At the end of the year and the beginning of the year, although it is impossible to have a large-scale dinner due to the epidemic situation, it is inevitable to bring children to dinner when visiting relatives and friends. The performance of children at the dinner table is closely related to family education. Children who don't know table manners often make their parents "brain ache" and also bring troubles to others.

A few days ago, there was a video on the Internet. In a banquet room, people were eating around the table, and a plate of pig's head meat was just served. Without saying anything, a child put his chopsticks on the meat and put the whole plate of meat on his plate. The surrounding parents saw that they did not come forward to discipline, but they also joked with him.

netizens commented below: Life is good, but education is gone.

Nowadays, the living conditions are getting better and better. Parents cook good food for their children in different ways every day, but the etiquette of eating is often forgotten.

"Table Education"

is a precious intangible asset for children

The most authentic family education is hidden between a cup of tea and a meal, and many far-sighted parents have realized the importance of "Table Etiquette".

I remember watching an interview program. The friend and host of actor Tao Hong Jr. said, "Their Xu Xiaobao just wrote a piece of paper about the rules of eating!" Later, Tao Hong also listed some, such as: no talking when eating; Do not evaluate the quality of food; Eating can't be wasted. Not only that, she said that she and her husband Xú Zhēng would be strict with themselves.

In the program "Children's Words Have Strategies", Cherrie Ying shared his family's table education: Don't waste food; Don't transfer all the dishes to the children and let them eat first; Home is not a restaurant, you can eat whatever you have ...

Dani thinks that Cherrie Ying has set too many rules for children, and Cherrie Ying directly replies: "It's not too many rules, it's basic etiquette."

The details at the dinner table reflect the upbringing of a child. The dining table is an indispensable scene in our life. It is also a moment to show personal qualities by connecting feelings and developing relationships at the dining table. Therefore, developing good dining etiquette is an important prerequisite for children to have good interpersonal relationships after entering the society in the future.

Little things at the dining table

There are big problems behind them

Children play with food and throw tableware at the dining table. Parents should not always think that the baby is too young to understand, so it is better to grow up without intervention. In the long run, children will have no sense of rules. Even if a child is only 11 months old, if he is carried off the table every time he starts throwing food, he will realize that it is not allowed to do so at the table after a few times.

Some children need their parents to coax, chase and watch cartoons before eating, which seems to be the smallest problem, but it misses a good opportunity to cultivate children's sense of responsibility. Eating independently is the first step for a baby to live independently.

Many children become "food bloggers" as soon as they get to the table, and they are very picky about food. The hidden behavior of arbitrarily evaluating meals is ungrateful, but taking everything for granted. The fault is not the children, but the parents' education.

Many parents, especially the elderly in the family, "prefer" the baby by putting the dish directly in front of the child. Over time, children will develop the habit of "eating alone".

As the saying goes, "Sit with your posture, eat with your posture" is not only a matter of etiquette, but also related to the safety and health of children.

There was a news before that a 1-and-a-half-year-old girl in Wuhan accidentally fell down while walking and playing while eating, and her chopsticks went deep into her mouth, and 2 cm was inserted into her cerebellum. Fortunately, after the rescue, he was finally out of danger.

how should parents cultivate their children's table manners?

3-6 years old is the golden age of children's character formation. At the age of 3, children form their own self-awareness and have their own expressive ability, so they can communicate well with their parents and seize this golden age to give them correct guidance. Every detail on the dining table is a good time for parents to educate their children.

1. Take a hard attitude towards "Xiong Haizi"

If children get up and leave noisily without a few bites, or "make trouble" at the dinner table, parents may take a hard attitude, take the food away directly, and never try to chase their children to feed. When the child is hungry, you can say to him, "It is because you didn't eat well just now that you are hungry. You can only wait until the next meal." After several such experiences, children will gradually get rid of some bad habits at the dinner table.

2. It is very important for parents to teach by example

When children behave "unruly" at the dinner table, there is no need to break into a furious rage. No matter whether it is an adult's joking laughter or a harsh sermon, as long as they give a response, children will think that this is everyone's encouragement to his behavior and will make the "table farce" worse.

table manners need to be cultivated and learned slowly. Parents' words and deeds are very important. If children see adults laughing with their mouths full, littering food and knocking on the table, they may learn to do it immediately. Of course, if the child behaves well at the dinner table one day, don't forget to praise him in time

3. It is very important to create an atmosphere for children to eat independently

A good dining environment should be provided for children, and a suitable baby dining chair can be prepared for him to eat at the table with adults from an early age. In order to increase your baby's appetite, you can prepare soft, chewy, crunchy and brightly colored foods to encourage children to eat independently.

if the baby eats by himself, it will definitely get dirty everywhere. It is suggested to lay a garbage bag or plastic tablecloth under highchairs, and it will be much more convenient to clean it up.

The cultivation of children's dining etiquette is inseparable from the daily companionship, influence and teaching of parents. When good table manners become a part of family culture, respect for others, gratitude and cherish, and willingness to share are also integrated into the baby's consciousness. These teachings carved in the bones are intangible wealth that children will benefit from all their lives.

William Hansen, a master of etiquette, said: An observant person can know your parents' life background and your education background in just one meal.

indeed, interpersonal communication and quality pattern can be seen from a meal bureau. You watch others at the dinner table, and others watch you at the dinner table.