in not all cases, "speaking frankly" is an advantage. When dealing with people, we should pay attention to: don't judge others casually, master the discretion of speaking, don't raise yourself, don't belittle others, and be honest with others.
when a person grows up, he is always criticized and accused by his father, and he is very afraid of his father. When he grows up, he may have the same fear of authority as his father. Therefore, when he faces the leader, he will be very nervous, afraid of doing something wrong and being criticized. However, the more nervous you are, the more mistakes you will make. As a result, the leader really criticized him. This further verified his initial fear of leadership: authority is terrible.
In fact, this ending is largely caused by himself. This process is called projective identity
Psychologist Freud found a phenomenon from a 5-year-old boy: the boy repeatedly threw a toy out of his sight and searched for it again and again. Freud called this phenomenon compulsive repetition.
let your child drink milk, and he may refuse. If you ask him whether to drink in a colored cup or a glass cup, he may choose to drink in a colored cup.
there's always a song in my head? Because the brain tends to think about unresolved things, this is called Cai Ganike effect. If you want to end it, just think about its ending.
asking others to help you a lot may lead to rejection. It will be easier if you ask him for a little help first and then ask him for a big help. Credit accumulation is involved here.
The closed door effect is: if a friend asks for help, he is rejected. If you ask for a little help later, it will be difficult for him to refuse. For example, you want to borrow 5 yuan from your friends. Borrow 1 yuan from him first, but it was rejected; Ask him to borrow 5 yuan again, and he won't refuse.
if you ask someone a question, they don't answer. Don't worry, keep silent, keep eye contact, and the other person will continue to talk.
If the window of a house is broken, no one will repair it. Soon, other windows will be broken inexplicably.
People who have just entered the society often feel neglected, need to run errands or face criticism. Some people compare it with the growth of Pleurotus ostreatus, and think that most people have a mushroom experience, especially when everything is just beginning.
Enlightenment: Being a "mushroom" for a few days can eliminate many unrealistic fantasies and bring us closer to reality.
in order to make the stationary flywheel turn, you must make great efforts at first; When the flywheel turns faster and faster and reaches a certain critical point, you don't have to work harder, but the flywheel will still turn quickly and keep turning.
Enlightenment: Sometimes you may find it difficult to do one thing, but if you stick to it, it will become easier after the critical point.