One-click customization, you may have a high education, a high face value, a high IQ, a double harvest of love, become a CEO, marry a white wife, and reach the peak of your life. Everyone wants to envy such a life, but just ask anyone, if you can have such a life, would you like it? Perhaps the answer you get is not a yes without hesitation, but an awkward smile or silence.
There are not so many ifs in life, and if there are, not everyone has the courage to face up to the "cold at the top" and accept flying directly from the abyss to castles in the air.
What is perfection? What is your definition of perfection?
When I was a child, everyone praised me for my good looks, but I stared at a little freckle on my face and got angry. When I grow up, I have pimples all over my face. I pray in my heart that as long as the acne is gone, freckles will be there, and perfection may be a clean face in the little girl's heart;
When I was in college, I envied many classmates. They were born in the city and were the presidents of the student union in high school. When they first entered the university, they performed on the stage, made movies and won awards, and worked as interns in top domestic TV stations. When I was a junior, they could go to Taiwan Province Province to be overseas exchange students. I thought to myself, if I were like them, my life would be perfect. Perfection in a college student's mind is to stand out among his classmates;
When I first joined the company, I began to envy my colleagues around me. They are from Shanghai and never have to worry about renting or moving. They work in foreign companies with high salaries and do not work overtime. I feel ashamed. I think, if I am from Shanghai and have a home in Shanghai, maybe I can work less. The perfection in the wanderer's heart is a stable and warm residence, and it is a lamp that shines for itself.
Since childhood, we have been pursuing perfection. We want to be everyone, but we don't want to be ourselves. We envy everyone, but we never love ourselves, pay attention to ourselves and accept ourselves.
I read a good sentence today. The perfect life you are looking for is actually not a perfect life, but a life of "always being the protagonist", but a life without humility, empathy, ups and downs, straightforwardness and rigidity is also a boring and empty life.
Ode to Joy 2 is being broadcasted, and I am very much looking forward to the change of customs. She was born in a middle-class family in a small city. If she accepts the arrangement of her parents, she can live a happy life with the iron rice bowl of a public institution, a house and a car, marrying a returnee introduced by her parents, working at sunrise and resting at sunset. I don't know how many people I admire in my life, but Guan Guan refused my parents' arrangement, went to Shanghai alone to work hard, worked on projects all night, and redoubled his efforts to be admitted.
However, in a big city, she also has something that a small city can't give her. She got a beautiful accident that no one else would ever have in a perfect life. She can meet a promising young man who loves classical music as much as Dr. Zhao. She can go to the theater to listen to symphonies in her spare time, or fall in love with exquisite teenagers who play music. In this city full of countless accidents and possibilities, she has changed herself and deepened the thickness of her life while growing up.
Although the years of wandering alone are very hard, we will hit a wall, fall, and be full of thorns and setbacks, but when we finally break through the clouds one day and look back at the past at the end of the years, we will not be glad that we have become stronger under the wind and rain all the way, but this seemingly imperfect life has given us the most cherished and unforgettable gains?
Many people envy Andy, returnees, high-quality businessmen, gold collars and everything. However, she is an orphan with a glamorous appearance. She has never been loved by her family since she was a child. She will also experience the pain of lovelorn, and she will also face setbacks at work.
So don't envy anyone, maybe the glamorous people you see are suffering from troubles you can't understand. As Fu Seoul said, I'm living well now, and the result is good, but who but myself really cares about the regret in my heart, what I want to do, and the happiness that I was stolen?
There is a saying that prejudice stems from ignorance.
You can't understand a lot, but you are different from others.
Zhang Quanling talked about his childhood experience, and his father said that it would be perfect if there was 500 yuan at home. If my father had customized her life at that time ... the audience would have laughed.
In Ode to Joy, Qu Xiaoyu once said, What is restriction? The limitation is that the woodcutter thinks that the emperor is holding a gold pole.
Reminds me of my college days, when I worked in Ajisen Lamian Noodles, a bowl of noodles cost more than 30 yuan. At that time, I often thought that if one day, I could eat a bowl of Lamian Noodles with a thousand flavors on my own, it would mean that I had a good life.
Many years later, when I can invite my friends to a western restaurant for pizza, when I stop thinking about money to eat what I want, I no longer want to eat Ajisen Lamian Noodles. Lamian Noodles, who ate Ajisen for the first time in many years, ate casually because he was in a hurry to see the play.
When I was a child, I always thought it would be nice to go to Beijing once. Now I can fly anywhere in the world if I want. And I changed this way not because I already have this economic ability, but because my thinking mode has changed.
Life is full of fun and flexibility because of its unevenness and patchwork, and the world is mysterious and vast because of its ever-changing nature. The perfection of unified standards is a kind of destruction to the world. Instead of staring at others with your eyes, take every step of your life.
Recently, the Jin Shijie version of the drama "The Last 14 Tuesday Class" was staged in Shanghai. I really wanted to see it, but I never got a chance. But mitch albom's book of the same name, tuesdays with morrie, has been read many times in college.
A student became friends with a sociology professor in college. The professor encouraged him to follow his heart and talent and become a pianist. After graduation, students face the pressure of life and forget their original dreams and agreements. He pursued his dream of being a musician, but finally chose to become a sports reporter, with fame and fortune and his wife in his arms. However, he has to bow and scrape to the big shots all the time, and he can't help but feel depressed every day. Once a sword-wielding teenager, he is now wandering in the streets.
It was not until he saw the news that the teacher was freezing up that he decided to go back to the teacher every Tuesday. In the years before his death, the teacher taught him everything about aging, love, dreams, death and pain through 14 life class.
However, the course of life is over and the students' pain has not stopped. He is still groping under the aura of a successful sports reporter, except occasionally going to visit the teacher's grave on Tuesday-"this time, I will talk and you listen."
People who shed tears naturally understand the helplessness of students and see the life they never dare to change.
"The full moon is a loss and the water is overflowing." The world is moving forward step by step in the rotation of yin and yang. Without perfection and eternity, what we always ignore is the balance of life.
I once heard a psychology teacher talk about Yin and Yang. Yin and Yang need to be balanced. Work is yang, sleep is yin. If you don't sleep at night, you are wasting yin. If you don't get up for work during the day, you are rejecting Yang. How can a life with such imbalance between Yin and Yang be healthy and happy?
Writing at my desk for a long time has caused great pressure on my health, so Haruki Murakami chose to run and finished the work "What am I thinking when I run" during running;
Kai-fu Lee once prided himself on competing with employees who stayed up late until they were diagnosed with lymphoma. He forced himself to rest, and finally made his feelings into a documentary "Born to Die".
We look at the lives of those so-called successful people and find that even like them, it is difficult to have a perfect life, but all the experiences make their lives more complete.
When I was in college, my teacher said a sentence, which I still remember vividly: a university is a place to train people, and a complete person is more important than an excellent person.
There is another sentence: everyone should have their own characteristics.
Never envy anyone, you are yourself and you are unique.
Yao Jiaxin once killed people by playing the piano. Is his life perfect? Born into a well-fed middle-class family, he studied piano and received higher education from an early age. His parents thought they gave him a perfect life, but neglected to give him a complete personality.
How many people envy Kimi? He is handsome and sings well. After hard work, he finally joined the ranks of domestic first-line students, but ended his life because of depression. He has a life that others think is perfect, but in the best years, he omits his own life;
There are also various celebrity scandals, which are often filled with social media. They have wealth, status and prestige. Are their lives perfect? But who would have thought that under the glamorous, it is endless troubles and embarrassment. ...
Jiang Sida put it very well: the reason why we dare not choose "perfect life" is the greatest imperfection of mankind, because we lack the courage to pursue perfection.
We have no courage because we know that nothing is perfect in the world, but we will get black and blue all over ourselves in the process of chasing.
I like Rene Liu, a milk tea. In Zhang Jiajia's words, I don't like her at a certain stage, but the whole flowering process.
She is true, sincere and brave. In the essay My Imperfection, she used 14 essays and 3 novels to talk about all kinds of "love". She used 52 poems to express her feelings in daily life.
She said: Writing is being honest with yourself.
How many people can be honest with themselves?
In the book, she admits that what she said is not beautiful, facing her willfulness, independence and escape. She doesn't shy away from her shortcomings, because she knows that nothing is perfect in the world. If you admit this in your heart, then you can put it down.
Jiang Yang once said in "Message to Young People": Your problem mainly lies in reading too much and thinking too much.
I am reminded of the Italian film A Beautiful Life. A father and son were put into a Nazi concentration camp. In order not to hurt his son's childlike innocence, the father used his imagination to tell the children that they were playing games. After the child was finally saved, there was no gloomy shadow left. The child's life may not be perfect, because he lost his father when he was very young, but his life is beautiful. His father protected the child's life and childlike innocence in his own way. There will always be many helplessness and choices in life. It depends on how you handle it.
May we all be like that optimistic father, who can protect his children in his own way in the most difficult times, and still love life persistently even after the key attack of life.
Oba cited the example of Cai Lan, a Hong Kong gourmet. Cai Lan once interviewed a Michelin-starred chef. After the interview, she gave him a difficult problem: let him fry a perfect egg. I saw the chef take out the iron plate, pour the olive oil, put it on the fire, then beat an egg and put it in front of Cai Lan. The moment he says you want to eat, the egg is perfect.
From a philosophical point of view, Oba discusses what a perfect life is, that is, to keep as many choices as possible in all stages of life.
How to ensure that you always have the perfect choice?
The three most important things: wealth, wisdom and health.
Reminds me of a sentence said by milk tea: Everyone has his own way of choosing life, as long as you feel so comfortable, it will be perfect.