Life is like a dream. When we occasionally wake up from the dream, how do we feel when our hearts are far away? Let’s take a look at this article "How do we live our lives when our hearts are far away?" The life you want?" Let's do it!

On a comfortable afternoon, leaning on the sofa and listening to the gentle piano music, I began to think about life again.

In the past 26 years, I have met many people and seen too many different versions of life, good or bad. After all, everyone has their own outlook on life and values. But as I walk, I will become more and more clear about what kind of life I want. Materially, I must obtain it through my own efforts; in the spiritual world, I must be more fulfilled.

Isn’t it the purpose of people’s lifelong efforts to build a rich and interesting spiritual world?

In the four years since graduation, I have worked three jobs, and I am currently on my third job. I have been working as a freelancer for 2 and a half years, and have earned an income of over 10,000 yuan. At the same time, I also have time to do the things I like, such as traveling, reading, writing, practicing calligraphy, painting, exercising, studying psychology, etc. (Previous articles include records in this regard).

Although my income is not particularly high, I am quite satisfied with my overall situation. I am relatively solid, happy, confident and professional.

The most important thing is that through the medium of work, my abilities have been improved and I can see my own value. I believe that through my hard work, both material and spiritual values ??will continue to rise. .

I have seen the lives of many others and lived my own life, so I unconsciously began to think about this question? How can we live the life we ??want when our hearts are far away? Thinking back to past experiences and insights , I'm trying to figure it out.

There is a distance in the heart

First let’s talk about the distance in the heart. As Gao Xiaosong said: Life is not just about the present, but also poetry and distance. Yes, I agree.

Today’s society is no longer that era when we had enough to eat and clothing to keep warm. Especially those of us who have read some books and walked some roads, the pursuit of a happy life is not limited to the pursuit of material aspects. .

Zhao Dehan in the recent hit drama "In the Name of the People" is a typical negative example. He is a person who is afraid of poverty and has an extreme desire for material and money. However, after embezzling hundreds of millions, he didn't spend a penny. The most he did was just stare at the bed and the wall.

For me, the ambiguity in front of me and the distance in my heart both really exist. As an independent and rational person, it is perfectly normal to have a desire for material things and want a better quality of life. However, what can make my heart ripple and my eyes light up is always my pursuit of the spiritual world.

For example: making close friends, getting to know yourself again while reading, bringing non-chicken soup-like positive energy to others, practicing calligraphy and painting with peace of mind, an unknown and fresh trip, etc. The joy these things bring to me cannot be replaced by any material thing.

Having a distant heart allows me to feel the richness and three-dimensionality of this world better. If one day, the only thing in my mind is making money, I think I would be pitiful and pathetic at that time.

The life you want

Let’s talk about the life you want. Recently I was reading the book "Money and a Good Life", which mentioned that a good life means having more leisure time, and leisure and doing nothing are two different things. Leisure is an activity without any external purpose. Use In Kant's words, it is "purpose without purpose". Yes, this is the life I want too.

Making three or two close friends allows each other to understand each other deep in the soul, and no one is lonely. This is a great blessing for others and for oneself. As the saying goes, "Drinking with a thousand bosom friends" Too few cups?

Re-recognizing yourself while reading is the biggest feeling of reading in the past two years (there are many articles in the public account about reading insights and recommended books). It is true that books are the ladder of human progress.

At least for me, reading allows me to talk to great people in ancient times or outstanding people in modern times, to understand a new or emotional world, to change my perception, and to fill my heart. Ultimately, you can re-understand yourself through the life experiences of others. Knowing yourself is something that everyone explores throughout their lives.

I am also happy to bring non-chicken soup positive energy to others. Because of my step-by-step down-to-earth actions and persistence, I now know better about intentions, actions, persistence, optimism, facing problems, maintaining a good attitude, etc. And this kind of positive energy emanating from the inside out can really infect those around me. people.

When I see someone getting better because of my infection, the joy is beyond words. This seems to be a by-product of getting better on its own.

Practice calligraphy and painting with peace of mind. The reason why I practice calligraphy and painting is that I just like it for no reason. Secondly, when I write and draw, my heart becomes calmer, more peaceful and less impatient. I like this. state. My calligraphy and painting skills are average, but so what, I like this and that's enough. It doesn’t require much external purpose.

An unknown and fresh trip is also excellent. The most beautiful thing in the journey is not the scenery, but enjoying the current mood and the people and stories on the journey. At this time, accompanied by the beautiful scenery and humanities and customs, it is a rare trip. There is no clear route or destination, but there is a free and leisurely heart.

This is the life I want: to have a freelance career that I like, a job that I like very much, that allows me to grow, brings me a stable income, and at the same time, I also see my own value; at the same time, I still have a lot of free time to do all the above activities that have no external purpose.

Now I am living such a life, and I believe that as long as you love life with your heart, this will be an infinite virtuous cycle.

How to do it

Finally, let’s talk about the most important part, how to do it in order to live the life you want.

I have seen too many successful examples and there are many versions of the path to success. Speaking of success, I am reminded of a sentence in the book "Put Your Heart In" by Schultz, the founder of Starbucks: Success should not be measured by money, but what should be focused on is how you achieve your goals.

Let’s give a simple analogy: two people who also have a fortune of five million, one sells high-quality products and provides high-quality services. The other is by selling adulterated and substandard products or by deceiving others. Would you say that the latter is also successful?

On the other hand, those who are down-to-earth and successful live the life they want. They all have the same phenomenon: they are doing jobs or careers that they really love.

For example: Wang Chaoge who loves directing and writing, Li Jian who loves music and books, Lei Jun who loves products and design, and Youzan founder Bai Ya (a proud native of the same county) who likes toying with ideas. Wait, their success is self-evident, but who could have predicted today's grand occasion from the beginning?

Although a person can achieve today's achievements, it must be a combination of many factors. results, but I have to say that the core factor must be their love for their work or career.

Because of my love, I devote myself to it and persevere. In time, I will surely have a good harvest both materially and spiritually.

Let’s talk about myself. Although I am still far from being successful, I am quite satisfied with my current situation and I need to continue to work hard.

I like sharing, recording, eating, and freedom, so I don’t know how I came across this career that suits me.

During the two and a half years of working as a freelancer, my writing, recording, management, thinking, and self-discipline abilities have improved to varying degrees, because with down-to-earth actions, there must be corresponding improvement in abilities. , and income is really just an accessory. I have written such an article before (Is money really just an accessory to work or career?). Among them, ability is the most important.

Someone asked me some time ago: What do you think is the most long-lasting thing? My answer is that nothing is long-lasting. Any brand or company will close down one day, but its own ability is long-lasting, of course. , times are progressing, so following the trend will make your accumulation more useful.

Some people may say, it seems that I don’t have any favorite job, so what should I do?

Here I want to use the “marginal cost” in economics to explain, also That is to say, if we can sell more copies of a product for which we have invested time and effort, we are doing something with diminishing marginal costs. The larger the scale, the less effort we need to invest and the higher the income.

For example, today’s Internet has been reducing costs and improving efficiency. Therefore, before doing a job, we all have to ask ourselves whether this matter will have a lasting impact on the future. If not, we may be wasting valuable time, even if we appear busy.

For example, I am engaged in sales and management. Sales has allowed me to accumulate a lot of reputation and character in the industry, and management has allowed me to constantly improve myself and think from others’ perspective, regarding the future and my work and life. These are all applicable. It will also give me more capital to face my future life.

So I have never understood why many young people still work as order book clerks and typists. When you don't like this job and it won't have a lasting impact on the future, such a life is somewhat desolate.

Hehe, as I write, I find that the answer to the question becomes clearer to me.

For myself, I just want to gain recognition, improve my abilities, and gain money by doing a career I love and doing something that will have a long-lasting impact on the future. When you have free time, you can do what you like and reap the joy of the spiritual world.

The ideal is not far away, let’s move forward together. Life is beautiful, let’s experience it together.

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