Yifan is studying in Beijing and often complains to me that Beijing is not good. ? Really don't like big cities? She said. I asked her where she had been, and she said that she mainly stayed in Changping and occasionally went shopping in Wangfujing.

　? Have you ever been to an art gallery to see an exhibition of paintings? Have you seen a few dramas of people's arts? What about lectures on the national map? Have you ever heard of rock and roll in Houhai? Do you know that there is a quiet and wide road full of persimmon trees in Chaoyang Embassy District?

　? Not interested. There are fewer people in Changping, but the air in the urban area is worse and the traffic is more blocked. ?

　? Then how do you know that you don't like big cities? You don't even know what big cities are. ?

I find that people always confuse living in a big city with staying in a big city.

This phenomenon is particularly obvious in the third-tier city in my hometown. Like Yifan, young people went to universities in big cities for several years, or were sent to Beijing, Shanghai and other places for several years on business. Go home and say with compassion that the air in Beijing is bad, the people in Shanghai are indifferent, the food in Guangzhou is poor, and the rent in Shenzhen is high? In a word, big cities are not interesting at all. The third-tier town in our hometown is the center of the universe.

But when you try to sketch his life track in a big city, you will be surprised to find that the most crowded place they have been to is the railway station, and the most familiar route is from the railway station and the airport to their own residence. The yardstick for evaluating the catering level of a city is the small restaurant of Lao Wang's family at the gate of the school or community.

In fact, they have never left their hometown. They just changed their geographical coordinates to live in their hometown.

They have absorbed enough smog and crowded enough subways in big cities, but they have not enjoyed the charming humanistic atmosphere, convenient public service system and open interpersonal atmosphere in big cities.

under the pretext that small cities are better, they indulge themselves that even if they stay in big cities for many years, they refuse to integrate into the four seasons and time there, and live while complaining, but their hometown has become a foreign land instead of their hometown.

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I came to Wuhan to study at the age of 2118 for at least three years, and I think this city is particularly bad. From the weather in Wuhan to the temper of Wuhan people, I can talk about this city for three days and nights.

One of my high school classmates studied in another university in Wuhan and formed a band of their own. The band often goes to various universities and business districts to perform. He always says that Wuhan is good, and this fundamental difference even hinders the further development of our relationship.

in his junior year, he went to a concert to do a part-time job and opened a small back door for me to get in. I watched the first concert in my life. When the young heart is stirring with the drums, the region, identity, appearance and figure are not important. Everyone is holding a passion and rhythmic with this hot city.

After the concert, I saw Luoyu Road at 11 pm for the first time.

I try to fall in love with this city. Go to the library to listen to lectures, explore interesting shops and meet travelers, hip-hop stars, writers and opera artists? Every morning and night in this city, renewal and farewell are no longer irrelevant to me.

I gradually understand that the bigger the city, the more open-minded it is to grow and change. It's not that the city welcomes you with open arms, but that you embrace it with enthusiasm.

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Later, I lived in Shenzhen for some time. Prices here are high and human feelings are indifferent, but people here love to queue up, and their colleagues have the simplest relationship, and there is the best public library in China. At the Design Biennale and Cultural Fair, you can see the top-notch arts and crafts in the world.

I have been in Shenzhen for several years, and the most visited places are the Book City and the exhibition.

There is also a stranger around me. When I told them that there was a robot that could grow carrots at the exhibition, they didn't even turn their eyes and said: What does that have to do with me? They used this sentence to build a thick wall between themselves and the city.

yes, what does it matter? It can't make you get a promotion and a raise, nor can it make you buy a house, but it will make you feel happy when you are born.

When you wake up every day, you only see the walls of a small room and the take-away food from Lao Wang's restaurant, which is essentially different from when you wake up every day, looking for a robot that can grow carrots, watching a wonderful painting and listening to an advanced lecture.

and this difference has nothing to do with where you come from, how much you earn, and how beautiful or ugly you look. The improvement of the quality of life brought about by the public construction in big cities originally belonged to your human rights, but you didn't cherish it.

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when there are only stops and retreats in your life, there is no difference between a big city and a small city. However, when you want to step forward, the size of the city determines how far you can go, how many friends and mentors you find, and how many applauding people will appear around you.

The charm of a big city lies not only in more opportunities for trendy thinking and struggle, but also in the fact that it first captures the pulse of science and technology, artistic fashion and creative aesthetics. Here are gathered the bravest and most creative young people and well-informed and intelligent middle-aged people.

if the waves of fate have sent you to a big city, or you are struggling whether to go to a big city while you are young, what is my advice to you?

Young people are always right, and big cities are always good. Because of the head aggregation effect, big cities must have concentrated the best resources and the best talents. You should try to stand on the shoulders of this giant and don't dislike it because it farted.

make friends with local people. In big cities, don't just mix in the circle of outsiders; Go abroad, don't stay in the Chinese community. Every step you take is to see the world. It's too late. Get on the boat.

feed your curiosity. The value of a big city is that it can satisfy your infinite curiosity, and the original intention of successful people I have met is often not a strong desire for wealth, but a strong curiosity.

let go of useless self-esteem. Your anger and disgust at big cities are essentially anger at your incompetence. When you are injured in a big city, you think of the goodness of a small city, but self-esteem based on low energy will only make you more and more closed.

Every young man in a big city hopes that you will live, struggle, love and change here. In the end, you have the right to choose to return to the small town. But I hope you can proudly say that I have lived in a big city and I know what is good there, not that I have stayed in a big city and nothing is good there.

the former is called seclusion, while the latter is ignorance.