Social Etiquette for College Students

In our life, social etiquette has become an indispensable part of us, and mastering good social etiquette knowledge is a necessary paving stone for our success.

let's talk about personal etiquette first.

First, grooming and clothing

Grooming means that a lady should not be too gorgeous and dazzling. If she goes to the interview like this, I think the chances are running out. Because you are here to work, be solemn and don't give people a floating feeling. I don't think it's a good idea not to wear makeup. At the very least, I should wear some light makeup, which is also a way to respect others. Think about whether dressing up neatly makes others look comfortable! Do you think if an old farmer and a man in a suit and tie come to negotiate with you, do you want to choose that man in a suit and tie?

During the interview, some people said, "Isn't it just that you put on new clothes from the inside out and dress neatly on that day, and then go to the hair salon to have your hair trimmed?" In fact, it is wrong to do so. First, people will know at a glance that you have prepared in advance. Sometimes the hair gel that Lian Gang put on is still on your head, and you will know at a glance that you just came out of the hair salon. Second, because you just put on new clothes and everything is new, you will feel very uncomfortable, so you'd better put them on one or two days in advance to get used to it. That is to say, one or two days in advance to prepare for the interview.

You should bring more resumes with you during the interview, because you have already booked a dozen for the interviewer. He needs to look at your resume and rummage through it before he can find it. At this time, you should take out your resume that you have prepared in advance and give it to him. He will feel very comfortable. After the interview, you should write a thank-you letter to the interviewer. Although many people generally don't write it now, it is etiquette. I still hope that everyone will write it. If you don't think others will write it, will it attract attention if you write it? When interviewing or meeting, you should bring a notebook with delicate leather and a good pen. Don't just find a notebook or pen.

Go half an hour before the interview. Get familiar with their front desk. The front desk is a key person. Ask for more information about the supervisor who will interview you. Such as address, etc. Once, a Ms. Wang received a phone call and said, Hello, I'm Wang Hao from xx Company. Please come to our company for an interview at 9: 11 tomorrow. The next day, he arrived at 8: 31, and chatted with the attendant at the front desk for a while. The attendant made a phone call and said, "Mr. Wang, Miss Wang has arrived." Then she realized that it was Mr. Wang who called her! Before that, she regarded this man as a nobody. Because what people usually call is what little people or employees do. So when she went in for an interview, she said hello! Manager Wang. Imagine if she said, Hello, Wang Hao! What does Mr. Wang think? "Mr. Wang" has been called for several years, and he is used to it. Can he get used to calling him Wang Hao suddenly?

second, introduce yourself.

should be prepared: in less important occasions. For example, on the train and other occasions, just say your name, and you don't have to report your position.

working style: hello, I'm the manager of xx company.

communication: hello, I'm xx, please take care of me or send me a business card. More casual.

Etiquette: such as opening ceremony, flag-raising ceremony and so on. More solemn.

3. Eyes

Time: When talking with others for 31 minutes, if the other person looks at you for only 11 minutes, it means that he is belittling you. If it is between 11 minutes and 21 minutes, it means that he is friendly to you. 21 minutes to 31 minutes to explain two situations: First, pay attention. Second, hostility. That is, when talking with others, eyes should be fixed on 2/3 of the conversation time.

position: on the forehead, it belongs to official gaze. Less important things and time is not too long.

in the eyes, it belongs to attention gaze.

eyes to lips belong to social gaze.

from the eyes to the chest, it is an intimate gaze.

Angle: Head-up, which means equality. Squint, indicating rudeness.

look down: look down from above and despise others.

Fourth, the face

Sometimes frown, indicating that you are not willing. Pursed lips indicate anger. "Oh"? Show surprise!

5. Smile

Learn to smile. Smiling is very important. Who likes to face someone who smiles coldly every day? Like the staff of savings offices and banks, when you go to withdraw money, are they cold and have no smile at all? Like someone owes them something, it doesn't feel good. In fact, it's their occupational disease and they are used to it. Let me tell you a story:

Once upon a time, a company asked its employees to get an important material, but all of them were scolded. The boss gave this task to Xiao Li, who was very worried! But it's not enough not to take this material, so I went anyway. By then, I saw that the section chief was still swearing. At this moment, Xiao Li said nothing, but smiled, smiled or smiled, saying, "Oh? So? Really? " , just nodded and smiled. Later, when Wu Kechang scolded for a while, Xiao Li said, "Wu Kechang, you are good at expressing your inner anger!" . Later, section chief Wu looked at Xiao Li and said, "Well! This young man is good! I won't embarrass you, just take it back! " In this way, he got what others didn't get.

6. Body language that needs to be avoided.

When talking with others, don't cross your hands, shake your body, lean to the left for a while, lean to the right for a while, or touch your hair, ears and nose to give people the feeling of impatience. While talking, I am playing with my pen. Some people especially like to spin pens, as if to show off. Look how cool I am spinning! And don't press that pen back and forth. Although it is ok to talk with peers, it is impolite to do so when talking to elders.

Let's talk about the basic etiquette of visiting

Most Chinese people are hospitable. It's a pleasure to have friends coming from afar. For visitors, whether they are scheduled, the first thing is the basic etiquette of visiting guests.

There are different situations when you are a guest: visiting for the first time, visiting old friends, being invited to an appointment, asking for help, etc., so the etiquette is slightly different. However, in any case, as a guest, you should be considerate of the host, and the guest will be at home, which will bring less inconvenience to the host, so there are some roughly the same etiquette to follow. (1) Pay attention to the choice of time. Generally speaking, when visiting someone, you should choose a good time in advance. It is not advisable to choose a busy or three-meal time, and it should not be too late at night. Holidays and weekends are good times to visit, but if you don't have an appointment, don't go there rashly. The host often has other plans at these times. It is most polite to make an appointment in advance. Try not to be an uninvited guest and come uninvited. For scheduled visits, both the host and the guest should be punctual, keep their appointments and keep their promises. Guests should arrive on time or a little earlier. If they can't keep the appointment due to special circumstances, they should try to inform each other. It is extremely impolite to cancel the appointment silently. (2) Pay attention to the choice of clothes. A general visit, neat, simple and generous, need not be too gorgeous. Being unkempt and disheveled is disrespectful to the host. To celebrate the happy event, we must pay attention to it. (3) Knock on the door or ring the doorbell when entering the door. Knocking on the door should have a sense of rhythm, not light or heavy, not urgent or slow, and it is advisable to knock two or three times. Don't break into a door that is left unlocked or open. It's rude to give the host a surprise. It's best to wait for the person who wants to visit before taking a seat after entering the room. If you need to wait for a long time, you can sit down and talk to the receptionist or read some books such as newspapers, magazines and magazines. The person who wants to visit should stand up and greet after coming. No matter how urgent the matter is and the visit time is tight, you can only greet each other at the door, don't talk about the topic, and talk about it after entering the room, otherwise it will leave an immature impression on the other party. Those who want to wear slippers should change at the door, and they should say hello to their families. It is impolite not to say hello. (4) Thank the host for his warm hospitality. When the host offers tea, candy and other snacks, he should get up or lean over to take them and say "thank you". If he offers cigarettes, he should politely decline. (5) In the process of conversation, we should pay attention to the etiquette and skills of conversation, keep the conversation brief, and say less negative and boring words. Be good at listening, respond positively, and don't interrupt others' conversation at will. Guests should not look around in their host's house. Don't just walk into the master's bedroom unless the master invites you. (6) Grasp the best time to leave. General visit, the time should not be too long, nor should it be too hasty. Generally, half an hour to an hour is appropriate. If it is a business or official visit, the length of time can be decided as needed. It's better for guests to leave after the climax of a conversation with the host, or when new guests come, if the host feels tired or has family members to remind him of something urgent to do during the conversation, it's more appropriate to leave at the right time. When you leave, you should thank your host and family for their hospitality. If the host family has elders, you should leave them. To sum up, as a guest, the basic etiquette should be summarized as follows: make an appointment in advance and don't be an uninvited guest; Arrive as scheduled and don't be a guest who stands me up; Be polite and don't be a bold guest; Dress neatly and don't be a sloppy guest; Be dignified and polite, and don't be a vulgar guest; Leave at the right time and don't be a difficult guest.

There are still many things we need to learn about social etiquette, and we should constantly improve ourselves and enrich ourselves. On the etiquette cultivation of college students

Abstract: China has always had the reputation of "a country of etiquette" since ancient times. Today, Dali advocates that society should pay attention to spiritual civilization. It is necessary for every citizen to pay attention to civilization,

etiquette and politeness. This paper focuses on the importance of etiquette cultivation of contemporary college students < P > and the etiquette status of contemporary college students.

Keywords: etiquette and courtesy of college students

China is an ancient civilization with a long history and is known as the "country of etiquette". It is a fine tradition handed down from generation to generation by the Chinese nation to talk about "ceremony" and understand "manners". The long-standing etiquette culture is a rich legacy left by our predecessors. With the progress of the times and the increasingly frequent and close interpersonal communication, etiquette as a lubricant of communication is becoming more and more important. In today's society towards a well-off society in an all-round way, advocating etiquette is the basic requirement of society for its members, and it is also the spiritual requirement of social members. Paying attention to etiquette plays an important role in promoting social progress and improving civilization.

Paying attention to etiquette and obeying etiquette norms can effectively show a person's education, demeanor and charm, and better reflect a person's cognitive level and respect for others and society, so that personal knowledge, cultivation and value can be recognized and respected by society. Moderate and appropriate etiquette can not only give the public the trust and desire of being amiable, respectable, cooperative and communicative, but also make the process of cooperation with the public full of harmony and success.

A student who knows the book but doesn't honor the etiquette, and whose knowledge level and moral level are seriously out of harmony, can't become an excellent talent. An excellent talent should not only have high-level professional knowledge, but also have good moral quality and etiquette. Etiquette is the expression of good moral cultivation, and it is also one of the important ways to cultivate good moral quality, which needs to be reflected in a polite way. Although the research and education of etiquette has developed in China, especially the combination of occupation and etiquette has become the general trend. However, etiquette education has not attracted enough attention in colleges and universities, and most colleges and universities have not yet set up etiquette courses.

College students are a group with a higher level of knowledge. In today's China society, they are already intellectuals, and they are also the leaders and pillars of China's future development. In terms of moral standards, they should put forward higher requirements in etiquette cultivation. The pursuit of individuality is the characteristic of contemporary young people. In the process of pursuing outstanding individuality, some college students regard ugliness as individuality. Many uncivilized, impolite, even ugly, trite and vulgar things are regarded as "trendy" and "chic". In today's university campus, you can often see disheveled people, misbehaving people, swearing people and spitting people. Other phenomena are not uncommon, such as thundering when closing the door, never introducing yourself on the phone, no longer polite to teachers and walking with lunch boxes. These bad phenomena are no longer individual, and they are becoming more and more common.

The reasons for the low etiquette quality of some college students are as follows:

The first point: the side effects of exam-oriented education in middle school. At this level, parents, teachers and even the whole education system have unshirkable responsibilities. The magic of the command of the college entrance examination makes the education of primary and secondary schools focus on "scores" and "exams", and moral education and aesthetic education have long been neglected. Students regard scores as the "life root", teachers regard scores as the "magic weapon", and parents only look at students' grades, not caring about the all-round development of students' psychology and character. This kind of measuring students' merits only by the ranking of their academic achievements determines that they only work hard on teaching and spend little time and energy on shaping children's souls. It seems that the education system needs to invest heavily, constantly learn from the reasonable components of the education system in ancient and modern China and abroad, and constantly improve an education system that can adapt to the development of the times.

second point: social transformation. When the society is in a state of chaos at the beginning of the transformation of value, ethics, morality and ideas are all in a state of chaos. As a part of society, it is also difficult for college students to "emerge from the mud without being stained, and be clear without being demon". The university town is no longer a pure land like Eden. As a typical sub-cultural circle, university town is bound to be influenced and eroded by social culture. In the society of commercialization and coal transmission, the ivory tower that does not eat human fireworks has long since ceased to exist. Contemporary China is facing a similar social and cultural background. College students in China are going through a painful "weaning" process. How to judge truth, goodness and beauty is theirs and they are eager to make up for it.

the third point: the influence of bad social atmosphere. As far as college students are concerned, there are many unhealthy tendencies, such as the proliferation of "desk literature" and "toilet literature", the books in the library are scribbled, some university professors are exposed to plagiarizing other people's academic papers, some teachers are perfunctory in class in order to earn income, and there are also murders, pornography, bribery, corruption and deception in society ... < P > Therefore, college students should learn the essence of traditional culture and improve their cultural ethics.

Actually, I wonder if universities have ever thought: When you talk to people in polite language in social communication; Communicate with people in a civilized manner; Communicate with people with proper documents, and people will certainly feel your polite bearing, natural and graceful temperament, and civilized and moral cultivation, and you will pay some respect in your life. Elegant and reasonable speech, cordial overall appearance, will make people feel a warm spring breeze blowing a warm and full of enthusiasm.

Etiquette runs through interpersonal communication and serves the connotation of communication; Ignoring etiquette will inevitably affect the depth of communication and the durability of communication. Whether the lack of etiquette affects communication is because of small loss. Not only do we communicate with foreign countries, but we college students should also pay attention to etiquette and form habits in our daily life, which will naturally become a kind of cultivation and help improve our taste.

China is known all over the world as "an ancient civilization and a country of etiquette", and it is the Chinese nation to emphasize "ceremony" and "ceremony".