Very painful. I am a living example. I am now, but it was brought by my own mother. Father 1992 died and had a younger sister. Before, my mother never did housework. This is my father and me. Later, my sister and I undertook all the housework. /kloc-married in 0/997. The company gave me a room. My mother's room is in the yard and my husband's house is in the country. The first contradiction was that my mother-in-law came to make tea for her husband, and my mother followed. I made two cups of tea, the first for my mother-in-law and the second for my mother-in-law. At that time, I poured water on the coffee table, and then my mother-in-law left. I sent my husband downstairs to the door, and my mother smashed a cup of tea in my face. You can imagine how difficult it is for me in this small matter. Later, I bought a house in O7, and my sister got married. When decorating the house, she didn't live in her own building to rent a house. In front of our relatives and acquaintances, she said that I was not good, not a thing, and those uncles and aunts were afraid of her, letting our small county know that I wouldn't let my widowed mother remarry and bought a new house and wouldn't let my mother live. When the house was renovated at the end of the year, she was invited to live for one year 10. So until now, in recent years, my husband and I have only had the Spring Festival once, in order to escape. She has done more things in the past two years. Her bedroom has air conditioning, and so does the living room, but those who only open her house are not allowed to open the living room. I always make it public. She cut the air conditioning panel with a kitchen knife, and the remote control was still there. Let me divorce my husband and bring the house. She wants to sell it and buy a big one, write her name, free of charge. Eating is even more excessive. No matter whether there are guests at home or not, everything she likes to eat is put in front of her. It is a sin that she is unhappy with others. She hanged herself in tears and did everything. It's the Spring Festival, and she dare not think about it.

As a daughter-in-law, I don't like living with old people. As long as the elderly can take care of themselves, they will live separately and live together when they really need care.

It should be that many living habits are different and people feel uncomfortable.

My mother-in-law came to stay for a few days the other day. I fried two dishes, but they were tasteless. I have to eat some tofu and pickles before I can swallow the vegetables.

We are still confused on the weekend morning, and my mother-in-law has turned on the TV in the living room.

My mother-in-law will blow her nose directly in the bathroom and blow her nose four or five times. In fact, my mother-in-law didn't have a cold or rhinitis. It should be a habit that she has been used to for many years. And even if our generation has a cold and blows their noses, most of them gently blow their noses once or twice with toilet paper, which will not affect others.

I used to read Reader's Digest and said that foreign fathers wanted to send their grandfathers to nursing homes, but their grandsons wouldn't let them. He said that you sent grandpa to a nursing home, and I will send you to a nursing home in the future, so my father stopped sending grandpa to a nursing home. At that time, I also felt that the way foreigners treated the elderly was really heartless.

However, in recent years, they have increasingly recognized the way foreign families get along. Don't live together, just leave each other alone!

It is definitely the suffering of two generations, at least it is my suffering. I use my real life case to illustrate. I lived with my mother-in-law for 23 years. For 23 years, I feel that life is more than suffering. When my mother-in-law came to my house, my daughter was already in primary school. Before that, she visited her granddaughter at her eldest son's house. The whole process of watching is not harmonious with the eldest daughter-in-law, because no one is watching the children, and she has been enduring it. When the child grew up and the contradiction was completely irreconcilable, she came to me. Disagreement with mother-in-law is first of all a matter of habit. Her mother-in-law never cleans up. Even if you didn't clean her room, even if the furniture was covered with dust, she didn't make you feel heartbroken. Besides, she likes eavesdropping. Even if we talk behind closed doors, she can hear us and pick on you. Besides, she can't see that her son is kind to his daughter-in-law, and she makes things worse all the time. Because of this, sometimes I really can't remember. If my husband hadn't been kind to me, he might have left long ago. There are still many young people going out to eat. She said that you lost your family and went back to your mother's house for unknown reasons. Considering the life together for more than 20 years, it is really uncomfortable. Therefore, it is too painful to persuade the older generation and the younger generation not to be together even if they have no conditions to rent a house. At that time, we were free, but my husband felt that my mother-in-law had no job, no income and was old, fearing that she could not live alone. If I can live again, I am one hundred people who don't agree to live together.

First of all, talk about my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law is a strong woman. She is in charge of all the big and small things in the family, and my father-in-law cares nothing. When my child was over two years old, I started to work, and my mother-in-law hired someone to take care of the child. Later, my mother-in-law was not at ease and retired. She and her father-in-law buy vegetables, go to my house to look after the children in the morning and cook for me at noon. After the children go to school, the father-in-law picks up the children and the mother-in-law is responsible for cooking. In this way, they came to my house to pick up the children until junior high school. When the child was in the second grade, his father-in-law got cerebral thrombosis. The mother-in-law then takes care of her father-in-law, who is incontinent, but can walk. Every day, my mother-in-law leads her father-in-law out for a walk. One care is eight years, and my mother-in-law has suffered a lot. Because of osteoporosis, my father-in-law has been unable to walk for the last two years. My mother-in-law can't take care of it at night. My wife and I went back to take care of her for two years. In the past two years at my mother-in-law's house, I have hardly touched her things. My mother-in-law won't let me move. She is a strong person, and I won't go through the refrigerator casually. She usually doesn't let me use the washing machine alone. I wash my clothes with her, and she washes them for me. I'm just washing dishes, washing dishes. My mother-in-law is such a strong person. At that time, she was 70 years old. My mother-in-law has an eldest son. After her father-in-law left, she chose to come to my house and live with us. She didn't choose to live alone. After my mother-in-law came to my house, in fact, to be honest, I am a slow-witted person, and the details are not as clean as my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law doesn't like me and often talks about me. I have lived alone for more than 20 years. I don't want to listen to the old man's nagging. I am angry and stubborn, but I still care about each other after talking. My mother-in-law is seventy-three years old now. She gets up every morning to cook for me. I said I got up, and she said she could get up and cook for you. She said that if she can't get up, you can enjoy it for a few years first. Mother-in-law cooks well, so she can eat ready-made meals after work at noon. My mother-in-law told me her pension password. Although I sometimes bump into my mother-in-law, I have always been grateful to her for her sincere dedication to me. How happy I am to meet such a good mother-in-law in my life. My wife is also a strong and capable man with a successful career. I have the honor to meet them in this life. Gratitude.

Different families have different tutors and qualities, and some families have constant conflicts when the elderly live with their children; There are also some families where the elderly and their children live in harmony and happiness, enjoying the contribution of their children and grandchildren. My parents are extremely filial to my grandparents. As children, we are also filial to our parents. It runs in the family is happy. My father died at the age of 76 due to health problems caused by partial eclipse. I cried for three years and never went into an entertainment place again. In Xiamen Evening News, the article "Unclear Debt" was published, in order to mourn and hope for an afterlife, and also to renew the love between father and son. My mother is 88 years old this year. Although her health has been critical several times, she has turned the corner under the care of my son who is a doctor. Now she can take care of herself, mop the floor and do housework, and live happily in her later years.

The ancients said: "When the moon is full, it will lose money, and when the water is full, it will overflow." The best way to get along with children is to keep a proper distance.

My two daughters, the eldest daughter's house is only an hour away from me, and I occasionally go to her house to live. There is a room specially designed and decorated for me, and all kinds of supplies are needed. But I can't stay for ten days at most, so I will go home.

Although the daughter and son-in-law are also middle-aged, there is still a generation gap with the 70-year-old mother. Something you don't like is bound to nag.

Daughter and son-in-law work nine to five. Although they are very filial and don't want me to interfere in the daily housework, you can't just sit around and wait for them to come back from work, can you? Selfish, I've been tired all my life and really don't want to help them.

My youngest daughter is more than 0/000 miles away from me/kloc-,and it only takes more than two hours by high-speed train. Last time my little daughter came to pick me up, I also planned to live in a city with beautiful environment and good family conditions. But her 80-year-old husband and father are very talkative. When I was at his house, he turned out all the stories of his ancestors' eighteen generations and complained about the history of revolutionaries. You are not allowed to interrupt. I'm helpless. For me, who lives alone and is very quiet, it is simply suffering. After staying for three nights, I ran away. It is best to be in your own home, free and unique.

I never advocate living with children, because there is a generation gap between the two generations and their living habits are different. Children who live together for a long time and live under the same roof every day, no matter how filial, will inevitably stumble, and over time, they will feel depressed. So instead of bumping chopsticks into the bowl in the pot, it is better to keep a certain distance from them, so that the distance can produce affinity and beauty.

So try to keep your distance from the children if you can.

I don't live with children, so I have no experience in this field, so I can only talk about my feelings. I am 74 years old, and even according to China people, I am an old man. Life is seventy years old. Be healthy and live with your wife. I gave the house to my eldest son and bought a mortgage house for my younger son. I paid a down payment. Every month's mortgage is paid by my son and daughter-in-law, so I will leave them alone for the time being. My wife and I live in this "humble room" Anyway, we all feel comfortable living here.

My daughter married in Hefei, and I didn't worry about the house. Now most old people say it's good to raise their daughters, so don't worry about buying a house. It is said that the daughter is intimate and the son is a military coat. I haven't figured out what this military coat means yet. My son lives in this city. How many stops are there by bus? My grandson's junior high school entrance examination is coming, and his son rented him a room, which is close to the school. I don't usually go to my son's house. My two sons and daughters-in-law are both working and working. What should I do there? I don't want to stay at my son's house.

I am an old man, and there is nothing I can do. My wife thinks the same thing as I do. There is no freedom in my own home. I can go wherever I want, eat whatever I want, get up whenever I want, and sleep whenever I want. Most of the guests at home are old people. There must be a generation gap in topics that young people don't like to talk about. I can't do it without admitting it. Now many old people in the community feel the same way with me. They are healthy and quite comfortable in their humble room. When our grandson was young, we also took care of him. We ran in the community square, and you couldn't catch him. I'm afraid of falling and bumping. If the son doesn't say anything, the daughter-in-law will say that the old man doesn't care. Grandchildren are older, studying, and we are relaxed.

At present, every weekend and holiday, such as Dragon Boat Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival, my son, daughter-in-law and children will definitely come to see us. Not to mention the Spring Festival. They come, eat and drink, and we have to prepare for cooking and bring out good wine, just like entertaining guests. Before leaving, I have to take my grandson to the supermarket, buy some snacks and so on, and take them away. Sneak some money for his grandson's own use. I think this is very good. My daughter is not in this city, and it is not far to go once. 3 hours by train and bus only takes 1 hour. Convenient transportation, very convenient.

My daughter and son-in-law also go to work, and my grandson is also studying. It's really boring to stay for about a week at a time. Most days, there is no one at home and nothing happens. Only in the evening can people get together, and the grandson can do his homework quickly after dinner without interruption. After a day's work, my daughter and son-in-law are tired. Let's talk casually. When my daughter went to work in the afternoon, she bought a lot of vegetables at home in the morning, unlike our old people who didn't eat much. The neighbors next door in the city hardly know each other, even those in a building. I can only go around. I walked the streets of Fiona Fang for several kilometers, which didn't mean anything.

Where I live now, I have lived for many years, and there are many familiar people in this community. There are old classmates and colleagues in this city, and they often walk around each other. In a word, I have a very comfortable life. Going to the children's house, sometimes my son invites me to dinner, which is really as uncomfortable as being a guest. Still a little restrained. My idea is to be healthy. Once you are in poor health and can't take care of yourself, you can talk about it that day and go wherever you want.

There are photos, the square of the community, the vegetable market of the community, the humble room where I live, the little granddaughter (the second child) playing, the home-cooked lunch made by my son, the small supermarket of the community, and the roadside stall of the vegetable market of the community. Too familiar.

Old people live with their children, some people suffer, some people are happy, and smart people turn a blind eye, learn to ignore details, narrow the gap and enlarge the fun.

Once I was with my mother-in-law for about two years. I didn't feel any pain, but found some fun.

That was seven or eight years ago, my husband and I were working in Shaoxing, Zhejiang. Shortly after my father-in-law died, my mother-in-law said she wanted to live with her youngest son and grandson, and we took her over immediately. Anyway, my mother-in-law will be relieved that the children need to be picked up in kindergarten.

My mother-in-law seldom travels far in her life. My husband and I were afraid that she was not used to being alone at home at first, so we would call her when we were free at work to avoid her boredom. After work, after dinner, my husband will take her mother-in-law out for a walk. At that time, we had not bought a car, and the battery car could only take two people. Every time, my mother-in-law and son go up first, and then I run or walk slowly with the battery car. At the destination, my husband came back to pick me up. My mother-in-law felt embarrassed at first. I said I was fat, just exercising. To tell the truth, I am really happy to see their three generations live in harmony.

Of course, there are times when you need to communicate when you are afraid. Mother-in-law always likes to walk in front of the children from kindergarten, rather than follow them. One day my mother-in-law called me and cried that the child was gone. I was scared to death! Fortunately, the school teacher also called me and asked why no one had picked up the children so late. It turns out that my son didn't catch up at all Later, I emphasized to my mother-in-law: Take the child to walk, either holding hands or let him follow me. Never talk with your head up.

Sometimes I have an argument with my husband, and sometimes when I am too angry, I will go outside to get some air. My mother-in-law was so anxious that she ran outside to find me and advised me to go home if I got lost. She is impartial on both sides, playing fifty boards each. Say you shouldn't make a scene, have something to say. I think it's still good. It's really nothing to suffer a little.

Let me tell you something about my friend's house. Her mother married her daughter, who didn't want to go back to her mother-in-law's house. She took her husband and children home, provided them with free housing, washed their clothes and mopped the floor all day. Even teasing them with a bowl and chopsticks, I don't want to help the old people wash. After eating, no one cares at home, and it's a mess. You said they were unhappy and you were wordy.

After cooking for a long time, the child sometimes throws it to her, and her mother is reluctant to give her a ticket. She is very kind and hardworking, and has been working hard all her life. How long do you think this will last?

There is also a son who is not married. She often says that she wants to rent a house by herself. She is afraid of becoming a cleaner. At least she has an income. She is the daughter of her own family. There is delicious food, and I am chilling at the thought of my husband.

Now I know why many people want to find a wife to feel sorry for themselves when they reach a certain age and time. When they were young, you were afraid that they would be frozen and hungry. Wait until that day, you will understand your love and your heart. As long as the children can say, "Dad, Mom, it's not easy for you to raise me. I'll leave some delicious food for my parents." As the old saying goes, sons raise wives, daughters raise them, and husbands kiss them.

Living together is better than being apart, but not too far away.

Today's young people, under the heavy work pressure, hope to have an independent and free space, where they can sleep late, play games, or do nothing at rest.

Old people always think differently from young people.

Living with parents before marriage is inevitable to be nagged, and you have to interfere in everything you do.

Married, I miss being nagged at home. It feels good to go back to buy something to eat, cook a meal and eat with my parents from time to time.

My mother doesn't nag me much, and often looks forward to my return.

Maybe this is the beauty of distance.

In fact, living together is not necessarily bitter.

I have a baby now, that is, I live with my mother-in-law, and sometimes help me take care of the children and cook.

Although sometimes the concept of parenting is different, I will communicate and tell her the harm of doing something wrong, and give examples.

Because old people love children, they will also think of them.

It's really difficult to take care of children alone. If no one changes hands for you, it will really collapse.

As long as children have filial piety, living together is not a torment.