to be cautious in this matter, but Kobe decided to get married.
In April, 200012000, Kobe Bryant and Vanessa got married in a small church in Dande Point, but the result was estranged from each other: his parents and sister left him and moved back to Philadelphia. They didn't attend his wedding, and no one from the Lakers showed up there.
Love is only to satisfy selfish desires.
1995 On a Saturday night in the suburbs of Philadelphia, 17-year-old Kobe invited his high school girlfriend jocelyn Abram to his home for the weekend.
For 16-year-old Abram, it was a boring night and there was nothing to do. As usual, Kobe didn't care too much about her. There is only basketball in Kobe's world. Although Abram was invited, he just wanted to find a partner to watch the ball, and Abram didn't like watching NBA games. Kobe Bryant, who stayed in the cabin, repeatedly watched the videos of NBA stars, and Abram sat beside him patiently.
"He watched the game all night, but I don't mind. As long as he likes to do it, I am willing to accompany him. " Abram said gently that she had been in love with Kobe for four years and knew that Kobe's favorite thing was to "stick" on TV and watch the highlights of Michael Jordan and Magic Johnson repeatedly. Abram never complains.
In the eyes of many people, including Kobe's parents, Abram is Kobe's best marriage partner. Six years later, Kobe got married, but the bride didn't obey him. "In retrospect, he was really selfish to me." Abram said bitterly that at the age of 24, she is now an employee engaged in social welfare activities.
Anyone familiar with Kobe knows that selfishness-or being completely self-centered-is the most prominent part of Kobe's character. Abram recalled that Kobe did nothing but get dressed every morning. His mother will tenderly serve eggs, bacon and cereal, and then watch Kobe eat with loving eyes.
After breaking up with his first girlfriend Abram (this is actually the woman who loves him the most), the relationship between Kobe Bryant and Britney Spears is "dead" and has not developed much. Britney spears doesn't like this boring boy. Since then, Kobe seems to have become indulgent, frequently flirting with some black female stars, including supermodel Tara Banks and members of Destiny's Child bands Kelly Roland and Beas Nales.
He even sent flowers when tennis star Venus Williams won her first Wimbledon Grand Slam title. However, Kobe's actions did not win the favor of the other side. A star who dated him once revealed privately, "When he was with me, he was as cheerful as a child, and he did whatever I asked him to do. But I know that he is not my type, and he knows it himself. "
This stadium is considered as a private property.
He is a big eye-catching star, and he is the darling of NBA. Many people look at him with admiration and envy, but in Kobe's single world, he is very lonely, and only a few people understand the boy's hesitation and helplessness.
He lived in Europe with his parents and two sisters since childhood, and didn't return to America until 14 years old. This used to be his motherland, but after such a long period of isolation, it is already very strange. Kobe Bryant, who attended high school in Philadelphia, was extremely withdrawn. "It was a difficult experience because I didn't speak English very well at that time. I don't know what children really mean, and I don't know the latest black pop culture. " As early as 1999, when interviewed by Newsweek, Kobe revealed his inner secret. Some people envy Kobe for speaking fluent Italian and English, but Kobe thinks he is forced to do so.
"In fact, if I have been living in Italy, I don't want to learn English. But now that I'm back in America, I have to learn English, which is a terrible feeling. If I don't learn English, I will never integrate into the society here and never talk to other children. "
Although he tried to be a standard American child, his strange pronunciation and strangeness to black culture made it difficult for him to integrate with other children. Slowly, there is only one way for him to prove his value, and that is to dunk on others' heads and show his basketball talent to the greatest extent. He wants to be the king of basketball and make other children obey his orders.
Greg Donner, the coach of his high school team, was impressed. "He has a rare attention of ordinary children. He put all his goals on basketball, which is the reason for his success. However, Downer bluntly pointed out that even on the court, Kobe has a selfish side. "He regards the court as his own world. He is the king and can't tolerate others infringing on his authority, so he looks overbearing on the basketball court."
Kobe only owns basketball, except basketball, he is very withdrawn. He put all his energy on the court, just like a "laser beam" focusing on one thing, which is the biggest secret of his success. However, according to some close people (there are few such people), Bryant is simply an "imbecile" except basketball and knows nothing about the world.
Family doting leads to personality defects
Before others called Kobe the "king" on the court, he was already the "king" at home, and no one would disobey his orders.
His mother Pam will do laundry and cook for Kobe, and arrange a day's schedule for him to ensure that Kobe won't miss any games. He has two sisters-Saglia and Xia Ya. They are Kobe's most loyal fans and enthusiastic cheerleaders, and their younger brother is the greatest pride in their lives.
As for Kobe's father, Joe Bryant, he is a successful professional player. After seeing his son's great talent in basketball, he was preoccupied with how to make his son more successful. To this end, he contacted Kobe's agent very early and signed commercial contracts with some merchants.
In short, Kobe is the core of this family. Abram, who has been in and out of this family for four years, said that everything in Kobe's family revolves around him and everyone is happy to accept this reality. "He is the only boy in this family. He was known as the king when he was very young and never changed. "
In other words, Kobe is not only the "king" of this family, but also a helpless "slave" because all his things are arranged and designed by his parents. In the four years of senior high school, Kobe made excellent achievements in the culture class and played well, breaking the scoring record of school history. If he goes to college, he can go to any school he wants. Even after Kobe later joined the Lakers and quickly became famous, Lakers coach Harris still believed that Kobe should go to college.
"NBA is a man's game, not a boy's game. Maybe Kobe can enter this league in other ways, but he is definitely not mature enough. He should go to college and experience more things before playing professional circles. Even from a basketball point of view, I don't have time to do this when Kobe needs comfort when he doesn't play well. If it is a university, everything will be different. " Harris said.
But Kobe's father Joe didn't hesitate. He insisted that his son become an NBA player and stayed up all night negotiating with his agent, Allen Tenem, to ensure that his son wore the Lakers uniform in the 1996 draft. According to the original draft pick, Kobe was selected by Charlotte Hornets, but through Joe's mediation, he got a deal between Lakers and Hornets, the former traded Divac for Kobe. Finally, Joe got what he wanted.
It is said that Kobe will start to live independently in Los Angeles, but Kobe's parents decided to move their family to Los Angeles and bought a villa with six bedrooms and six bathrooms in the Pacific Palisades area to continue to take care of Kobe's life. At the same time, Kobe's mother Pam tried to get her son to date Britney Spears, a popular female singer, in an effort to be "suitable". Interestingly, boys and girls are not attracted to each other, but their parents often keep in touch and try their best to fix the golden couple.
As it turns out, Britney Spears doesn't like Kobe. On their second date, Kobe took Britney Spears to Atlantic City to watch barry white's performance, but Britney Spears didn't like such quiet art. She preferred unrestrained hip-hop female singers to go out on weekends, while Kobe preferred to stay in her room. One of Britney's girlfriends said they were not suitable at all: "Britney likes that kind of wild boy, and Kobe is very gentle." It's like living in a cocoon woven by a family, which is not Britney Spears' type. "
I don't know the rules of entry.
A former Lakers player described the troubles caused by Kobe Bryant's arrival in the Lakers. "We all know that he is a genius, but in the NBA world, 80% of the players are black. It is a rule to give due respect to senior players, but Kobe seems to have no such awareness, so conflicts will inevitably occur. "
Kobe's biggest trouble was O 'Neal, 1996 moved from Orlando to Los Angeles. On the one hand, magic broke his heart; On the other hand, he doesn't want to "fight for power and profit" with "penny" Hardaway. He wants to build another mountain in the Lakers. The Lakers also realized this and appointed him as the new captain of the team. But Kobe has been used to the role of "the boss" on and off the court since he was a child, and he doesn't want to fall behind others after coming to the Lakers.
Many people have seen the contradiction of the Lakers. Billy Hunt, secretary-general of the NBA Players' Union, said that Kobe's personality is that he must take the top spot when he comes to a team, and his attitude initially attracted the resentment of many Lakers players. Moberly, Kobe's good friend and rocket attack guard, said, "At that time, many players thought he was arrogant, but in fact Kobe was confident in himself and thought he had the ability to control this team."
Kobe's first season was not a success. Not only did he have a bad relationship with his teammates, but he also got a good pass against Utah in the last playoff game, but Kobe threw an outrageous "air ball." This summer, the unhappy Kobe returned to Philadelphia with his family. Kobe always said, "They (Lakers players) used to hate me, and now they will definitely hate me more."
Driven by failure, Kobe Bryant, who has a strong nature, practices basketball angrily in summer, throws 1000 baskets every day and spends a lot of time in the gym, trying to make his thin figure strong.
1997 In the summer, after spending some time in Philadelphia, Kobe returned to Los Angeles. He tried to be mature and invited O 'Neill and other Lakers players to his 19 birthday party. Obviously, Kobe offered an olive branch, hoping to improve his relationship with teammates.
But once he stepped on the floor and started playing, Kobe's selfish style remained unchanged. One of his teammates admitted that Kobe summed up the lessons from unsuccessful experiences every season and then successfully corrected them, which made great progress, but his greed for the ball and the style of a group of bosses did not change much, which caused O 'Neill's anger many times.
Resentment finally broke out in a training session. That's1999,65438+October. Kobe's "arbitrary" behavior in training angered O 'Neill, who deliberately knocked Kobe down in a physical collision. Kobe got angry, stood up and glared at O 'Neill, and the two started to pull up. If teammates don't pull away, the consequences will be unimaginable. A player present at the time later recalled, "Although O 'Neill was much stronger than him, Kobe was full of momentum, as if he could beat the big man. I must admit that Kobe is fearless in this respect. "
Loneliness, lack of life experience
Kobe Bryant, who was extremely lonely in high school, seems destined to be "lonely for a hundred years." After coming to the Lakers, he didn't have any friends. To make matters worse, he challenged O 'Neill everywhere in the team and wanted to replace him. In the lounge, Kobe never communicates with his teammates and hides in a corner to do his own thing. When the team flies away, Kobe always chooses the seat in the back row, then puts on a pair of headphones and revels in his inner world. After the game, contrary to the situation of other teammates in groups of three, he will stay in his room and watch videos, and his teammates will never be allowed to go out together.
He watched orthodox movies, which his mother picked out and put in his luggage before he left. Of course, Kobe also watches movies that his parents would never let him watch at home, such as FACE/OFF's The Godfather. His parents never let Kobe watch some negative, violent and pornographic movies. But in the eyes of Rebako Tonahei, who became friends with Kobe in the first season, Kobe's parents are as lenient as the police in the Pacific Ocean. "Their intentions are good, of course, but it is wrong to do so. Kobe needs to know other things in the world. "
The last "training conflict" still hasn't changed Kobe. He still closed himself up, only occasionally going to the movies with derek fisher or Travis Knight. The last two are recognized gentlemen in the team. Fisher is also very unsociable. If he has time, he would rather read the Bible in the locker room and pray with the team's pastor. He will eat with the team, but he can always avoid group activities. However, Lakers players do not regard Kobe Bryant and Fisher as the same person. The latter think they are calm and quiet, but for Kobe, they interpret it as arrogance.
There is also a subconscious tendency of Kobe Bryant-he doesn't want to go out to play with his teammates because he doesn't want to be regarded as an ordinary NBA player. He once said to a Lakers teammate, "I will never get into trouble like Michael Tai Sen again." His friend Steve Stowe revealed that Kobe once said that he didn't want to be regarded as a typical star by the media, which was very important to him.
But at the same time, Kobe also lost a lot of experience. Like rock stars, NBA players often encounter "skinny people" (girls who want to have sex with big stars), so many NBA stars have rich experience in this field. After a long time, they summed up two experiences: first, let your attache deal with these women, let your bodyguard drive away those women who want to have a one-night stand with you, and never deal with them yourself; Second, carry a box of diamond bracelets with you and give one to that woman every time you have sex, thus avoiding the subsequent troubles.
Perhaps, if Kobe had had experience in this field and knew these two rules, things in Eagle County would not have come to this stage that night.
Kobe and Vanessa met by chance. 1999165438+10, when Kobe visited the shooting scene of a musical film, Vanessa, who was only 18 years old, was on the scene as a background model. They fell in love at first sight. Vanessa designed an earhook for Kobe, and Kobe put it on his left ear. A romantic love story begins. ...
Vanessa is a beautiful Latino girl. Her mother is American and her father is Mexican. Before meeting her, she lived in Huntington Beach with her grandparents. She has excellent academic performance, is very talented in painting and is very active in the school drama club. But she just took it as a hobby and didn't consider becoming a professional actress. It is said that during the period of infatuation with Kobe Bryant, helicopters often appeared over Marina High School where Vanessa attended, which was the story that the media was following them.
In this love story, Vanessa is the condemned character. It is even said that Kobe's mother thinks she is after her son's money. The media also pointed the finger at her, thinking that Kobe's enthusiasm for Vanessa was his immature performance. Others asserted that Kobe's sports career would be ruined by this woman, because Kobe refused the invitation of the American Basketball Association to join the Dream Team 4 instead of grant hill for her.
But Kobe still maintains his own independent personality in his marriage. In May, 2000, Kobe Bryant, 2 1 year-old, announced to reporters that he proposed to a young lady after a team training. After the NBA finals, their marriage was accepted. "She is my star." Kobe said. Besides revealing her age and hometown, Kobe refused to provide more information about Vanessa to the media. "She brought another extreme to my life. I only knew basketball before, but she made my life more balanced. "
"When I learned the news, I deliberately walked behind Kobe and looked at him. He was surprised and asked me what it was. I asked him if he felt that he was wet behind the ears (which should be close to China's "wet behind the ears"), so it was too early to get married. But he replied,' Oh, I do everything before others'. He is confident that he can take responsibility and I am happy for him. " Jackson then told reporters.
"When you were young, you were always full of fantasies," Vanessa's grandfather said of her engaged granddaughter. "She looks very happy."
And their engagement gift has also become a topic of discussion. This is a dazzling seven-carat diamond ring worth $654.38 million. Sandy Friedlund, the owner of Kobe Bryant's jewelry store, said the ring was as big as a nickel. "I've been thinking about how to make this ring this morning," Fred Lund said. "The biggest ring I have ever made is only two carats. This is too big! "
But the wedding was postponed to April 200 1, 18, a few days before the start of the playoffs. The wedding was held in a Catholic church near Los Angeles. Only a dozen guests were invited to the wedding, all of whom were relatives of the bride and groom. Kobe Bryant and his angel stood under the heart-shaped arch and received the blessing of the priest. The bride wore a white wedding dress, and the skirt dragged straight to the ground; Kobe is dressed in a handsome black suit. Their feet are covered with red rose petals.
Kobe kept a secret so well that almost no one knew the details of the wedding except the family who came to attend the ceremony. Even the Lakers teammates learned the good news after training the next day.
The love story between Kobe Bryant and Vanessa is full of controversy, and even their skin color and age are the targets of some people's criticism. On the forums of some websites whose main users are black, there are many voices accusing Kobe, such as: "How beautiful that huge diamond ring would be if it were worn on the hands of our black sisters!" "Wait a minute. Some people even come to the conclusion that once black men succeed, they will say goodbye to black women. All these remarks show that interracial marriage still makes many black Americans nervous, and they are afraid that interracial marriage will destroy African-American society. Besides skin color, Vanessa's age has also become the focus of discussion. A reporter wrote humorously in the article: "Kobe is one of the most handsome and energetic stars in the NBA. I wonder how this 18-year-old girl made him fall at his feet. "Some fans think that marrying a high school girl shows his immaturity. More boring reporters predict that their marriage will last two to five years.
Kobe, on the other hand, sneers at gossip and takes good care of his cherished partner. Compared with secular law, he values the rare truth in the world more. On the evening of May 1 1 only one month after their marriage, before Kobe prepared to play the third game against Kings on behalf of the Lakers, he learned that Vanessa, who was far away in Los Angeles, was taken to the emergency room because of severe pain in her left side. Bryant quickly contacted the attending doctor and learned that his wife would not be in danger, only to calm down a little. As a result, he scored 36 points in the next game and led the team to beat the king.
As soon as the game was over, Kobe got on the plane and returned to Los Angeles. When he entered the room in a panic, he found that his rescued wife had sunk and fell asleep with the accompaniment of music. After staying at home with his wife for a day, Kobe Bryant 13 flew back to Sacramento, leading the team to beat the Sacramento Kings, the top player in the regular season, with 48 points 16 rebounds. After the game, Kobe said, "My wife is ill. Going home from the away game didn't distract me too much. In fact, it's only a game against Kings, and my love for my wife is more important to me. Her health is very important to me. To tell the truth, when I heard that she was ill, I was very scared. You know, it's just a game. It is more important for me to keep her healthy because she is very important to me. "
According to Jackson, besides playing ball, Kobe's only interest on weekdays is to go shopping with Vanessa. In this league where even the moral model Jordan is passed down, Kobe's behavior is amazing. Kobe loves Vanessa in every way. He once bought her a York puppy worth $2,000, which became a hot news in American tabloids. In order to give Vanessa a quiet world, Kobe has never allowed the media to interview her. When some good reporters ask about his private affairs with Vanessa, Kobe will also refuse to answer mercilessly. Once, an ESPN reporter went to Kobe's house to interview him, and Vanessa stayed upstairs all the time. A well-known reporter tried to ask Kobe about his married life, and Kobe said, "This has nothing to do with you!" " "The old reporter joked," Hey, maybe I can give you some useful advice. " Kobe replied, "I can handle it myself. "
After nearly two years of marriage, Kobe did not "ruin his sports career in the hands of this woman" as some people predicted; On the contrary, marriage has made Kobe more mature, and teammate Fox also attributed Kobe's progress in the past two years to his marriage. He said, "Marriage has filled Kobe with sacrifices and responsibilities."
On June 65438+1October 65438+September 2003, the little princess of the dynasty, Natalia Diamanti Bryant, was born. Champion, young hero, beauty, little princess, as a man, Kobe has an enviable successful career and a happy family.