Please answer this question for a friend who took her daughter to Holland in early March. In March, the epidemic situation in our country gradually decreased and became the safest place in the world, while the epidemic situation began to break out abroad.

Her husband is Dutch. He returned to the Netherlands in February last year to start a business, and he urgently needed her help, because the epidemic dragged on in March. So there is still a sense of belonging, otherwise it will not pass at the worst time in Europe.

she said that she didn't feel anything different before, except that she couldn't order takeout at any time, and she still paid in cash. From wearing a mask in the face of the epidemic, she saw a completely different side and was very insecure. Wearing a mask

Seeing that the epidemic situation in China is very good, they didn't stay at home for two months in vain, but they left for the Netherlands. When Europe was in a serious situation, all of them didn't wear masks and didn't have an epidemic prevention heart. Everyone thinks that the autoimmune system can carry the blind self-confidence of the past.

My friend is a caterer, and he was teased by children on the roadside when he went out to hand out leaflets. Her husband said that customers would be reluctant to buy their takeout when they saw him wearing a mask, and the pressure of wearing a mask was too great.

First I'm afraid of being teased … now I'm afraid of being accused! Their idea is that healthy people should not wear masks, but should donate them to medical staff.

At present, the Netherlands has stopped many tourist attractions and closed many museums, concert halls, cafes and entertainment places. In the streets where people used to come and go, the Dutch who marched easily were also forced to stay at home and wait quietly for the epidemic to pass. My friend said, I just want to be healthy this year.

It seems that living in our own country is really different from foreign countries. At least we can start to return to work gradually and drive out, so that our health is guaranteed.

hello, my son has lived overseas for a long time. I often communicate with him. Because he is an English major. So he went to Africa after graduating from college. Worked as a translator in Africa. He worked in Africa for a year and a half. After he came back from Africa, he went to Iran for three years and also worked as a translator. After three years in Iran, his life is ok. I also learned the local language and became familiar with the local culture. Later, he felt that his cultural level was somewhat inadequate. So I went to Korea at my own expense. Overseas students in Korea have lived for a year and a half. These experiences have given him a comprehensive exercise. Let his independent living ability be improved.

first, the pace of life.

through observation and communication, I found that living abroad, if it takes a long time, is actually difficult to adapt to domestic life for a while. I remember his first vacation from Africa. When communicating with us, the rhythm doesn't match us. Most of the time, we can only talk and he listens, and often he can't react to what we say. Because the pace of domestic development is too fast. Many countries and even developed countries can't keep up with the development of China. As a result, many people living overseas, especially those from the third underdeveloped country, can't keep up with the pace of life at home. So it's hard to get used to it when you return to China, even if you stay abroad for too long, you won't be able to return to China.

second, eating habits.

Because he basically eats at home when he is at home. After going abroad, you may not adapt to foreign eating habits. When he was in Africa, most of what he ate was a kind of thing called noodles with sauce. I grabbed the food with my hands. During his vacation in China, I found that he obviously lost a lot of weight. However, he also learned to cook by himself when he was abroad. Sometimes we teach him how to make jiaozi and how to cook China's food online. Improve your life from time to time. Otherwise, if you don't eat well, you will be particularly homesick.

third, a sense of belonging.

Take my son's life in Korea as an example. He said that when he was in Korea, he spent most of his time with Chinese in Korea. Little contact with local people. Most overseas Chinese are like this. May also be forced to make a living or have some other reasons to live overseas. Even if you live for many years, you won't have a strong sense of belonging. My son said that Koreans in Korea. Although both Korea and China are a nation, they don't have a strong sense of belonging. Most of the time, Koreans gather together. Because the culture, background and history of different countries are different. China people are particularly patriotic abroad. This sense of patriotism is particularly strong after going abroad. Once there are some inappropriate remarks about China abroad, the people of China, especially overseas Chinese, will react strongly. This overseas childlike innocence has a particularly strong feeling abroad.

I hope a lot is to prepare for going abroad, whether for traveling or living. Everything will be smooth and safe. thank you

can you have a sense of belonging without feeling at home? Wandering, homeless, wandering outside, does not conform to the nature of modern people.

Hello, I'm an immigrant from Canada. I'm very glad to answer your questions from my perspective by video. Thank you. I hope you like it.

Being abroad for a long time is like a big tree without roots, just like duckweed drifting on the water, and its own thoughts and concepts will be out of touch with China. It's difficult to go abroad, and you have to start a new business from scratch when you return to China for development. Overseas that can't fit in, China that can't go back. I'm struggling. Even if I start all over again, I still hope to return to China and never live such an erratic life again.

Hello, although I have never lived overseas, personally, I think there are many factors to whether you have a sense of belonging. If you have a career and a family overseas, and the family is very happy, I think you will have a sense of belonging, but you will also miss your motherland and hometown at some time, just like "Homesickness" by Xu Zhimo.

This is the same mentality as the brothers who work far away from home. If they have a successful career and a harmonious family, then he will have a sense of belonging there, and that is his second hometown.

Brother, whether you are overseas or where, your mentality is also very important. Make yourself happy, and your sense of belonging will increase with your achievements. There is an old saying: come and be safe. Take care

I have lived in New Zealand for a long time, and I will answer my personal thoughts

The sense of belonging is different according to everyone's mentality

1. I have a sense of belonging in New Zealand: I am with my beloved, my career is here, I have bought my own house through hard work, and I have my own home. Because I am a local resident, I enjoy all medical benefits. Because family of origin is not very warm, I don't need to be a brother-helper in China. Life is very happy.

2. When there is no sense of belonging, there are not many friends here. We all meet by chance, and our friendship is not deep. It is not easy to make good friends in our thirties.

3. Especially when we quarrel with other ethnic groups about safeguarding national unity, we feel very weak, and it is really difficult to be one-to-many ... Now during the outbreak of Covid-19, we wear masks overseas to attract them. Because they wear masks because they are sick, we wear masks to protect ourselves. Cultural conflicts or discrimination are all right, and they really want to return to China at this time

4. I think the parents of a generation of immigrants with children should be the ones who feel the most. Many Chinese children can't speak Chinese, but their parents don't have a good command of English ... and their children are all westernized at school. The family is a cultural war between China and the West

So you can't have your cake and eat it

You will feel like a second hometown, because you are too familiar with the local society, culture, language and environment, and you don't feel like you are abroad. But there is no 111% sense of belonging, the reason is simple, because you are always a foreigner in the eyes of local people anyway.

I'm a person with strong adaptability. Middle school began to live on campus, and both universities and graduate students are in other provinces, and it takes more than 21 hours by train. After graduation, I went to Shenzhen alone, and later I went to Guangzhou and worked for six years. Then she got married and moved to Turkey, where she has lived for two years.

Two years is not a long time. When you are faced with a strange world, a strange language, a strange religion, different living habits and different tastes of food ... you are unlikely to have a strong sense of belonging for the time being. You can only get used to life here slowly and accept many things completely different from before.

I remember that during the epidemic, there was a joke circulating in the circle of friends: "Are you staying at home recently ... you can only communicate with your friends by mobile phones? Want to ask your little friends out for dinner and play? You can't make an appointment and there's no place to go? Supermarket procurement has become one of the few opportunities for fresh air? I don't see many people in the street. No public transportation? Can't order takeout? Express delivery becomes slow delivery and I don't know when it will arrive. Congratulations, you finally realize the daily life of most overseas Chinese! "This is not a joke, it is really a portrayal of my daily life at ordinary times.

after two years, I have basically adapted to life here, but there are still two problems that are still a little tricky at present.

first, breakfast. Turks are used to eating breakfast at home, and almost all of them are raw and cold food. Looking at a big table full, it can be roughly divided into several categories: all kinds of jam, all kinds of cheese, all kinds of olives, plus butter, bread, eggs, and then cut cucumbers and tomatoes. If there is any hot food, it is probably black tea. At that time, you will miss the hearty breakfast in China very much: fried noodles, rice rolls, rice flour, preserved egg porridge, tea eggs, soybean milk fried dough sticks, glutinous rice chicken, quicksand bag, bamboo noodles ... all of them are steaming, fragrant, and my mouth is watering.

the other one is visiting. Turks like to visit each other and chat with each other. The host will prepare black tea and desserts, and sometimes he will greet the guests to enjoy dinner. He will visit the house for at least half a day, and it is disrespectful to leave in a hurry. This is a sign of their hospitality and closeness. But this is not the same as our living habits in China, especially in big cities in China. Our interpersonal relationship is very simple, and we rarely visit each other. For us, home is a relatively private place and will not be easily disturbed. There are default social places for friends, colleagues and relatives to get together, such as cafes, restaurants, bars, parks, shopping malls, KTV and so on. So I'm not used to the Turkish people's enthusiastic habit of visiting, what's more, I don't understand their language, so it's inevitable that I'm a little embarrassed to sit there. After the outbreak of the epidemic, the Turkish government called on everyone to stay at home honestly, and I was quiet during this time.

there is no perfect place in the world, we can only adapt to the environment. No matter where you are, you should be positive and optimistic, live seriously and live brightly. No matter where you go, no matter what the weather is like, please always bring your own sunshine.

an earthen breakfast chart is attached.