1, men and friends chat, no longer talk about women's "look"!

2, and other people have an argument, speak absolutely no more than five sentences, know that a short time can not deal with the problem, cold better.

3, no matter male or female, and people talk, obviously feel the speech slow, words are not much!

4, sold to relatives of things, no longer so real, according to the price of entry to him!

5, began to learn to reject others, no longer when the good old man, know how to play the set!

6, recognize that they are just ordinary people, there are many things that can not do!

7, began and siblings to maintain a certain distance, no longer straight!

8, when you go home, wash your face and smile! No longer bring home the emotions of a bad day at work!

9, colleagues resigned, no longer care, focus on doing their own thing! Understand that colleagues are just colleagues, not friends, leave basically no contact.

10, rarely in front of others to mention their own good moments, to understand "no one wants you to live better than him" the true meaning of this sentence!

11, the leadership arrangements for the work is very unfair when, no longer make a fuss, the first to do, and then to the leadership advice! Knowing that the problem can not be solved, but is not conducive to their own!

12, in front of his wife, no longer say that the parents are not good, but always boast parents excellent side!

13, and his wife back to his mother's home, in front of the face of the in-laws, take the initiative to hold the child, said his wife's good!

14, in the hospital, see the nurses know to shout "doctor", see the doctor know to shout "expert"!

15, after leaving, see the previous leader, greeted from a distance, called "leader"! Although the separation, but good relations, it is right!

16, siblings to borrow money, but also to play the note!

17, colleagues chat, chat to gossip, no longer do any comments!

18, go to the neighbor's house, found the door open, no longer rushed in, but stood at the door and shouted a few times, waiting for the neighbors to come out!

19, there is an emergency drive out, traffic light intersection, the green light when encountered a slow crossing the old man, no longer eagerly honked the horn, urging him to hurry up and pass!

20, the exchange of gifts, know "remember how much money others on the gift" is the most important thing.

21, owes others money, can not be on time to pay when, know in advance to others to greet.

22, always hang a smile on the face, chatting, no longer and others to raise the bar.

23, to others to send gifts, there are more considerations! 1000 yuan of wine and 1000 yuan of cell phone is absolutely not the same.

24, other people say they don't care about things, immediately understand that they can't mention it again.

25, with the habit of punctuality, rather than waiting for people more than half an hour, but also do not let people wait for you more than three minutes.

26, things are not done before, very low-key, no one knows.

27, after drinking a little wine, no longer get along with the opposite sex alone!

28, in the middle of the night encounter stopping the car, pretend not to see, directly drive through!

29, out of the house, pick up the parents' phone, always say that they are doing well, but also from time to time to ask their parents do not need money!

30, and the leadership of the card game, learned to lose.

31, and his wife argued, no matter whether there is no reason, will be the first head down!

32, know that friends are talking big, bragging, and do not poke. Understand the reasoning of see through and not say anything.

33, and leaders, elders eat together, always wait for them to sit down, only to start looking for position.

34, between the husband and wife of the matter, can be resolved on their own to solve their own, and will not be discussed with parents.

35, usually less words, but out of words are praise others, know "sweet mouth" convenience!

36, see played since childhood, hair small, began to change the call, no longer call people milk name!

37, please help others, become very polite, and afterwards took the initiative to invite people to dinner, and said thank you for your hard work!

38, around the people to buy houses and cars, even if you know, but also not to mention any suggestions!

39, met with donations, sympathy is very strong, in the company also just as much as ordinary employees donated.

40, and parents have a holiday relatives, met, but also warmly greeted them.

My cousin in Shanghai as an intermediary, used to go home on New Year's Eve, the two couples dressed very heavily, my sister-in-law wrapped in ermine, my cousin grips the Chinese driving a BMW. My mom's 80th birthday, this couple actually wore their father's mother's old clothes to help work in our house, this is the sun hit the west side out.

Cousin and sister-in-law came to Shanghai earlier, I was still studying, they came to Shanghai, at first also do catering, cousin in the restaurant as a chef, cousin sister-in-law in the front hall as a waiter.

To the boss of the family did nearly 4 years, the boss of the brother-in-law from abroad back, said the hotel to change the business strategy, the East and West can be invincible.

My cousin was originally a 3-chef cook, which can be replaced at any time, and he and his cousin's wife were laid off.

I don't know what to do. The supplier who delivers to their hotel said my cousin, you have your own skills, go find a small restaurant to do half a year, see how people operate, and then open their own store!

The supplier is good, and immediately gave them a good business to contact a small hotel, the hotel is small, but in Lujiazui is still a bit famous.

Cousins went to the hotel, although small, but really too busy, the kitchen can only stand down two cooks and a dish, 10 o'clock in the morning on the start of the busy, the afternoon is also sparse someone, has to be busy until 12:00 p.m. to rest.

A lot of people don't work in his house for long, because they are too tired to be scared away.

Cousins and sisters-in-law worked in that store for almost 2 years before the owner found someone to replace them and let them out.

Cousins out of the house to rent a house to find a restaurant, intending to open their own small store slowly.

Auntie and Uncle also strongly support them, so they opened the store is relatively smooth, unlike when I opened the store everywhere to borrow money. Because they have a thick family background.

The restaurant opened in a hospital not far from the back door, a good business on the opening, two people simply too busy, and the patient's family to eat, he did not have a quasi, every day into the water table.

From morning to night there are people to eat.

Cousins can only hire more people to split into two shifts, lengthening the operating hours.

They have good taste, fair prices, and the cousin's wife is a good person, hygiene is also good, his business is getting better and better.

So a small store, not to say a year to earn 7, 80 million.

After a few years of work cousin bought a BMW, everyone is worried about the train tickets, the couple leisurely drive back to the car.

In the past, wearing ermine that is a status symbol, cousin sister-in-law in order to buy their own satisfactory style, actually went to Harbin to buy, she said that the ermine there is authentic.

That year, the cousin drove a BMW cousin sister-in-law wearing ermine back, pulled the wind out of the sails, adults and children around the car, to touch, big girls and small daughters-in-law asked the cousin sister-in-law, ermine wearing what feeling? The first thing you need to do is to ask her how to wash it, and then reach out and touch the ermine hair.

Cousin's face is full of confidence and happy smile.

A Spring Festival, people everywhere invited them to dinner.

One of them is the cousin's best friend from school. When he heard that his cousin was back, he rushed back to see him.

The buddy said he was opening a factory, but also entered the profit stage, invited cousin to visit, he said that the smooth he only cared about the goods delivery and money, do not have to keep in the factory every day.

Going out on a tour can also be a casual business talk.

He intends to expand the scale, said his cousin back in Shanghai, knowledgeable, let go to his counseling advice.

The cousin's hotel was originally intended to open on the eighth day of the first month. As a result, he and his buddies hooked up and returned to Shanghai only at the end of the first month.

Cousin open restaurant feel too tired, a little freedom, not to mention travel, catering people know, every day is the kitchen kitchen.

Cousin envied his buddy every day with a briefcase, driving around in a car to enjoy the scenery and eat food.

Since the factory also formed a scale, and is a profitable state, cousin took the initiative to propose that he would like to share, do a good job on the hotel is not open, the hotel transferred back to his hometown and he operated the factory together.

Cousin took all his savings and let his aunt and uncle help him borrow more than 200,000, *** counted nearly 1 million. There is no contract, no agreement, just a love affair at the beginning.

At the end of the year, when the cousin's wife longed to share the money, his buddy called him and said bankruptcy, bankruptcy, nothing, cousin stunned.

That's how many years of their own a fried spoon a fried spoon upside down out of the hard-earned money ah! He went to consult a lawyer, the lawyer told him, you do not have a chance to win, after all, there is no evidence.

Cousins rushed back to their hometowns and went to the factory to look for their buddies, even if the uncle borrowed 200,000 back to the line, that is someone else's money.

Where to look, the factory is deserted, to inquire around the people around, around the people told the cousin, the factory did not start this year, I heard that the boss owes a lot of money ran away.

The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.

Later, Shanghai rectified the street stores, and all the illegal stores without business licenses were banned!

Cousin and sister-in-law's store is no exception.

The restaurant closed down, and the cousins lost their jobs.

A frequent guest who ate at his house, who worked in the sales office, suggested they change their business, saying that catering is not doing well, the rent is getting higher and higher, and the cost of labor is big, so it's not easy to make money.

In this way, cousin cousin sister-in-law followed his friend to do real estate sales, two people also opened a partnership agency.

After 2 years of work, they were separated from each other.

Today, my cousin has bought a house in Shanghai.

One day I went to look for a job to do, and my cousin's sister-in-law said to me that your brother was busy these days, and signed three orders. Shanghai's small agency brokerage fee is a point, the fee for a 5 million dollar house is 50,000, he also often sells luxury homes.

Cousin's wife wears a black down jacket every day, wearing blue cuffs, tie an apron, I said she is working hours and you do not cook, wearing what? She smiled and did not say anything. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get it right, but I'm sure you'll be able to.

In addition to me and his family, no one knows that they have a house in Shanghai, and no one knows how much money they earn a year. I didn't know either and never asked.

When it was my mother's birthday, my cousins came early to help, wearing my uncle's and aunt's old cotton coats, sleeves, and big aprons.

There was no one around them anymore.

A lot of people whispered underneath, saying that my cousins are now very poor, look at them like that, I guess they haven't paid off their debts.

Cousins hear not angry and do not explain.

And who are nodding acquaintance, no longer have the desire to call friends.

The question is: What details can show that a person's "momentum" has changed, making people feel that he is "stable"?

Knowing that people are poor and do not speak much

Knowing that the rich do not return home

Knowing that the money is not exposed

For the flattery and slander of others to choose to be silent

Knowing to hide themselves

Knowing that wearing gold and silver to show that they are all harm and no good.

Start reading the I Ching

Start drinking tea

Start going to bed early and getting up early

Start spending time alone

Start optimizing your circle of friends

Start getting used to the simplicity and generosity of it

......... ...

Is that stable?

1. Not to sit down and put the phone buckle on the table

2. Winter is no longer exposed ankles, the fall pants wear fall pants, the cotton pants over cotton pants

3. Circle of friends did not set how long to see, but seldom updated

4. Not to "buddies" with the rush to buy the bill < /p>

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5. not at the table to prove that they can drink

6. daughter-in-law upset know how to let her, not soft, but know how to tolerate

8. once the glory of the mouth not to mention

9. go to bed early and get up early, the body is the biggest capital of the people

10. not to say polite words, but every word is very sincere

11. No longer write emotions on the face, for anything is lighthearted

12. will be for the success of others and sincerely applauded blessing

13. take the initiative to keep a distance from the married heterosexual

14. began to quiet to do a thing, a little bit to their own ideals close

15. refused to be ineffective socialization, the time is very valuable to spend on important people

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16. Lazy with indifferent people to explain, the level of natural improvement

17. No longer argue with others about the right and wrong, because there is no absolute right and wrong, just look at the problem from a different perspective

18. Become indifferent, not intentionally play cool, but to see through all the inner has been vicissitudes

1, emotional restraint is very stable. You will not be able to tell that he is happy when he encounters happy things. When encountering sad things, you can not see that he is very sad, joy and anger do not appear in color.

2, talk more and more less, more and more tend to be silent. But doing things more and more bold, decisive, strong execution.

3, the concept of time is getting stronger and stronger, every minute is used in practical matters, rather than eating, drinking and playing.

4, do people very low-key, but do things very high-profile, thunder and lightning

5, treat feelings very natural. Not obsessed with feelings, not addicted to and female love long, no longer suffer from loss, learned that I am fortunate, lost my life.

6, life is very self-disciplined. Love of sports, love of life, early to bed and early to rise, do not stay up late. Know that the body is the only capital of the revolution. Do not indulge their own desires.

7, like to read, love of knowledge, lifelong learning, never give up their own learning, growth and progress.

8, often care for their families, filial piety and honor their parents, and report good news for the family.

9, treating people kindly, cultured, gentlemanly, but when it comes to the principle of the problem is reasonable and moderate, never retreat.

1, reunion, no longer and others grabbed the bill. Instead, calmly and every old classmate toast.

2, no longer like and others to reason. Instead, they have become silent.

3, like to be alone, no longer like to group together.

4. Do one thing at a time. Every thing has a beginning and an end.

5, on the road to meet the young beauty no longer whistle, but the clouds.

6, no longer like to tell dirty jokes at dinner parties. Instead, they are happy and angry.

7, no longer go to the temporary invitation to dinner, about people eating will be invited one or two days in advance.

8, no longer on the other side of the heart. Instead, it is a pain in the ass, not a word, not a word of laughter.

9, learned the hard way. Others do not say things no longer get to the bottom of it.

10, encounter rotten people and things, learn to go around. The general's sword does not chop flies.

11, tears, no longer low, but up to the sky.

12, no longer drink a high degree of white wine, and often changed to sip tea alone.

13, know not to show the wound, is the basic courtesy of socialization.

14, no longer frequent change of cell phone, and no longer frequent send friends.

15, read no longer love gossip, but read a first-class book.

16, the circle of friends is becoming more and more streamlined. But the talk and laughter has a great scholar, the exchange is not white.

17, friends proximity with fate, come and go freely. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it.

18, can afford, put down, no longer suffer.

19, began to understand the subtle things in life. No longer angry.

20, did something wrong, no longer cover up. Instead, they corrected their mistakes in a big way.

21, no longer fight with fate, but with fate.

22, no longer with people to explain themselves, only try to do well.

23, no longer swollen face. Instead, how much money to do how many things.

24, no longer afraid of loneliness. Instead, embrace loneliness and enjoy fishing alone in the cold river snow.

25, in addition to hate the poor, what also do not hate; in addition to fear of old age, what also not afraid. There is no longer any loneliness and emptiness.

1, do consider the interests of both sides beforehand, speak first consider each other's feelings.

2, when down and out, no longer see people on their own misery, but bury their heads in the sand and work hard.

3. When socializing, you change from "reacting" to "responding" to what others say and do.

4. No longer take the initiative to resolve disputes by name-calling or beating.

5, no longer look at useless information, no longer learn useless knowledge, no longer spend non-essential money, everything from a pragmatic point of view, everything is useful as the main focus of the center of gravity on personal growth and career benefits.

6, no longer over-ambitious.

7, and they have a small section of the people, if they have not torn face, the future will have the opportunity to cooperate.

8, no more premature conclusions about anything, no longer unfounded to speculate about others.

9, know how to reject others.

10, no longer gullible to others' promises, no longer complacent about others' praise.

11, not for insignificant trivial and people argue, not for non-principle issues with people.

12, not easily involved in other people's disputes.

13, no longer gullible authority of speech, have their own independent thinking ability, judgment.

14, when down and out, the deliberate alienation of friends and family, no longer resentment, he knows that this is human nature.

15, modest learning, not ashamed to ask, willing to listen to the advice and criticism of others.

16, began to pursue a balance between family and career.

17. Changed the attitude of being polite to outsiders and reckless to relatives.

18, began to respect women, respect for the weak, respect for everyone.

19, no longer heartless, understand their own situation, responsibility and bear.

20, no longer easily judge others.

21, no longer show off what they know, how much money they earn.

22, no longer easy to break down others, see through not to say break.

23, do not do keyboard warrior net violence others.

24, no longer spend time on useless people and things.

25, have a certain degree of resistance to pressure, suffered a loss of love, divorce, debt, no longer cry, and dying.

No matter what difficulties you encounter, you can no longer escape, but actively face them.

26, there is a sense of worry in the heart, before doing things will first consider the consequences, first to prepare, no longer blind action.

27, dare to admit their own shortcomings and mistakes, dare to recognize, accept the imperfect self.

28, no longer complain about the world, society and others.

29, began to look inward, give themselves meaning, make themselves more valuable.

30. Be grateful and thankful for the help of others, and repay them when you have the chance.

31, iron friends to borrow a small amount of money, will definitely give more, borrow 800 to 1000, if not emergency, who will not only borrow this.

32, gradually become independent, no longer rely on parents, leaders, colleagues, relatives and friends.

33, no longer easily show their negative emotions.

34, listen to the words, listen to the meaning of words; things, see the essence of things.

35, began to control the pace of work and life, can distinguish priorities, know what order to arrange their own time.

36, conscious of the health.

37, deliberately change their head shaking, spitting, shaking legs, rolling eyes and other bad habits.

38, began to dress themselves in the direction of maturity.

39, do not arbitrarily judge people, pointing fingers, no longer judging people by their appearance.

40, not easy to make a commitment, made a promise will try to do.

My brother graduated from high school, running a small company, before returning home, he was notified in advance of high school classmates, invited them to the county dinner. This year's New Year's Eve, high school classmates invited my brother to dinner, he even found a reason to quit, my brother's words are even more so that I am impressed with him.

My brother graduated from high school and went out to work, the first job is a barber apprentice.

It's not easy to be a barber apprentice, especially in winter, when you have to keep washing your customers' hair and have a lot of cracks on your hands, but you still have to bear the pain and stick to it.

My brother out of the apprenticeship, in the barber industry in five or six years, and others have opened a few barbershops, there are losses and profits, a few years down not only did not make money, but also because of the opening of the store investment owed more than 100,000 yuan.

In 2013, my brother decided to change his profession.

In those years, it was the rapid development of the public period, my brother also seized the opportunity.

My brother worked day and night to research and learn, and then came into contact with the public number bandwagon, and luckily ate a wave of dividends.

My brother's fortune jumped up in those years with wings.

Not only did he easily pay off his debts, but he also bought a big house and an Audi Q7.

My brother posted his own car in his circle of friends, and it was from that time on that a few of his high school friends who hadn't been in contact with him for years took the initiative to contact him:

And he is in the middle of the world, and he is in the middle of the world's most important city, and he is in the middle of the world's most important city. The first time I saw him, I was so happy to see him, and I'm so happy to see him.

My brother was surprised and a bit pleased.

Later, my brother went back to his hometown and took the initiative to contact a former high school friend.

The high school classmate immediately invited my brother to the county dinner, but also called a lot of students.

My brother's car is the best of their classmates, and the whole party was full of people who kept toasting to my brother and asking him for advice.

At that point, my brother's sense of accomplishment and vanity began to be fueled.

My brother, as a member of the high school class with poor studies, average looks, and an ordinary family, was suddenly courted by so many classmates, and his heart was beautiful.

Later, every time my brother went back to his hometown, he would get together with his high school classmates for dinner, and every time it was my brother who paid the bill.

During this period, three classmates borrowed money from my brother for buying a house or a car, in amounts ranging from 30,000 to 50,000 dollars.

My brother is a righteous and kind person, and now he has a lot of money, so if he needs to help his classmates, of course he won't shirk his responsibility.

In the past few years, the opportunity to make quick money has become less and less, and my brother's work has hit a bottleneck.

My brother has borrowed hundreds of thousands of dollars from friends and classmates in the past few years, and is ready to put the debt back on the table.

This is the first time I've ever seen the human nature of the good and the bad.

My brother's best friend bought a house, my brother lent him 100,000 yuan. My friend later changed the house and car, but never mentioned the return of money, until my brother to only 100,000 yuan back to him.

My brother's three high school classmates is even more difficult to say, one said that temporarily no money back, a return of only 5000 yuan, the other heard the money back to the phone did not pick up again.

Of course, not all of them are like this.

My brother lent a distant relative 50,000 yuan, then agreed to a year back, almost due time, the relative with 50,000 yuan principal, 2000 yuan interest, but also two children bought gifts to my brother sent over.

My brother did not collect 2000 yuan of interest, but this thing touched my brother very much.

This year's New Year's Eve, my brother's high school classmates and asked him to dinner, my brother found a reason to quit.

I for him: " Why not go to the reunion?"

My brother said: " No point.

Previously, I like to be surrounded by people, be held up, bragging among classmates, and I feel quite accomplished every time I treat myself to a dinner party.

If I was not as good as them, they would not have thought of me as an ordinary classmate.

This time to classmates to ask for debt, 100,000 as long as the return of 5000 yuan, now think of these classmates do not deserve to pay. Unworthy relationship there is no need to maintain."

Now, my brother went back to his hometown and told no one, and came back quietly after the errand.

Occasionally, classmates ask him for help, and he no longer makes a big deal out of it, but just does what he can.

My brother also did not publicize his status in the circle of friends, and became silent and low-key.

Reduce unnecessary socializing;

Focus on your work and family;

Inner peace and freedom;

Life is pure and simple;

The most important thing is that you have to be able to get the most out of your life. strong>

Pay only for those who deserve it.

I think this is a "solid" person.

What do you think?

1, began to learn to reject others, no longer be a good guy, know how to play the set.

2, walk with head up and chest out, look ahead, eyes firm and not fluttering, the pace is solid.

3, in reply to a very urgent message and have to keep staring at the phone, will explain to the men or women together, do not feel left out.

4. Being able to understand and tolerate different ideas and behaviors, and no longer easily show surprise or contempt.

5, listening to others complaining about the pain is no longer easy to intervene, but to listen to the end of the question: Do you need my help?

6. When walking together, you don't walk faster than your companions, but walk side by side with your companions, so you don't feel left behind.

7, in front of his wife, no longer say that both parents are bad, but began to praise the excellent side of the parents.

8, and leaders, elders and dinner together, began to learn to wait until they sat down, then began to find a place, no longer bold.

9, colleagues chatting with each other, gossip, no longer make any comments.

10, the leadership arrangements for work is very unfair, learn to do first and then to the leadership of the comments, no longer make a scene and behind the back of bad words.

11, cell phone and computer began to remember the parents' ID number, clothing size and shoe size, no longer a question three do not know.

12, when the elders asked how to surf the Internet, listening to music, can patiently teach, no longer perfunctory or impatient.

13, when encountering things, no longer ask the people around them what they should do, but learn to ask themselves what to do.

14, to do a thing, began to plan in advance, organized, no longer sloppy, halfway.

15, others send messages, began to learn to reply in time, no longer ignore or let it sink into the sea.

16, know how to take care of other people's emotions, and even at any time to know what other people are thinking, what they need, no longer my way.

17, things are more measured, there are principles, will not be no big or small, bragging about bullshit, give people the feeling of more reliable.

18, when angry or mood is not right, no longer easy to lose temper, know how to hold back.

19, whether encountered good or bad, no longer gloomy face, know how to keep smiling, confident sunshine.

20, do something thoughtful and careful. What needs to hear family and friends, sometimes even if it is not mindless muttering, after hearing, will also be their own silent help, to do what can be done.

1, dealing with difficult things, especially calm, can calmly respond.

2, everything is not catty, will use reasonable methods to deal with good.

3, do not update the circle of friends, but all share, must be the work of the third thought.

4, do not try to be brave, will be measured.

5, when communicating with people, listen more and talk less.

6, always show a face that is neither open nor angry.

7, can be kind to people who have hurt them.

8, especially pragmatic, do not waste time on vain things.

9, do not judge others casually.

10, the adversity quotient, emotional quotient and intelligence quotient are much higher than before.

11, Become very capable of standing alone.

12, especially good at managing their time. Important things to try to do 100 points, secondary things to do 60 points and pass can, to do 90 points is also a waste of time.

13, low-profile, and who are polite.

14, like to read, love to learn, cognitive ability never behind.

15, encountered other people's flattery choose silence.

16, clear colleagues are just colleagues, not friends. The purpose of going to work every day is to earn money to go, and not make friends.

17, other people do not want to say, never plow through.

18, in the matter of the results have not come out before, do not jump to conclusions.

19, others to buy a car to buy a house, even if he is an expert, but also not to mention the opinion.