How to educate children in order to unleash their potential as early as possible? It's simple, if the baby already feels your care, it means that you are already educating him. This kind of education and training is fragmented. When a child is thirsty, he should be given water, when he is hungry, he should be given milk, and when his diaper is wet, he should be changed immediately. Parents should eliminate their children's discomfort anytime and anywhere, and be keenly aware of their children's needs. Successfully sensing and understanding the needs of children is the beginning of successful parenthood. This is the first successful bond established between parents and children, and is a good emotional foundation for future education and training.

From the time our son was four months old, before breastfeeding, we gave him some mandarin orange juice, and later added banana puree, apple puree, carrot puree, green vegetable porridge, etc. When he gets a little older, start feeding him soup, boiled eggs, potatoes, etc. Cereal crops are the best food that most children like to eat, but Carl did not like to eat them. I think a child's favorite food is good food, so I only give him the food he likes. But we didn't let him eat meat until he was two years old.

There is a German proverb that says: "A person's character depends on his food." Food is indeed related to a person's character. Some people once advocated "vegetable therapy". They believed that letting children eat different foods would help them develop different personalities. For example: giving a child more carrots will make his teeth and skin beautiful; eating more potatoes can improve a child's logical thinking; eating beans can increase a child's interest in art; while cabbage and cauliflower can make a child's mind simple and ordinary. People who eat green vegetables tend to be rash. In this way, children who hate mathematics can eat more potatoes, children who lack interest in art can eat more beans, children who lack perseverance can eat peas, and children who have a bad temper can eat cabbage.

Half a month after our son was born, we insisted on feeding him milk and water regularly so that his biological clock would start to be more regular. Even after he is able to eat, he can still only drink water and not eat other snacks between meals, so that his stomach will never get a rest and the blood will always be concentrated in the stomach instead of the brain. If a child's energy is used only for digestion, his brain will not develop well. In addition, overeating not only hinders children's brain development, but is also harmful to children's health, making them prone to various gastrointestinal diseases.

Most people think that educating children means teaching them to read, read, and learn knowledge. It is true that these are an essential part of education, but they are not enough. I believe that every step of the long process from a baby to an adult is inseparable from education. Sadly, many parents and even some education experts don’t realize this.

Take children’s eating as an example. Most people always think that the more they eat, the better and the more beneficial it is to their health. This is not the case. Eating too much will not only hinder the development of the brain, but also make the child's brain think that eating can solve all problems. You must know that for a baby, the most uncomfortable thing besides being sick is hunger. If a baby is given a large amount of food as soon as it is hungry and overeat, it will make him think that eating and filling his stomach are the only way to get rid of the uncomfortable feeling. When he grows up, he will develop the habit of being overly dependent on material things.

Of course, here, I do not want parents to limit the food their children need, but I want to remind parents who love their children that everything must have reasonable limits, including eating.

One day, I saw my wife feeding little Carl milk, so I walked over and asked, "My dear, did you seem to have fed him just now?"

"Yes, I see. He was crying and I wanted him to drink some more milk," the wife said.

"No, Carl was full just now. He doesn't need to eat anything else, at least he doesn't need it yet." I took back the bottle in my wife's hand and said.

Due to the sudden loss of delicious food, little Carl burst into tears. My wife was a little unhappy and did not understand my behavior.

At this time, Karl's grandmother came over.

"God! How could you treat this poor child like this," the grandmother complained endlessly, "Babies need to drink milk, why not let him drink it. This child was born so unlucky , Why do you do this to him? Oh, my poor child!”

“I don’t want him to drink milk, I just don’t think he needs it yet,” I explained.

"You always say you want to train Carl to become a talent, but how can he become a talent if you don't let him drink milk? You always talk about education, but I think it's all useless." Grandma said angrily explain.

I had nothing to say about my grandmother’s incomprehension. How could I argue with such a kind-hearted grandmother?

Afterwards, I explained the truth to my wife and told her that loving a child does not mean blindly protecting him and obeying him. We must treat his training and education rationally.

My wife understands the overall situation clearly and rationally. From then on, she no longer obeyed her children as excessively as before.

Some people may think that what I did is excessive, but no matter what, I think what I did is correct. Because cultivating excellent children requires starting from these details in life, and we should not ignore anything that seems insignificant.

Someone once said: "Different stomachs will create different people. It determines whether the person becomes an optimist or a misanthrope." I think this sentence shows that eating not only affects It affects people's physiology and also affects many other aspects.

Children sometimes cry for no apparent reason. And adults always think that when a child cries, it must mean that he is hungry or sick, etc. In fact, the real situation is not like this.

Just like adults, children also have the desire to be valued by others. Even a newborn baby will have this instinctive desire that is almost adult nature.

It is true that each of us desires to be respected or valued by others. But how many of us actually do this in our lives?

Some people get the attention of others through their talents, and some people get the attention of others through their own efforts. No matter what the situation is, they are worthy of our respect. However, there are also many people who are eager to get the attention of others and adopt the attitude of begging for alms. This approach not only does not gain the dignity of others, but also arouses resentment from others. It is a stupid behavior.

One day, little Carl burst into tears for no apparent reason in his cradle.

Just when my wife was going to Carl's room to see him, I stopped her: "Did Carl eat something just now?"?

"What I ate was fed just now." The wife replied.

"So, has he been feeling unwell these past few days?" I asked.

"No!" the wife replied.

"If this is the case, it's best to ignore him." I said.

"Why? Carl is crying!" My wife looked at me strangely.

"I think since he is not hungry and shows no signs of illness, but if he wants to cry, it is his own business, and we don't need to pay attention to him." I said.

"It is a child's nature to cry! I will comfort him and he will be fine," the wife said.

"Do you know why children cry when they are neither hungry nor sick?" I asked.

"Oh, all children are like this!" said the wife, "Maybe he needs me.".

"Of course, he must miss you." I explained to my wife, "But I think the fundamental reason is that he wants us to know his existence and want to attract our attention.".

After my persuasion, my wife did not rush to see her child as soon as she heard him cry. Sure enough, after a while, little Carl stopped crying when he saw that crying was useless.

After a while, when my wife and I secretly went to see him, he was lying in the cradle and playing happily alone.

The purpose of my doing this is to make little Carl feel: if you want to win the attention of others, you can't do it by crying and begging. On the contrary, you should seek happiness for yourself when you don't get the attention of others.

Although it is impossible for Karl as a baby to understand this truth, I think he will definitely be able to understand this as he grows up.

If a child’s potential as an infant is not harnessed and developed, these abilities will never develop. Therefore, I decided to start by training his five senses (ears, eyes, mouth, nose, skin) to stimulate brain development. Because hearing, vision, taste, smell, and touch are the physiological basis for human beings to perceive the external world. Fully stimulating children's sensory organs can promote active activity in various parts of the brain.

A child will become smarter if his brain can be actively stimulated by stimulating his senses.

Hearing is the first of the five senses to be developed, because babies' hearing develops earlier than their vision. Mother's sweet singing is extremely important and effective in training hearing. Luckily, my wife has a great voice. Since he was born, he has often heard his mother singing beautiful ballads. Although I can't sing, I often read poems to him.

Six weeks after my son was born, I gently recited Virgil's poem "Eris" to him, and the effect was very good. Whenever I read this poem, my son calms down and falls asleep quickly. As the tone of the poem changes, the son's reaction also changes. He became excited when Markley's "Horatius on the Bridge" was read, and quieted down when Tennyson's "His Dream" was read. Through this method of education, the son was able to recite the first ten lines of the first volume of "Eris" and "His Passing" when he turned one year old.

What I want to emphasize is that I did not force my son to memorize poetry, but let nature take its course. Take "His Passing" as an example. Because my son liked it so much, he recited it like a prayer every night, so he quickly became proficient in memorizing it.

In order to let my son have a feel for music, I bought him a small clock that can play the seven tones on the music score, and attached red, orange, and yellow bells respectively. Whenever my son wakes up before breastfeeding , I would ring these bells for him and slowly move the bells left and right to attract his attention. When my son was less than six months old, he could ring the cyan bell, purple bell, etc. accurately according to the names I told him. I thought this was an effective way to get him to develop sounds and colors.

Effectively training the eyes is also an important step in developing children's intelligence. When my son was two or three weeks old, I prepared some colorful kittens, puppies, and deer made of cloth for him, and placed them around him. I often moved the toys to stimulate his vision. I also often let my son Look at the rainbow reflected on the wall with a prism. My son likes to watch it very much. When he cries, he stops crying as long as he sees the rainbow.

In order to train his sniffing head, we gave our son various taste stimuli. However, considering that eating too much sugar and salt is not good for the body, we always insist on eating light food, which can maintain his appetite. Sensory sensitivity can help you avoid developing the bad habit of eating more sugar and salt.

After the full moon, my son was able to raise his head on the bed, so I lined up his feet with my hands and taught him to crawl. Parents must let their children learn to crawl as early as possible, because lying prone is beneficial to the baby. When the baby crawls, its neck muscles develop quickly, and when the baby raises his head, he can freely see things around him, which increases the chance of receiving external stimulation. This promotes the child's brain development and makes the child smarter.

After a child's visual development is developed, it is necessary to cultivate the child's observation ability. There are two ways: one is to cultivate children's observation ability through colorful colors. I hung copies of various famous paintings and a large number of imitations of famous sculptures around my son's room, and read the names of these items to him. At first, the son only paid attention to the colors of the paintings, but gradually he also understood the meaning of the paintings.

Painting plays a great role in the intellectual development of children. Children who can grow up under the cultivation of parents who are good at painting are very happy. I know a little about painting, so I prepared many beautiful paintings of flowers, plants, birds and animals for my son to see, as well as beautiful picture books, and read them to him. He always listens quietly, which shows that although my son doesn't understand anything, he has begun to become interested in my voice and the colors of my paintings. And I often draw pictures of conversations I have with my son to stimulate his intelligence.

I bought a variety of small balls and wood chips in beautiful colors to cultivate my son's sense of color. He is also often asked to play games with various dolls wearing bright clothes. The reason for this is because if children do not start to develop color perception from an early age, their perception of color will be very slow in the future.

Crayons are also good toys for children. I often use it to play the "color race" game with my son. I prepared a large piece of paper. Starting from a certain point, I first used a red crayon to draw a line three centimeters long. Then, my son also used a red crayon to draw a cyan line of the same length. He also drew behind the red line he drew. A cyan line is drawn continuously like this. If the crayon used by my son is different from the color I use, the game is over and my son loses.

As soon as Carl learned to walk, I often took him for walks. During a walk, let him pay attention to the color of the sky, the color of trees, the color of flowers, the color of fields, the color of buildings and the color of people's clothing, etc. This is all to develop his color sense.

In addition, I also pay attention to cultivating his habit of concentration so that he can learn to observe things keenly. My son and I do this by playing a game called “Look Out.” Whenever I pass by a store, I ask my son what items are displayed in the store window, and then ask him to recall these items. Of course, the more products my son can name, the better. If my son doesn’t remember as many items as he should, I will criticize him. This game can also effectively train your son's memory. Because we have been doing this for a long time, when my son was only two years old, one day I took him to a store that sold imitation engravings, and he said to the clerk: "Why don't you have "Venus de Vero" and "Venus de Vero" here?" "Vinius de Medici"?" The clerk was surprised that such a young child knew these two famous paintings.

Because babies have difficulty concentrating, I used vivid objects to teach my son various adjectives. In the sixth week after my son was born, I bought him some red balloons and tied the balloons to his wrists with short ropes. The balloons swayed as his hands swayed up and down. From now on, I will give him a different color balloon every week. Through this game, I easily taught him adjectives such as red, green, round, light, etc., and my son seemed to like this game very much.

After realizing the benefits of this method, I also asked my son to hold wood chips or other objects with sandpaper in his hands, and taught him formal adjectives such as rough and smooth. Of course, this kind of education sometimes has some unexpected bad effects. For example, babies often like to put objects on their hands into their mouths. Therefore, parents should be more careful so that their children will not develop this habit.

Allowing children's hands to fully utilize their functions is very effective in cultivating children's observation ability. It also takes a long time for a baby to recognize his own hands. In order for the child to discover his own hands as early as possible, it is necessary to give his hands something to do.

Every time my son wakes up and opens his little hands, my wife and I quickly let him grab something. We also often move our son's fingers and let him touch things or clap his hands.

In addition, I also induced my son to observe our hands so that he could understand the differences of many hands. For example, I hold a small rattle and shake it. The son would swing his arms and make a noise. I gave him a crayon and a piece of paper when he was eight or nine months old, and I also held a crayon and a piece of paper. I drew on the paper, and my son also scribbled on the paper. In fact, he couldn't draw anything, but he started to use his hands through observation.

What needs to be emphasized is that when I train my son, I will never force him to do anything. Children are still young, and we can only slowly let them realize their potential. I didn't want his potential to go to waste, so I worked hard to provide various effective guidance. In this kind of education, the son always has something to do. He will never be like other children who chew his fingers because they have nothing to do. You won’t feel depressed or cry because you have nothing to do. On the contrary, my son has been growing in a healthy direction from the beginning.

Chapter 3, Section 4 to be continued