Rural proverb: "The guest does not set three dishes, can sigh ten people nine do not know" what is the meaning of it? In fact, this proverb says that the way of hospitality, dishes on the table to entertain guests etiquette, can not set three dishes (vegetarian, meat), if you get it wrong, may lead to embarrassment and even misunderstanding, so it is still necessary to understand the next.
As for the three dishes of the saying, from ancient times it has been handed down, worship has passed away, the offerings used are based on the number three, three dishes, three pairs of chopsticks, three bowls of rice, three glasses of wine, insert three incense, three red candles.
When I was young, I didn't understand these things, and I saw my mother worshiping at home on holidays when these things were set up, but also to count the number of paper money to be burned, I said, so troublesome why, put more bowls of meat, a few bowls of rice, the ancestors will eat more full, my mother said no, we all need to be set up for that number of; and Ching Ming Festival ancestor worship in the graveyard in front of the sacrifices put in the three as the benchmark, and then grow up a bit to know that the original worship of the deceased, and then the first time I saw them. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this.
In the past, the family was relatively poor, the family has guests to come, parents will be simple hospitality, usually buy pork and cook vegetables, and mom will do two dishes, part of the meat fried some stalks, part of the meat boiled broth with a little bit of tender vegetable leaves, two big plate on the table on the table to eat; if there are more people, or willing to kill a duck, and a duck and can be made into two dishes (duck blood, duck), and then get a portion of the tofu or bok choy, fried peanuts, and so on, and so on. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have the right amount of money to pay for your food.
And if it's a holiday, the family does something like oil buns, dumplings and other delicacies, mom will also bag the guests to bring back, usually give two, five or six so, no three, four this two figures.
Later grew up to understand a little, think mom do or have some reason, before people on some numbers, harmonics more sensitive, and "good things come in pairs", the number 2, 6, etc. are more popular, and the number three (harmonic loose), four (harmonic dead) harmonic is not good, hospitality on the people are not used.
So, the family guests, of course, can not set three dishes, giving people the feeling of unfriendly, because the three dishes are worship of the deceased talent, plus the number of three harmonic loose, it is a bit of a curse of the meaning of the s, the guests of course, is not happy; so either to do two dishes or five or six dishes, a little small plate.
In fact, like now, people's living standards have improved, the general family guests will do more than five dishes, meat and vegetarian several kinds, a full table, I'm afraid that we can not eat it, so the phenomenon of "guests set three dishes" should not be, and to understand that there is such an etiquette say or good.
In the countryside is popular with many folk proverbs, there are related to the weather, there are related to agricultural activities, but also to treat people and other aspects of the humanities. These are summarized from the practice of farmers for thousands of years, and are the crystallization of farmers' wisdom.
But some of the slang catchy, people are not very understanding of its meaning, the need to explain, to explain, not only to say, but also to understand what it means.
This is not, there is such a proverb, "guests do not come on three dishes, but the ten people nine do not know". You know what it means? It turns out that this proverb is so "come not on the three dishes, six people do not do the turtle seat".
Folk you come and go, whether it is their own initiative to invite guests, or guests to visit, always have to set up a banquet, to show enthusiasm. Dishes also have to pay attention to, always on the double number, according to the number of guests, to 4, 8, 10, 12 and other dishes, meaning that good things come in pairs, pairs, good things come in pairs. That is to figure an auspicious, good luck. But never on three dishes, this is why?
It turns out that in the past, people often engage in ritual activities, the most sacrifices are heaven and earth, that is, sacrificing heaven and earth sacrifices ancestors. When the sacrifice, to set three dishes of vegetarian dishes. That is to say, the last three dishes are used to worship the dead.
Now come to the guests you also on the three dishes, is not a great disrespect to the guests, guests angry, unhappy to leave, small said lost love, big said the antagonists into a grudge, how unprofitable.
That six people do not sit turtle seat is how it is? It turns out that in the past, people went out to sit is also a matter of taste, where the master sits, where the main guest sits, where the second guest sits, where the guest sits, where the guest sits is a regulation, can not be done in a chaotic manner. The people who understand a look, they know who is the main, who is the guest.
Six people do not do the turtle seat, refers to six people sitting together, sitting on the kind of long table seat, can not sit symmetrically, left and right, two, one at each end. That sitting, like a turtle, inauspicious. Turtle although one of the longevity, in the folk really wangba alias, wangba is a curse word, often refers to the cuckold man. Not good it.
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Guests do not set three dishes, can sigh ten people nine do not know. This is to say that the folk invited guests out of the dishes, folk etiquette has a lot to say, taboos, even the host and guest sitting is also a matter of taste, this is, I have heard since I was a child: guests do not come out of three bowls of food, six people do not sit on the tortoise seat. Meaning, a guest, invited to dinner, out of the dishes should not be only three bowls of food (dish, plate), six people at a table to eat, do not sit into the turtle seat. How to call the turtle seat? That is, sitting as a tortoise, the past more than four square table, sitting eight people, today six people, left sitting two, right sitting two, before and after each sitting one is a tortoise seat, so that is considered bad bad luck, violating taboos inappropriate.
Why not invite guests to three bowls of food, said there is a reason. This three imaginary refers to the time on behalf of more than one, here the three is real three, also represents a single, three on behalf of heaven and earth, respect for heaven and earth worship of God and Buddha's tribute is often three for the three, this three generation more than three, three animals, three fruits, etc., to worship the gods and sacrifices with the three, guests invited to treat the dishes and then with the three, that is, it is a sign of disrespect to the guests, so the guests on the dishes can not just have three, less than two, more than five, three or four have taboos. Folk have not three, upside down three, God three ghosts four said, three four is considered inauspicious not end ungrateful. Commonly used to honor the gods with three, four ghost offerings can be customary, so, treats taboo three taboo four, of course, local customs are different, but also have their own say. But three or four should always avoid as well, offenses prohibited, if the guests and superstitious, will cause guests dissatisfaction and unhappy, if you do not pay attention to, not a big problem, but still pay attention to as well, in order to prevent the emergence of unpleasantness, which also reflects the experience of the person's experience and knowledge of the etiquette and character. Worship God and Buddha on the offerings or fasting dishes with more singular, people hosted banquets to invite guests out of the dish is into double for good luck. Nowadays, young people, the lack of traditional etiquette education, many do not understand those taboos, which should be noted that some of the etiquette of the taboos, some of them still have to pay attention to and pay attention to, do not easily commit the forbidden, especially in some of the formal and solemn occasions should be more careful. Generally eat a meal, eat more than eat less, dishes more dishes less can not have to be so careful to not waste, to eat well on, do not have to care and entangled in single and double or three or four.
"Guests do not set three dishes," let me come one by one to say, rural etiquette is profound, containing a lot of rich etiquette." The next line is even better, "Six people don't sit on a tortoise's seat."
"Guests do not set three dishes", the world of the "three" indicates that heaven and earth, but also to honor God, Buddha and ancestors of the auspicious figures, three dishes of meat dishes, three plates of fruit offerings, in the ancient times of the conditions of the low, the sacrifice of ancestors or the dead is an indispensable way of remembrance, the three dishes of food is the worship of the ancestors, and to take the three dishes to entertain the guests, there is a bit of a big irreverence or impoliteness, which is also a taboo on the dinner table.
I'll say the second half of the sentence, rural etiquette, pay attention to not exhaustive, but to the important event or to pay more attention to a little bit to understand a little bit is not too much, do not make jokes, "six people do not do the tortoise seat". If it is in-laws door to door must not do so, who is a turtle is difficult to say, must not do bad things with good intentions, the family usually do not pay attention to the guests to the door, can not be offended. Nettu.
" guests do not set three dishes, can sigh ten people nine do not know " This sentence is particularly popular in Shandong and the Northeast, in these places, whether it is the invitation to a family dinner or go to the restaurant to eat, basically did not set three dishes.
One, the reason for the custom
Two, three dishes of food for the guests is disrespectful to the guests
There is a saying in the countryside called "Come to the guests do not set three dishes, but sigh ten people nine do not know! Why can't you put up three plates of food?
This proverb relates to the issue of inviting guests to dinner, now to the hotel to invite guests, usually 10 people to a table, 10 people at least ten dishes or more, right? So the banquet is usually 12 dishes, 14 dishes, up to 16 dishes, in short, serving dishes are even number.
Whether it is ancient or modern, the invitation to the banquet has never been set three dishes, it is really not the problem of fewer people, but set three dishes is the practice of sacrificing ancestors.
In the past when sacrificing to the ancestors, the offering table is set three vegetarian dishes, on three incense, representing the sacrifice of heaven, earth and ancestors.
Some places worship ancestors on five dishes - two meat and three vegetarian, two meat is a piece of boiled half-cooked pork, a piece of half-cooked mutton. The three veggies are two plates of white tofu and one plate of boiled green beans, symbolizing a clean slate.
In most places, three dishes are served at the festival, which means that three dishes are served only when the dead are sacrificed. Therefore, in the feast guests, if on three dishes is not a great disrespect to the guests, so it will make the guests angry, not happy, and even turn against each other.
In summary, the folk festival is unchanged, the offering table is generally set three dishes, invite guests to feast at least not less than six dishes, never on the 3, 4, 5 these dishes.
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China is an ancient civilization, the traditional culture is more profound, even in the daily life of human interaction, catering etiquette on some of the sayers, is not sloppy.
Otherwise, not only will make unnecessary jokes, and sometimes even produce some misunderstandings, causing the other side of the disgust, directly affecting the feelings between each other.
Rural proverb: "Guests do not set three dishes, can sigh ten people nine do not know", said the invitation to dinner Road Road. Today, with this topic, I will talk more about the big and small things on the table, and you are welcome to share your own experience.
For example, there are a lot of taboos about the chopsticks we use when we eat. Eating with others, some people will unconsciously poke and prod with their chopsticks when talking to others, which is very impolite behavior.
Others like to use chopsticks to turn the dishes, just care about their own picking fat and thin, a look like no one else, the quality of the poor, inevitably annoying.
Secondly, there are rules and regulations for seating during meals. Leaning in the center of the seat for the seat, generally for the high moral elders of the place, the two sides of the sequential order, young people should sit in the most out of position, easy to take care of the food and busy before and after, which is the minimum respect for the guests.
Also, during the meal, if there is food in the mouth to talk to others, not only is not clear, but also easy to splash soup, the scene is very embarrassing. There is also "the Lord does not invite, guests do not taste", dining should not show greed, to the lack of cultivation.
Of course, there are ladies get-togethers, and even more so, no smoking. Moreover, in coastal areas, eating fish can not say "flip" the word, flip the other side, to say row over, otherwise, the fishermen will be very unhappy. After all, "flip" means that the fishing boat will sink, so be careful.
Next, let's focus on the rural proverb "guests do not set three dishes, but ten people do not know" is what it means?
In life, we will find that, whether it is a wedding banquet, or friends get together, the number of dishes on the table is generally according to the head of the double number of increments.
Generally can be 8 dishes, 10 dishes, 16 dishes, 18 dishes, and even some places will reach 28 dishes. It is clear that people attach great importance to the "8" and the "hair" sound.
However, some places are diametrically opposed to the eight dishes can not be on, but very taboo "8" it. The reason for this is because the word "seven on eight" is not a good symbol.
Another argument is due to the "dog on the table - grill big bowl" of the visit. Because the "steak" and "eight" homophonic, on the eight dishes, the guests psychological natural twist.
So, on the seven dishes also have what to say? The first time I've seen this, I've seen a lot of it. As long as you pay attention, you will find that people will never serve seven dishes to eat, because after the funeral of the "relief wine" must have seven dishes.
Besides, in the Chinese traditional concept, the identity of the pair of pairs, a single shadow is not good luck. As for the invitation to dinner on only three dishes is even more taboo.
It is said that in ancient times, prisoners on death row only ate three dishes before execution. That is the "severed head rice"! There is another important reason, is to pay tribute to the ancestors also on the three dishes, there are also five, anyway, are singular.
However, now three or two friends eat together, but also a little three dishes, basically each person corresponds to a, point more than can not eat is a waste. In fact, now there is no one too much, just remember not to set up a row, that can be a big disrespect to people.
Why? Because the sacrifice of three dishes is arranged in a row, as if burning incense burn three incense, three dishes in a row, it will make people feel that you are entertaining the dead, people can not be angry in the heart?
This shows that the old rural saying "guests do not set three dishes, can be lamented ten people nine do not know", is a certain truth.
"Guests do not set three dishes, can sigh ten people nine do not know" this rural proverb is actually the most common rural hospitality etiquette. We all know that the Chinese farmers are the most simple and kind, far away from the guests, will certainly come out of the home the best food hospitality.
But Chinese peasants are actually the most careful, guests on the table, sitting which direction, the table has a few dishes, a few glasses, a few bowls, which are fixed, there are rules, can not be messed up. One of the biggest rules is absolutely not on three dishes, because "three" and "loose" resonance, three dishes are not used to entertain the living, but used to pay tribute to the dead.
So where did this unlucky number "three" first come from? It is said to be the Peach Orchard, Liu Guanzhang three brothers with the same life **** death, the word of righteousness first. In the end, the three brothers are dead, later generations of people feel the brotherhood of loyalty and righteousness of the heart, especially to build a shrine to worship them.
Every first and fifteenth day of the incense burning offerings, because it is to worship the three, so whether it is food or food bowls and chopsticks, all are three. Over time, the folk formed such a custom, that is, as long as it is a memorial service, can only be set three this number. The custom was expanded from honoring Liu Guan Zhang to honoring one's own ancestors. So if you come to the guests found on the table when there are three dishes, no matter how rich the three dishes, immediately threw his sleeve away.
So, three dishes certainly can not be set, how many dishes is appropriate? The number is good, the number is particularly auspicious, six dishes means six, eight dishes means eight sides of the wealth, if it is on the ten dishes, then it becomes a perfect ten, good.
But now there is a problem, that is, young people in rural areas for some of the old saying is not clear what it means. Coupled with the fact that many young people in the countryside to fire alone, for a variety of reasons is very busy, the family came to the guests, in a hurry to get three dishes to cope with it. This situation also exists, but if the old man sees it will sigh, guests do not set three dishes, can sigh ten people nine do not know.
The implication is that young people nowadays don't know any rules, where there are three dishes on the menu, this is not to rush the guests to death. Not only three dishes can not be on, four dishes can not, because the word four is the word of death. So you must add a soup in addition to the four dishes, into a four dishes, a soup, meaning that the stars embrace the moon, to be considered auspicious.
However, nowadays, young people don't care so much, time is tight, can get out a few dishes to get out a few dishes. Still, the rules are made by people, and since they are made by people, people can change them. With the development of society, many of the old rules have come to the time when they need to be changed.
Like the urban families now, usually a three-member family, dinner on the dishes are calculated for each person's amount of food. If you don't care to get on seven or eight dishes, not only can't eat easily waste, but also consume the owner's time. You have to realize that the most valuable thing for people in the city is time, and time is life, and time is money.
It's not cost-effective to waste time on pointless cooking. And in the countryside, although the old rules are still in place, but many people no longer mind. A visitor from afar, the master of the time is tight, fried three dishes, on a pot of wine, eat up a different flavor, and will not have any comments on the dish of the number of dishes. Both sides are satisfied with the food, talk also enjoy, this is the most important.
There is a magic number in our traditional culture, and it is the "three".
From the folklore can be found in a large number of "three": things are not three, the three-legged tripod, three people must be my teacher, three lives and ten miles of peach blossoms, the sea went. All the things that indicate a very good thing, a very important thing, a complete thing, there will be "three". It can be said that the cultural status of "three" is very important, from the ancient sacred worship, to today's daily life, in all aspects, really can not imagine, leaving this number will be what a state.