There should be many people. But what really stayed with us for a long time was probably the girl we met after falling out of love once or twice. Not the kind of beauty that is amazing at first sight, nor the kind of slim dreamer. She is an ordinary girl, willing to be kind to me, willing to be dull with me, and of course, I am willing to be dull with her all my life.
Even if there is any contradiction or friction between two people, it can be solved by talking a few times more. I won't be as flustered as when I was a child, and she won't always "do" like a child. After a few more words, the solution will come out. No matter who is wronged, he can accept it. Because I know that although marriage needs equality, the so-called absolute equality does not exist at all.
Generally speaking, most couples who live together for a lifetime and grow old together are like this. On the contrary, it is difficult to come to an end if the first love is as vigorous as fireworks.
I thought about it for a long time, because I don't love it? No, I obviously want to give her everything I have.
Because of boredom? No, because when we broke up, they both cried like tears.
I've been thinking about it for a long time, probably because I've never been "in pain". So I don't know that some things are nothing at all; It may also be that there are too few "lessons" to know. Some people, who miss it, will live forever.
Zhou Wen and Liu Yin are each other's first love, and their feelings have gone through three stages, from hazy to warm, from warm to cold, from cold to separation. I remember saying in tears on Sunday that if you are not married within ten years, I will marry you.
Liu Yin just silently shed tears and said nothing.
When Zhou Wen met Liu Yin, it was in winter. Liu Yin, wrapped in zongzi, unfortunately fell on the road. After her "difficult" climb, she found a "very handsome and frozen" handsome guy in front of her. Liu Yin glanced at him and turned to go to class. As a freshman, Liu Yin has a strong sense of time in class. As for Zhou Wen, Dally followed, and actually followed Liu Yinjin into a classroom.
In fact, Zhou Wen should be in the next class, but after seeing the appearance of Zongzi, he decided to do something out of line, that is, "skipping class" followed Liu Yin to meet her.
It was such an unromantic meeting that they completely fell in love. Both of them are first love and have countless expectations and hopes for the future.
Zhou Wen said: I often think that in ten or twenty years, we will have two children, a house, pick them up after school every day, and the whole family will be in a warm house, watching TV and having fun.
Liu Yin said: I want to have two children for you. I cook and do housework every day. If I want to go to work, I will go to work. If I don't want to go to work, you can support me and I will take care of the children at home.
Imagination is beautiful.
After a year together, there are more and more small quarrels between the two. Actually, it's not a big problem It's just that Liu Yin thinks that as a man, you should tolerate yourself and make yourself happy. This is a man's duty. Zhou Wen thought, I have bowed my head so many times, can't you bow your head once?
That's it. If you don't talk, I won't talk. At first, Zhou Wenxian always coaxed Liu Yin. After many confrontations, Zhou Wen and Liu Yin became more and more "cold war". Finally, take time to make these little things natural.
In my opinion, some small things are really unnecessary. But if two people care about small things, they are not small things. Even after a long time, this little thing really seems to disappear into the invisible. In fact, it did not disappear, but melted into their hearts, waiting for an introduction to draw it out, and then it would erupt like a volcano.
A little thing, a little thing, another little thing, more and more little things, the power of the "volcano" explosion will grow bigger and bigger.
Finally, there is another small matter. Both sides hold their own words, and they don't want to give in until they hit the south wall like fools. I forget whose mouth the word "breakup" came from, but the word "breakup" completely extinguished the eruption of "volcano".
After reconciliation, in the subsequent quarrel, the word "break up", like a bullet in a sniper rifle that has been aimed at the target, will shoot at the weakest place of the other party at any time.
Finally, in a peaceful place, the two said "goodbye" calmly, and the other party was silent. At this time, Zhou Wen's Ten-year Covenant appeared on it.
In fact, we all know that the so-called "ten-year contract" or "twenty-year contract" is a word to comfort ourselves and each other. After all, "the future is unpredictable", who can tell the future?
Man is a very clever creature. Planes, cars, ships, etc. They are all invented by human beings, and at the same time, people are stupid. If they don't suffer enough, they won't think about correcting or practicing.
As you may know, love needs mutual respect. But if you haven't experienced "permanent damage to yourself because of disrespect", you won't apply this sentence to your life.
Everyone may know that love needs reciprocal pay, but this sentence will not be applied in your own life when you have not experienced the harm caused by "excessive pay" or "excessive meanness".
Therefore, the first love that was ignorant but firm at the beginning needs to pay a lot if you want to go to the end. Everyone will encounter some detours in his life, which is unavoidable for everyone.
In love, the "detour" is so painful that people want to turn around and choose the "single" that seems within reach. If you are "tempted", then love may encounter "breakup". If two people are determined people and love each other, it is possible to make a detour hand in hand.
But in the first love season, most of them are very young. How many determined people are there in such a young man? How many possibilities can two determined people meet? With all the above conditions established, what is the possibility that two people will fall in love at such a young age and will not be influenced by the outside world?
It is good to be young, so is the first love, but it is difficult to let the first love continue to grow old in the young season.
There is a saying in Lin Bu's Xin An Lu in the Song Dynasty that the past is irreversible, the future is unpredictable, and the present cannot be lost. It means that the past days can't come back, and the days that haven't arrived can't just wait. Only now, only then, is the most important thing for a person.
Cherish the present and cherish the people in front of you. The moment has passed, and it is really impossible to come back; If this person is lost, he will never come back.