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Carnegie: As long as you can understand the desires of others, anyone will be led by your nose.
I once saw a joke on the internet that a rabbit wanted to eat fish, so it prepared all kinds of tools needed for fishing to go fishing by the lake. However, the rabbit has been fishing for many days without any fish, which makes the rabbit feel very depressed. One day, when the rabbit was thinking hard about how to catch a fish, a fish jumped out of the lake and said to the rabbit, "If you use carrots as bait again, I will come out and kill you, you son of a bitch."

Many people may laugh and forget this joke after seeing it, but uncle always remembers it. In uncle's view, although this is a joke, it is quite meaningful and worth thinking about.

The rabbit made full preparations but never caught a fish. Why? The reason is that the rabbit uses the wrong bait. It thinks that fish like carrots as much as itself, so it will be in vain.

In fact, each of us is a rabbit in a joke. Most of the time, we always stand in our own position and think about others. We always think that others will have the same thoughts and thoughts as us, but in fact, everyone's thoughts are different. It's impossible to guess others with our own thoughts, so it's always difficult for most of us to achieve our goals.

If rabbits replace carrots with fish's favorite ear material, then rabbits will have fish to eat in a short time, and there will even be endless fish. For us, the same is true.

As Carnegie said, "If you can put yourself in others' shoes, gain insight into others' thoughts and desires, and find ways to arouse such desires, then you will never have to worry about your future. If you can do this all the time, then you will do everything like a duck to water. If you can't do this, then you can't do anything. "

Carnegie said this truth must be understood by everyone, but even if he did, how many people would like to do it? This is the core reason for the differences between people.

Carnegie's success is entirely due to his deep understanding of this fishing principle. Of course, other successful people also understand this principle. Conrad Hilton, the founder of Hilton Hotel, is one of them, and he will apply this fishing principle to anything.

When Conrad Hilton was building the Dallas Hotel, he encountered a headache for everyone, that is, lack of money. Conrad Hilton made a budget for the Dallas Hotel, and the hotel construction cost alone will cost one million dollars.

In order to solve the shortage of funds, Conrad Hilton tried various methods, but in the end they could not be implemented and were rejected one by one. Just when Conrad Hilton was at a loss, he suddenly thought of a way, that is, selling land to his real estate Du.

When Conrad Hilton found Dodd, he told him that he was currently facing a shortage of funds and hoped that Dodd could help him solve the financial difficulties. Then Conrad Hilton said to him, "If my house is shut down, the price of land nearby will definitely be greatly reduced. If I publicize at this time that the hotel is closed because of poor site selection, then your land will not be sold at a good price. "

Dodd agreed to Conrad Hilton after listening to him. Dodd understood the value of Hilton Hotel and was helpless.

Conrad Hilton was able to persuade Dodd to buy his own land because he knew Dodd's psychological desire and wanted to sell his own land at a high price. Conrad Hilton took advantage of Dodd's desire and easily solved the problem of his own shortage of funds. As Carnegie said: As long as you can grasp the desires of others, you will do everything like a duck to water.

Carnegie is the most famous master of interpersonal relationship and success in American history. His thoughts and books are still worth studying. For example, The Weakness of Human Nature is a book that is worth reading. Of course, the article is purely personal and is for reference only.