In the superficial communication in the network, we can analyze the personality psychology of the other person from their avatars and nicknames. If people face to face with us in real life, how do we view the huge amount of information brought by some trivial things?

as the saying goes, grass and ash snake line, lurks thousands of miles.

No matter how good a person is at hiding, he will not reveal his true inner thoughts in language behavior or even expression, and will always betray himself in casual details.

1. Observing a person can pay attention to his clothes

The color of clothes can also show a person's aesthetic taste and life style.

In terms of color, you can refer to an article written by Ru Guo before [The Relationship between Color Matching and Atmosphere]. On the matching, people with serious and regular personality like to wear formal clothes and dark colors, while those who like casual and light colors are easy-going and friendly.

In addition, details are also very important. Many people pay attention to tidy themselves up on big occasions or when meeting people for the first time, but some details may not be in place, such as men's shoes, belts, watches, women's earrings, necklaces and hair accessories. These places are the easiest places to see a person's real economic situation and professional class.

Second, pay attention to hair style. Nail

Hair style can tell a lot about this person's situation, especially the quality of hair can better see a person's body temperament. A good body condition is also good, and a good body temperament is relatively mild. As for personality, it is more related to the hairstyle chosen by the other party.

The neatness of nails also represents a person's mental state. Even if this person is busy at ordinary times, if he is a cultured person, he will pay attention to tidying his nails and hair before meeting people.

Many ladies like nail art. You can pay attention to their nail art patterns and see their aesthetic level.

Third, the other person's manners

When talking, eyes are very important. If people with evasive eyes are talking to you, they are either disloyal or have other intentions; Either the heart is vacillating and the character is weak.

No matter what kind of person, it is not suitable for deep friendship. The former helps him count money if you are accidentally sold by him, and the latter "mourns his misfortune and angers him". If you get too close, you will be involved in the vortex of life that he cannot solve. This kind of person is like a vine, and even the strongest tree will be dragged down by him.

When talking, it is not advisable for people who make a lot of small gestures. When people are guilty and hide something, they either have no confidence in what they have done or are quite unsure.

If it is a business cooperation, you must be careful. It is very likely that he is not very confident about this project and needs exaggerated actions to strengthen his psychological construction.

if your voice is too sharp and dry, be careful of your bad personality and temperament, and you will have trivial troubles if you stay for a long time.

Therefore, people who really have a heart will try to train their voices to be as mellow as possible.

Fourth, there is indeed a basis for the appearance of the face.

What is really worth studying is the appearance of the person, not whether it is beautiful or not, but the shape and appearance of the five senses are linked to the spirit of the owner.

Eyebrows dominate people's spirit. People with good eyebrows will not be gloomy.

If the eyebrows are loose, most of them are not very smooth. People with raised eyebrows are strong-willed, and those with eyebrows hanging under them are not very considerate of others. However, in ancient times, they were called "long-lived eyebrows", probably because such people are in good health and good mentality instead of directors.

The eyes are the windows of the soul, which are deep or simple in calculation, and it is difficult to hide them. Beauty's eyes are usually blue and clear, and they are connected with the liver. Such people are not easy to get angry. People with good personality and good manners always have a little turbidity in their eyes.

Baoyu once said that unmarried girls are pearls, but after they get married, they become less clear, and when they reach the level of mammy, that's the fish eye.

Why is this? Just because women at that time were less literate, and their parents were short after they got married, they easily fell into haggling over trifles, and people became worldly. In fact, there are many old ladies with white hair, wrinkled faces and bright eyes. It is really not easy to maintain such elegant demeanor all their lives.

The nose is the dominant bone for people to face. People with high and straight noses tend to be more tenacious and more self-motivated, and the root of the nose is a relatively low personality in the middle of the eyes.

people with big noses are broad-minded, which means that the older generation said that they are blessed, and those with meatless noses will be a bit mean.

The nose is also the easiest place for cosmetic surgery, and sometimes fine adjustment is not necessarily bad. After all, the face will give others a strong psychological hint, and cosmetic surgery is also quite a test of people's aesthetics.

The mouth feels a little less obvious. People with well-defined mouths are stubborn, and people with good lips have better heterosexual relationships.

The whole face can't just look at the five senses, and the arrangement and combination are also very important. Some people's five senses are not outstanding, but they can look good together, and the people who can look good are in harmony on the whole, which is mostly related to the acquired cultivation.

5. Overall aura and body language

Some people walk fast, while others walk slowly; Some people walk steadily and vigorously, while others skip around. Some people are cautious in everything they do, while others are careless in any occasion.

If you want to train your aura, the first thing is to be tall and straight, and the neck rises. The so-called "human backbone", if a person hunches over and his neck collapses, it will give people a very bad feeling.

There are more details about body language, but for ordinary people, it is not easy to tell clearly that when speaking, looking left with eyes is remembering, while glancing right is making up, or holding hands on your chest is guarding against it, shaking left and right is impatient, and even when speaking, you are not interested in the conversation and want to end something.

these details are not routines, and they should be analyzed in the light of the atmosphere of the occasion, and they can't be summarized simply in a few words.

people are often influenced by the "first cause effect", and the first impression determines whether people will further communicate. Even if they are partners or have to work together, this initial "stereotype" will lead to people's opinions and evaluations that are not easy to change.

Therefore, it is a good start for long-term communication in the future to accurately understand each other's personality and mode of dealing with people in the initial shallow communication.

Of course, don't forget that people will consciously change their personality and mode of doing things in the interaction with the outside world and insight into themselves, so we should constantly adjust our observation angle, and know that "after three days, we should sit up and take notice".

The information obtained by people's understanding of things in shallow communication can only be used as a simple reference to a person's real situation, and can never be used as the whole basis for us to look at others.

"It's hard to draw bones by painting a tiger's skin, but a man knows his face, but he doesn't know his heart." Let's practice it.