When you go to America, do as the Romans do and get to know their manners, so that you can be at ease when you attend their party. The following is for everyone, I hope to help everyone!

First, social etiquette

When introducing:

When introducing people, the general principle is to introduce the humble party to the honorable party, specifically, to introduce men to women first and the young to the elderly. After the introduction, shake hands briefly and forcefully. Americans believe that a firm handshake represents sincerity and frankness. But if the other person is a woman, you can wait for the woman to reach out first to avoid rudeness.

On a date:

Men and women are more open in the United States, and dating and watching movies for dinner are also common. It is not impolite to communicate enthusiastically with the opposite sex. Both men and women can take the initiative to invite, usually men are more active, and they can pay the bill alone or treat one party. If an American friend says: Let's go for a beer or a cup of coffee? Don't get me wrong, he wants to invite you, usually go Dutch. If you are invited to a restaurant, you can suggest tipping after dinner. If the host insists on not letting you, you don't have to force it.

Dating sometimes has no other meaning, and it doesn't mean that you will become a special partner. So, if you want to invite someone to chat, watch a movie or have dinner together, so as to enhance the friendship between the two sides and have a good time, please take the initiative to invite them generously. If you don't want to date the other person or the other person does something that makes you uncomfortable, you can say no politely but definitely. Mutual respect is the basic communication principle and everyone's right.

About the concept of time:

Be punctual for appointments, and it is best to be a few minutes late if you go to dinner; It would be rude if the host arrived early. If you can't keep the appointment on time in case of emergency, you must call to explain, and you must never give lip service.

About going to dinner:

Although Americans often say "come to see me at any time", even if some invitations are quite sincere, you should call ahead to confirm the time before visiting, so as not to cause inconvenience to others at any time. If you receive a formal invitation, if the invitation is printed with R.S.V.P, you must call if you want to go. Invitations to large-scale events are generally only printed with regrets. At this time, you only need to inform if you don't participate. Don't promise easily if you don't keep an appointment; If you can't keep the appointment for a while, please call. If you have any dietary taboos, you can tell me first. Special cultural customs and dietary taboos can be understood and respected.

If you are invited to a family party, you can ask the host what gift he needs. Even if the host refuses, you can still bring a bottle of wine or a bunch of flowers, or some small gifts with China flavor. Unless otherwise specified, it is not advisable to bring children to general party activities. If the nature of the party is a picnic barbecue, most of them can be attended by the whole family. Don't forget to send a thank-you card or a letter to the host within three or four days after the banquet. If you spend the night at your host's house, you usually send a thank-you card to your hostess.

Second, clothing etiquette

In the United States, the dress code is generally indicated on the invitations of banquets or dances, which are divided into the following situations:

1)① white-collar tie or super formal.

This is the most formal occasion, such as award ceremony, court dinner and so on.

Man: You should wear a tuxedo with a white vest, a white shirt and a white tie. There are two vertical strips on both sides of the trousers. Pants don't need belts and suspenders.

Lady: Should I wear a big skirt? Long evening dress.

② Black tie or formal suit.

This is the most common formal dress code.

Man: You should wear a tuxedo with a black satin front, a white shirt, a black bow tie, a black belt, black socks and black shoes. There are black satin clips with the same fabric as the collar on both sides of the trousers.

Woman: Evening dress, low-cut and strapless, with small bags and shoes. Necklaces, earrings and other jewelry are true or false, but they should be shiny. Wear bracelets instead of watches.

③ Black bow tie is optional or creative.

Man: You can wear a tuxedo or a formal dark round suit, and you can wear a tie instead of a bow tie. The shirt should be white.

Lady: It can be an evening dress, a three-quarters long dress that doesn't mop the floor, or a two-piece dress for an elegant dinner, with bags and shoes that match the formal occasion. Necklaces, earrings and other jewelry are true or false, but they should be shiny. Wear bracelets instead of watches.

④ Semi-formal

Man: Dark suit.

Lady: Short skirt, elegant suit.

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Cocktail parties are usually held from 4 pm to 7 pm, and they are semi-formal.

Man: wearing a dark suit.

Lady: Wear short skirts or suits with the same length as daytime clothes, but pay attention to the materials, such as velvet and silk satin, which are brighter and more luxurious than daytime clothes, with shiny jewelry and scarves. Wear high heels. Makeup is thicker than during the day.

⑥ Dressing for leisure.

Man: Pay more attention to casual wear, such as suit jacket with casual pants, shirt casual pants and so on.

Lady: dresses, beautiful tops with trousers, sweaters with skirts, and so on. You can play freely.

⑦ Business and leisure

Informal workplace parties, networking parties and some good restaurants will require business casual clothes, which are more casual than formal clothes, but jeans are not allowed.

Today, 8 leisure or information.

This statement means that you can wear whatever you want, but avoid shorts and sandals and don't wear a suit and tie. Sometimes the more casual you wear, the more you can see people's taste, and you can't take it lightly.

A woman in a plain dress is definitely more elegant than jeans. Make up lightly.

Third, table manners.

① Pay attention to the order of using knives and forks, and the nature of forks and spoons.

(2) The knife and fork are placed at the edge of the dish, indicating that they are still eating; If it is completely on the plate, it means it has been used up.

(3) If the salt and pepper bottle is far away from the seat, don't reach for it, but please send it for another seat.

When dessert or coffee is served, the host can start to make a speech, and the guests can also use this time to express their thanks.

⑤ Traveling by car: Generally speaking, traveling is about respecting rights. Women should walk with them, and men should walk on the left. When entering or leaving, women should open the door. When riding, the owner drives, the front seat is respected, and the right side of the back seat is respected by others. When driving by car, be sure to open the door for the guests first, and then get on the bus after sitting down.

Fourth, general etiquette.

1. Smile. Say hello when you meet friends you know. When people say hello to you, they should also say hello to each other to show their concern.

2. Speak in a sincere and generous tone. When people greet you, your answer should be as concise as possible.

3. Praise each other more. Keep your eyes bright. When the other person changes his hairstyle and looks at other people's photos, praise him as much as possible. No, you can appreciate it from another angle, such as cute.

When visiting other people's homes, if you have the opportunity, you should praise and thank the host for his hospitality.

Pay attention to your neat appearance, don't look too sloppy. The smell, dandruff, etc. on your body or in your mouth are very unpleasant.

6. Don't forget to say sorry, please and thank you. These words are most likely to be used in communication with Americans, and may also be the most easily overlooked.

Taboos about America

1, don't hitchhike.

In the United States, you must not take a ride at will, which is caused by the security situation in the United States. Hitchhiking and robbery cases are common in America. What's more, some gangsters will take the initiative to stop and politely ask for a ride when they see women coming by the roadside. In this case, it is best to say no coldly. Moreover, people who ask for a ride should not easily agree, because some gangsters, including young girls, are waiting for the bus, and after getting on the bus, they cheat money by threats and other means.

2. Same sex can't dance together.

Same-sex people can't both dance, which is one of the recognized social etiquette in America. When people of the same sex dance together, others will definitely give a reproachful look or think that they are gay. Therefore, even if you can't find a partner of the opposite sex, you must never dance with the same sex.

3. Don't laugh casually

Smiling can bring friendship. But on some occasions, a smile often represents a commitment to something. Especially women, it is best not to laugh for no reason. Because of the ambiguous smile, sometimes it is mistaken for "ridicule" and sometimes it is mistaken for "preset", which causes great misunderstanding.

4. Don't pay for others.

China people's habit is that when several friends go out together, they always scramble to pay for tickets. But if you do this to Americans, you won't get their thanks. This practice will make Americans feel indebted and uncomfortable. When Americans go out together, they always go Dutch, including fare, meal and tip.

5. Don't give gifts indiscriminately.

Gifts must be meaningful, such as friends' birthdays and colleagues' weddings. But don't give gifts easily, so that the other party will not only be grateful, but also suspect that you have other plans. When you don't know what gift to give, you can send flowers. Flowers are always suitable when visiting guests or attending banquets. Perfume and whisky are also very popular.

You can't stay in the hotel at any time.

The check-in time of the hotel is usually 14:00 pm, and the check-out time is before noon 12:00 pm, and there is an extra charge for overtime. Hotels generally do not provide toothpaste, toothbrushes, combs, slippers, razors and other personal items. Please bring your own things. If you really forget it, you can check with the hotel front desk, and some hotel front desks can provide it for free. Tap water in the United States can be drunk directly, but hot water in the tap can't be drunk. All American hotels have no hot water supply. If you like to drink hot tea, you can bring your own hot cup.

7. Don't take the subway at night

The subway in new york is extremely messy and becomes a gathering place for criminals at night. Drug addicts, hooligans and drug dealers gathered here, and the atmosphere was chilling. If you don't care about this, the police in new york will not sympathize with you after the accident, and may even blame you: "Taking the subway at night is equivalent to swimming in the water where crocodiles gather. If something goes wrong, the responsibility lies with you.

8. Don't take off your shoes in front of others

In America, if you take off your shoes or go barefoot in front of others, you will be considered a rude savage. Only in the bedroom, or between men and women in love, can you take off your shoes. If women take off their shoes in front of men, it means "you can do whatever you want"; Men who take off their shoes will be despised as barefoot natives in the jungle. It is impolite for both men and women to pull down their socks and garters in front of others. If your shoelaces are loose, you should go to a place where no one is there to tie them.

9. You can't just say you're sorry.

I'm sorry and Excuse me both mean "I'm sorry" and "I'm sorry", but I'm sorry is very strong, which means I admit my mistake or mistake. If you say it easily for the sake of politeness, you will often be caught by the other party and investigated for responsibilities that do not actually belong to you. At that time, there will only be "dumb people eating coptis", because the sentence "I'm sorry" has admitted that I was wrong. How can I change my mind?

10. Women can't drink alone

Women are not allowed to drink alone. If they drink alone or several women get together, they are considered as "women waiting for men". Women who are not familiar with this situation may be harassed by offering their own men.