In the hospital room, the one-year-old E. Excel has Kawasaki disease and is taken care of by his mom, but E. Excel's mouth keeps crying for his grandmother.

E. Excel's mom can only keep coaxing, but E. Excel is not very peaceful even when he falls asleep.

E. Excel's mom said with a bitter smile:

E. Excel has always been taken care of by his grandmother, and I have to go to work, so I'm afraid that it affects my rest, so he sleeps with his grandmother at night.

This time, the child is sick, can only be accompanied by a person, the grandmother also has some fever, so he came on his own, but E. Excel heart wants the person is the grandmother.

Looking at E. Excel in his arms with his own not close, E. Excel mom in addition to worrying about the child's condition, but also full of loss and helplessness.

In life, many baby moms are forced by economic pressure to entrust their children to their grandparents right after giving birth, while they go out to earn money to support their families.

Indeed, some children, although they grew up with grandparents, pro-grandparents, but as they grow older, they also love mom and dad, and mom is also very close.

However, there are some children brought up by their grandparents, who are only close to their grandparents, not close to their mothers at all, and it's hard for their mothers to come into their children's hearts, so the parent-child relationship is like a break.

The reason why the grandmother brought up the child, with the mother is not close, the following reasons, but also to the root.

1. Lack of parental responsibility

In life, some mothers in the child when the child is small, the child to the elderly to bring, is to work to earn money, so as to give the child a good material conditions.

Because of the responsibility of parenthood in her heart, even if she can't spend time with her child, she always misses her child in her heart.

Not only the child's food and drink, the mother has always been attentive to deal with.

In ordinary days, she will also often call and video with the child, concerned about the child's growth of the little by little.

Whenever she has time, she goes home to be with her children, or brings them to stay with her for a few days.

As long as she is with her child, she will put aside all distractions, play with her child, sleep with her child, and give her child quality companionship.

Although mom and dad didn't stay with their children, they were always concerned about their children's lives and weren't too absent from their children's growth.

And although the children can not see their parents every day, but in their daily lives often have mom's concern, know that mom and dad's love for their own, so they will also think of their hearts, love mom and dad.

This natural blood relationship coupled with the cultivation of the day, the child and the mother's feelings naturally can not be replaced.

But there are also some mothers who are young and playful, and after giving birth to a child, because they don't want to be detained by the child, give the child to the old man to take care of, and then really don't care about anything.

Our neighbor, Auntie Sun, often complains:

There is no such thing as a mother, the child is placed here for seven years, ten days and a half months do not come to see a glance.

After the birth of the grandson, it has been the old couple of Sun aunt care, son and daughter-in-law continue to live their own small life, almost not come to Sun aunt home.

The child is now in elementary school, and he is indifferent to his parents, not close to them at all, and hardly ever comes back to his own home.

As the child's memory of growing up has no traces of mom and dad, there is no dependence on and trust in mom, mom is just a name for herself, so naturally she is not close to her.

2. Mom hates it when grandmothers bring up children

Dabao from birth, it is the mother-in-law to bring up, over the years, in order to reduce the family conflict, Ling also almost do not interfere with the children's affairs, living in the outsiders seem to be free and dashing days.

In Ling's eyes, many of her daughter's behaviors are exactly the same as those of her mother-in-law.

Usually, Ling has no patience with her children, and sometimes she always tries to change her children's behavior, but her children don't want to cooperate with her, and with her grandmother's support, her children are more like me.

The first step in the process is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what is going on in the world, and that you have a good understanding of what is going on in the world.

In the face of a child brought up by her mother-in-law, the mother will subconsciously transfer her displeasure with her mother-in-law to her child, who is full of problems, and is naturally not fond of her child.

Emotions are mutual, compared to their own submissive grandmother, the child is also more reluctant to get close to the "prickly" mother.

3. The influence of the grandmother

My friend's mother-in-law is a very possessive person, and after the child was born, her mother-in-law took the child away.

Her mother-in-law always said she didn't know how to bring up a child.

When the child is older, her mother-in-law also likes to instill in the child the idea that the grandmother loves him the most, the mother does not love him, the mother is not good, the mother does not want him.

Friends often give the child rules, but the grandmother always secretly spoiled the child, which also makes the child more and more hate the mother, close to the grandmother.

Some grandmothers are stronger, more selfish and possessive, because they don't treat their daughters-in-law, so they want to control their grandchildren, so that they will kiss themselves and not their mothers.

The bond between mom and child is innate, and if she misses out on the company of her child in front of her, mom should not be discouraged, and can still make up for it by working hard.

Even if the work is busy, the mother should meet the physical and psychological needs of the child, so that the child can feel the love of the mother, can rely on the trust of the mother.

This way, even if the child is brought up by a grandmother, he or she will still be close to the mother.